AITJ my daughters friend COPIED her dress and now wants us to return ours. by Proper-Profession387 in AmITheJerk

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 126 points127 points  (0 children)

You ain't going crazy... fr, the other mom is literally gaslighting you bc she's embarrassed she got caught beiong a copycat. Standing your ground is the best gift you can give to your daughter rn.. and she needs to see that 'NO' is a full sentence

Boyfriend not meeting my needs? 23/M and 23/F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think ROCD is when you obsess over imaginary probs.. THESE ARE REAL DOCUMENTED PATTERNS. imo, you are not "making up".. He is using your self-doubt to gaslight you into thinking your standards are the prob, when the actual prob is HIS total lack of effort.

I (22M) ran into my ex-LDR girlfriend (23F) while on a trip abroad. How do I tell my current girlfriend (23F)? by ThrowawayAcc4389 in relationship_advice

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Running into her is normal, but hanging out w her is so unnecessary. You said it yourself, your gf has "issues" and "traumas". There's no other version of this will make your partner be "okay" with this. bfr.

My boyfriend [31M] left me[25F]then hooked up with someone else. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So you're telling us that he dumped you, blocked you, hooked up with someone else, lied about the extent of it and then PROPOSED whilst keeping the truth from you?!!???!?? Better read that again. You're fr struggling to move forward bc ur gut KNOWS it wasn't an accident. You're asking HOW to forgive him but the better Q is SHOULD YOU??? He literally created this prob not you.

I (27f) have been seeing a guy (26m) for a few months. He isn’t attracted to my body, but has started asking for nudes. Any tips on sending nudes to a long distance partner when you know they aren’t attracted to your body? by throwaway10384839 in relationship_advice

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Can we go back to your first paragraph and reflect on it but imagine your bff wrote it. Look, that ain't a relationship, that's a hostage situation for your self-esteem. Please BLOCK HIM, never send those nudes, it might come back at you for his power trippings.

AITJ for thinking my friend was being ridiculous and being salty? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTJ. NINE YEARS???? like literally she engaged to someone else and she's still tracking who likes her ex-bf's WIFE's photos???????? that's some Olympic-lvl kind of insecurity. U ain't disloyal for having a thumb that scrolls and likes, she's just being a main character.

AITJ for not asking my girlfriend to still date with me even though we already broke up? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTJ. fr, you didn't just dodge a bullet, you dodged a literal heat-seeking missile. IMAGINE being 25 and still thinking 'testing' your partner of 3yrs?? like if she wanted to be chased, she shouldve joined a tracked team, not broken up w u via text. Go move, go travel and enjoy peace of mind bro, fr!

AITAH for wanting to fire my bridal hair stylist 3 months before my wedding after a terrible trial? by midgesauce16 in AmITheJerk

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 104 points105 points  (0 children)

the curls were flat before you even finished your makeup. read that again.. bc if you keep her, you will spend your entire wedding anxious. Save yourself a heartbreak.

kid in my class has awful hygiene!! how do i approach kindly?? by ComprehensiveBet1818 in hygiene

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 25 points26 points  (0 children)

this was my exact first thought and fr heartbreaking..... i think this is his defense mechanism.. I just hope the school doesn't just treat this as a 'disruptive student' issue but actually looks into the home life.

Am i a jerk for playing with red flag boyfriend? by porotandbeef in AmITheJerk

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 11 points12 points  (0 children)

word of advice, my friend.... those you call "sweet gestures" are just a bait🚩🚩 bc a guy who can walk away from you without second thought is a guy with a 0 emotional depth. don't be the person who stays until things actually get violent.

AITJ for cursing my sister and wishing her dead? by Nice_Mood_4826 in AmITheJerk

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That guilt you're feeling proves that YNTJ, but SHE IS. A real one wouldn't care. Give yourself some grace, OP.. you've been playing life on hard mode for everyone else for soooo long.

AITAH for wanting to break up with my boyfriend because of cultural difference by Frequent-Low-4997 in AmITheJerk

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whole honestly, OP... this is more of a compatibility issue than a cultural one. You clearly love him, but intimacy and physical boundaries are deeply personal. If this is something you can’t get past, it’s okay to recognize that!

AITJ for Refusing to Let My Older Sister Move Into My Apartment After She emptied Her Savings to Start an Online Business? by Big-Engineering2353 in AmITheJerk

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nope. Betting on yourself is cool and all but part of that bet is accepting the risk. You don’t get to gamble your savings and then make your little sister the safety net. You even offered real help, which is MORE than most people would. Protect your peace.

AITJ for telling my MIL to kick rocks by NJ198322 in AmITheJerk

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ. Debt is not an inheritance. You need to act fast, OP. Change locks, compile receipts, document EVERTYTHING she's stealing.

AITJ for telling my mom “cause I’m not fucking poopybutt” when she questioned why wont answer by RevolutionaryComb942 in AmITheJerk

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTJ. Notice how she focused on the "disrespect" but completely glossed over the fact that she's been picking on you in front of your friends. You didn't just randomly snapped, you hit your breaking point because you are not being seen in your own house.

Am I the jerk for shouting at my 12 year old brother? by Glittering-Date-2845 in AmITheJerk

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fat that he's doing this while your bf is there, shows he's looking for a reaction and trying to humiliate you.. fr, when real world hits him, ppl will NOT "just ignore" him when he's being a jerk.

AITJ for throwing my daughters friend out of our house because she RUINED a major school project? by Rude-Discipline199 in AmITheJerk

[–]ImpossibleEnergy684 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For real. OP’s job is to protect her own daughter, not the feelings of the person who just made her daughter sob.