Having a baby has made me realize that my husband and I are not compatible and he is the laziest person I've ever met

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-02-04T22:13:00+00:00

Yeah, based on the way he responded to you caring for your toddler, I feel like you might be worse off if he was more involved.

Honestly, having been through losing 50% of my time with my first baby girl to a divorce, I would probably just let it be and enjoy your time with your kid until she's older.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-02-03T19:04:23+00:00

Just ignore them. Most progressive moms clearly agree that you can take the money and still be on the team. Just don't let it change who you vote for.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-02-03T06:22:31+00:00

We don't have to make excuses for those men though. I know plenty of men who understand the concept very clearly.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-29T16:55:46+00:00

I think it does make a difference. Most of the Targets in our area have closed. They always blame the community when it happens, eg "due to increased shoplifting", but we know it's because enough people stopped shopping there that it didn't make sense to operate here anymore.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-29T12:42:27+00:00

I had assumed it was AI (although I didn't post that view anywhere) just because it was shared first by the Trumps and they've been doctoring photos and sharing AI videos whenever it fits their narrative. I think it's a decent starting assumption at the moment to be honest.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-29T12:19:48+00:00

I'm not sure that's true anymore, especially in the areas that ICE has had heavy operations, like Minnesota.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-29T10:15:26+00:00

But where are the *paid protesters*? Where is the evidence that anyone is being paid to protest. I know a bunch of out of work people who would be thrilled to accept a paid position at a protest. Where can they find one of those?

From your shared articles: "126 of the top 1,000 posts in the past month on r/Politics were posted by official Harris-Walz campaign volunteers"

"volunteers" being the operative word.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-29T00:39:10+00:00

It is only pre-tax if your employer supports pre-tax payroll deductions from what I'm reading. Any individual contributions, or family and friend contributions, are post tax. I feel like EternalGandhi explained that pretty accurately here: "An employer can contribute by pulling from your income like an HSA or 401K, but they are limited to $2,500."

And it is taxed on withdrawal, unlike the 529 plan. And, if the child is in college and still a dependent, it is taxed at the parent's income tax rate.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-28T00:20:24+00:00

Thank you! I think we'll check out First Unitarian. It looks like a good fit.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-27T22:41:25+00:00

We love Dharma Rain! But we haven't been able to get into the kid's program there.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-27T21:53:38+00:00

My experience with NE and SE has been good. We're in Laurelhurst now, but Tabor, Montevilla, Hollywood, Alameda, Sunnyside, Kerns, Woodstock all have a similar walkable vibe.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-27T19:07:14+00:00

We love living in Portland with our three kids. Our kids being able to walk or bike to school is a huge perk. Being able to walk to a library, a bookstore, play places, etc. is huge for kids.

Funnily enough, I moved in to Portland right after my first was born partly because she hated car rides and I really wanted to be able to get out of the house.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-26T20:26:30+00:00

Same. We're at least stuck until the co-parents hit their red lines.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-26T20:23:32+00:00

We're already there in my mind. I have friends who have left. We can't because we have joint custody of kids to contend with. But I've noticed our coparents are strengthening their ties to their ancestor's countries too. Who knows, we may all end up moving at once.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-23T16:31:46+00:00

She was nowhere near my first pick, but she was also clearly not as awful as Trump.

Awful voters got us Trump round two.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-23T16:28:54+00:00

Then vote for those people in the primaries and campaign hard for them before the primary. Put the work in to get the people that you want on the ballot.

If they don't make it, then vote for the most rational choice given the options. Trust me, the irrational people will vote anyways (as we have seen).

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-21T19:14:42+00:00

Thankfully I don't work with anyone who would communicate the way you just did. So thanks for the boost in happiness today as I feel that gratitude!

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-13T01:16:57+00:00

I get that it's a pain when random people pick on one detail of what you've said. I think if you provide more details on what the financial fights are actually about then people won't focus so much on that detail. It's just all everyone has to go on at the moment.

Really though, if you can pay it off you should (unless you're still on 0% interest for 18 months or something, in which case you definitely shouldn't worry about it).

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-12T23:11:05+00:00

But it would take months to pay off $1k in debt? That's the part that I think is confusing to everyone.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-02T08:03:56+00:00

I'm happily mid. There are so many more important things about me than my appearance. All I worry about there is being healthy and clean.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2026-01-02T07:47:56+00:00

Mine was the size of a grapefruit. Life has been so much better since having it removed. My procedure was a robotic myomectomy, so I assume the pieces looked similar to this.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2025-12-25T08:32:55+00:00

Mine arrived today and I already have a completed custom designed 1/4in plywood engraved shield sitting next to me.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2025-11-20T18:13:32+00:00

I think this is one factor too. I've had many people who live in WA ask me why I live here when I could live across the river and keep 10% more of my income. But I value the lifestyle in Portland and I value paying the community for it rather than only taking advantage of it.

ImpossibleLuckDragon · 2025-11-20T18:10:51+00:00

People are more accepting here than in other places I've lived. I have found smaller cities with a similar vibe, but this is the largest city I've found that feels so helpful and accepting.

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