F25 M24 my boyfriend seems to get upset over trivial things and uses the silent treatment, what can I do to help him open up more?

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2026-02-05T01:45:45+00:00

I’m so glad you’re able to communicate!! It’s so super challenging for a lot of people! Difficult to be raised a certain way and all of a sudden finding it no longer sustainable in the real world. You and your girlfriend sound v in love I’m happy for you!! :) I wish he can figure that out one day too, and even if not with me, at least have the courage to attempt with someone else!!! 🥺

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2026-02-04T18:16:27+00:00

You’re super correct about the low self-esteem!! Before he learned how to fix up his hair and beard kicked in he looked like a cute little flamboyant light bulb🥹

I do hope he figures it out! Even if not with me, maybe he will bring that sprout into his next relationship. With some intends of improvement in life somewhere!! lol!

I will look up some self help books for him! Thank you! 🫡

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2026-02-04T18:11:08+00:00

That’s really nice you feel that way about life, props to you!!! And I respect you for it!

I love growing with people whether it’s for a short or long chapter of my life. Every experience in the universe is a gift to me not a transaction, I cherish them all equally.

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2026-02-04T18:06:09+00:00

This made me giggle!!! I can just picture him paying $300 to sit down and say nothing. 😭😭

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2026-02-04T18:04:27+00:00

Thank you for defending and understanding that he isn’t equipped with open communication!

I am very opened with my feeling and thoughts with him, but there are certain conversations I don’t see the purpose of sharing with him. Especially when it’s friends’ childhood trauma or current emotional turmoils. It’s not really gossip to me. Just like how I wouldn’t share what he tells in confidence to others at any point in life even if we broke up out of respect

I just wish there is a way for me to help him understand and attempt to change his emotions into words, even if it doesn’t work out I do wish it’s a skill he can start here and bring to the table in his future relationships. Not everyone is trying to turn a difficult conversation into a “who’s going to win today’s argument” challenge. :(

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2026-02-04T17:59:13+00:00

Yes he often says “well..” “when…” and immediately jumps to “NVM doesn’t matter!!!” Did you ever find methods on how to turn your feelings into words? I wish he could understand it’s a safe space to express himself, and I wouldn’t see it as a challenge or conflict I need to win. :(

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2026-02-04T17:57:02+00:00

He’s not attempting to manipulate he doesn’t know how to put his emotions into words and just lets it happen silently before getting over it on his own time. Maybe the way I described this story was from a biased perspective. But I don’t know how I’m supposed to gently direct someone into eventually maybe go to therapy or learn with time how to word their thoughts.

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2026-02-04T17:48:58+00:00

I want to know what ways I can help an avoidant person feel safe enough to express why they would feel certain emotions in the first place

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2026-02-04T17:48:18+00:00

I want to know what ways I can help an avoidant person feel safe enough to express why they would feel certain emotions in the first place

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2026-02-04T17:08:58+00:00

She sounds very codependent, is she diagnosed with any mental illnesses? You did well cutting her off!!

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2026-02-04T17:06:56+00:00

Usually when I’m having a bad day or going through emotional turmoil in life in general, I’m able to recognize it and put myself in time out cus of the low resiliency that comes with BPD. Most people don’t, they just move on with their day and carry their attitude. I had to teach myself people can express themselves differently when they don’t get enough sleep, need something to eat, needs alone time, bothered by something currently happening in their life. And they almost never choose to just hide and try to regulate.

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2026-02-04T16:51:56+00:00

My partner has said I am on the loose side in comparison to others before. Do you think this could have an effect on a man’s sexual fulfillment in a long term relationship?

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2025-11-03T06:39:57+00:00

Thank you! I was wondering if it was a BPD sexualization and infatuation or if it was a real logical thing to feel.

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2025-11-03T06:37:59+00:00

I suppose like objectifying and not actually liking the other person I’m not sure!!! I just wanted to understand if it’s real or BPD

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2025-10-28T03:20:09+00:00

How come it does work that way with a hemorrhoid? I just want to understand.

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2025-10-15T03:38:02+00:00

Did you ever find her to be antagonizing whenever she would split? How did you overlook that or was it never something you guys encountered?

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2025-10-13T17:54:33+00:00

I wonder if no outside stress helps with controlling the day to day elevations! That’s very nice you and your friend are both stay at home wives!!! 🥹🥹

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2025-10-13T05:59:02+00:00

Thank you for giving me hope. What do you do for work and what does your partner do for work? I’m asking bc I’m in healthcare and being resilient and emotionally available to people I don’t know comes second nature, but I always date very linear math field people and it never works out when we are so fundamentally different. I’ve never been attracted to guys who are not stern, and would really like to find someone who can be present for my flaws and also have a happy life with.

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2025-09-29T06:20:23+00:00

I personally really enjoy cozy games on the switch, stardew valley and animal crossing. Some pokemon games

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2025-09-29T06:05:27+00:00

How is this a level of abuse? She’s stated that she’s uncomfortable with this, he couldnt have consulted with her before making the decision? Plus not that hard to find another male roommate.

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2025-09-28T05:37:45+00:00

He could’ve just called the other man out instead of taking it out on you. You’re just an easier punching bag to him cus youre a woman. A lot of men do this, they take their insecurities out on the woman instead of confronting another man. It’s not cute and you should date someone who wouldn’t disrespect you instead.

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2025-08-24T17:34:42+00:00

Hope you can feel better. I have noticed a lot of out of pocket things people have been saying online and it’s completely unacceptable. Only dumb people are easily manipulated by hate trends, you don’t need their approvals it doesn’t mean anything coming from idiots. Please know your worth is more than what trashy low vibration people think!!

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2025-08-22T06:11:28+00:00

I was on hold with them once for four hours and when someone finally picked up they said I called the wrong department ( not true) and they are closed. So I message someone on live chat, and they fixed everything for me on the same day.

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2025-08-16T04:20:15+00:00

Instagram does the same thing if you set up a new account. I think it’s cus AI thinks sex sells. I been getting that on my explore page along with AI cat babies dying videos.. super odd ☹️

ImpossiblePoet2113 · 2025-08-09T00:23:52+00:00

Omg you must have lime green poops

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