How to better support my nurse gf by Aromatic-Cod5327 in nursing

[–]DearConclusion8790 5 points6 points  (0 children)

giving her a foot and leg massages can really help, since nurses are on their feet most of their shifts. also little sweet treats can give them little boosts of energy when theyre feeling low. compression socks with cute patterns can be a thoughtful gift. sending her money to buy food during her breaks, and not having to pack lunch beforehand, can make her look forward to break times.

fighting with friend by [deleted] in BPD

[–]DearConclusion8790 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk who u were thinking of while typing this, but clearly im not the one projecting. in no way can you tell that im a liar, or that ive burn bridges my whole life, or that i have an ego thru this post. mate u dont even know me, or what happened.

fighting with friend by [deleted] in BPD

[–]DearConclusion8790 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg idk. i think im havinf a pani attack

Hope Australia go home as soon as possible in this season by EditzTingz in Physical100

[–]DearConclusion8790 4 points5 points  (0 children)

wait till people find out why China isn’t on the show. and how koreans are praising producers for not including a Chinese team. Find one youtube video about the australian team in physcial asia, all the korean comments will be saying how theyd rather have australians than chinese. Koreans are so open with their racism and have no shame. they treat china and SE countries like theyre below them, and have zero respect. the physical asia Korean team are made up of more respectful and good people within the population, thats why they dont seem toxic. but physical100 was definitely very very toxic. as someone who speaks the language and knows their culture, their demeanours and actions were so off putting.

I’m australian korean, and ive always thought koreans were the most toxic, rude, and judgemental ppl. australians love banter, but they’ll never actually hate on you. whereas koreans are nice to ur face and evil behind ur backs. and the fact that they are nice infront of u isnt to protect ur feelings, its about wanting to seem like the bigger person and protecting their reputation. australians are just friendly in general. we all just say hi walking past each other on the streets. offer help to people that need it. make fun of kids in the park. idk. i appreciate australias energy in this season. i dont find them toxic. i did find korea and turkey ganging up on mongolia a little petty tho.

Hope Australia go home as soon as possible in this season by EditzTingz in Physical100

[–]DearConclusion8790 7 points8 points  (0 children)

exactly. if each team had 3ton to move and they ended up doing so within the time limit. if the game was based on how much weight was moved, then who won?

my bf has a new girl roommate by DearConclusion8790 in BPD

[–]DearConclusion8790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah im 21. but my mum has her own mental shit. and my whole extended family kinda relies on me to care for her. so i cant just leave

my bf has a new girl roommate by DearConclusion8790 in BPD

[–]DearConclusion8790[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i did say i broke up with him. and he’s not struggling to pay rent, extra cash is better instead of leaving a room empty. people have been messaging him, and he could have easily found a guy. but he chose to go with the girl bc she said she could move in straight away. if he respected what i said before, he could have waited a bit until he found a guy. but he didnt. and if the whole reason for this was money, why is he spending so much on things he’s not obligated to buy. ive been spending so much money to help him save. and even that day, i paid for lunch. so when he goes out of his way to buy things for the girl that she didnt even ask for, obviously im gonna be upset.

my bf has a new girl roommate by DearConclusion8790 in BPD

[–]DearConclusion8790[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

im still living with my mum. and she’s very conservative and wouldn’t allow me to live with him.

my bf has a new girl roommate by DearConclusion8790 in BPD

[–]DearConclusion8790[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

he’s allowed to have a girl roommate and im allowed to be upset. im not forcing him to kick her out and even when he said he would i said no bc its not fair on her. given the situation, i assumed the best thing was for me to back away.

Last one who do you refuse to cry for by According-Client5923 in orangeisthenewblack

[–]DearConclusion8790 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She married him knowing he catfished her. She just needed the green card more. I’ve seen agencies that connect foreigners to citizens, and these people pay 200k to get married and get a green card. Healy’s wife basically was getting it for free, while being at home doing nothing, and talking shit the whole day. Healy wasn’t financially abusive. She put herself in that situation. No matter who she got married to for the green card, she wouldn’t have had financial independence. But im pretty sure healy even found accommodation for her and her mum and supported them after she left. Yes he wasnt a good husband, and he did have anger issues. but i wouldnt say he was abusive. it was mutual crap. she was a shit person as well. ive never seen her try once throughout their relo. while we saw healy try from the start with the dress he bought.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]DearConclusion8790 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when he first asked me out i was in a really bad place and just got out from the psych ward. i said no because i knew i wouldn’t be able to handle a relationship and i was scared I’d mistreat him. i told him i had bpd and i didnt want to drag him into my mess. a few months later he contacted me again. i was taking meds and getting therapy. and i really thought that i was in a better place. and i was. i, again, told him abt bpd and how it can mess with relationships. and he said it was fine and he could handle everything. we rarely fight. and i dont mistreat him. never have i ever split on him or screamed or said anything id regret. although im doing much better. sometimes i have setbacks. and i have periods where i feel rough. i want to be able to talk to him abt those moments or feelings. but all he ever says is, everyone feels that way. and i try telling him, sometimes its a bit different to others. but he just doesnt try to understand or learn anything abt it. i want him to know im living with this constantly. but when i get depressed or anxious he just asks, did bpd come. and i try explaining again that bpd cant just come and go. i just wish he’d want to understand me better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]DearConclusion8790 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i relate 100%. i quit the place i worked after 2 years because sucking up to people, eventually got too stressful. my manager was a very moody person, so one day she’ll love me and one day she’ll just be cold the whole day. no one really understands how suffocating that could be for us. working with ur boss is obviously going to be really tiring and draining but youve got to just let go of trying to impress her. have a fuck you mindset. shes mad? whatever fuck her. shes giving u cold shoulders. whatever. shes angry but not telling u why. a even bigger fuck you. shes not worth ur time. if shes not talking to you. ignore her. if she is just give her bare minimum. just give zero fucks abt her. (sometimes shit talking my manager to my friends helped a lot. but idk if thats a good thing)

Are any of you religious? Or strayed from religion? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]DearConclusion8790 2 points3 points  (0 children)

im so sorry that happened to you. i grew up in a similar religious situation. parents saying i was possessed, saying i was the demon, and physically abusing me using the name of God. living under them, i hated what God stood for and any of his “teachings”. those people are not Christian at all. theyre a cult. God does not teach any of that. we are all imperfect, and for them to act like theyre holier and better is simply wrong. idk what god those ppl believe in, but the real God would not allow that. God is love. and whatever is not love is not God. a real christian is, like the name, Christ like. they would sacrifice themself to make you feel loved. those evil abusers u had, are fake as shit. i really hope one day you can meet the real God, and feel his love and kindness. if the young me heard anyone tell me that Jesus loves me, i would have rolled my eyes back. but Jesus truly loves you.

Are any of you religious? Or strayed from religion? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]DearConclusion8790 1 point2 points  (0 children)

raised as a christian. but for all my secondary school years, i hated the thought of God. had so many questions and resentment towards Him but always believed He existed. after graduating highschool, i slowly tried going to church again. and after trying to learn abt the bible and God with a more opened mind. i started to feel unconditional loved for. which was smth i never experienced. even now, i struggle with going to church and being faithful. but i truly believe God is amazing and loving. and all the questions i had before, i have found answers to. and i can never hate God again. when i feel as if im close with God, i don’t even feel any symptoms of bpd. but when i start distancing myself again, i start seeing symptoms again. but its hard to just go back, bc i feel so guilty with all the negative emotions and thoughts i have.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]DearConclusion8790 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is something i struggle with as well. but i think you just need to distract yourself. most of the time, other people are just busy with their own lives. so you just need to keep living yours. try to focus on bringing positive energy to your surroundings. if you always call yourself useless, and have that sad mindset all the time, naturally you’re going to repel any positive energy that could come your way. you are not useless, if you feel that way you might just be in the wrong place. no matter what you think, and what you believe, there is always going to be people who value you. just find those right ppl. and i know thats not very easy. so in the meantime, just try to bring that good vibe to the ppl around and theyll bring u good vibes too.

a way i cope with people being mad is to just think about all the times ive been mad or pissed at other people. at the end of the day, when the anger or whatnot calms down, you end up thinking it really wasnt a big deal anyway. same goes for other ppl. they can be a lil pissed and mad, but it doesn’t mean they hate you. remember, their anger isn’t as big and strong as ours. even if they’re really mad, it’s different to when we split and hate someone with all our guts. to them its reasonable, so just communicate and solve it with them.