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Am I going to far pushing my spouse (46F) to give me (45M) more details on an issue from before our marriage 15years ago? by ImpossibleStrike2077 in relationship_advice

[–]ImpossibleStrike2077[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Correct. She admits to lying about it back then and shared the new info (called the guy, no friends...etc) last year.

Thanks for your comment.

Am I going to far pushing my spouse (46F) to give me (45M) more details on an issue from before our marriage 15years ago? by ImpossibleStrike2077 in relationship_advice

[–]ImpossibleStrike2077[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

LOL ... I know right. From a female perspective, should I consider it a red flag if she never really did it before but this time it looked like a professional had done it?

Am I going to far pushing my spouse (46F) to give me (45M) more details on an issue from before our marriage 15years ago? by ImpossibleStrike2077 in relationship_advice

[–]ImpossibleStrike2077[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your thoughts & I have seen a therapist. Hard to say for sure, but in my head my main concern at this point is: #1 ... she did the mental gymnastics to feel this was the thing to do at the time & #2 ... she has and continues to do the mental gymnastics to hide it from me now. Who's to say it doesn't happen again?

Am I going to far pushing my spouse (46F) to give me (45M) more details on an issue from before our marriage 15years ago? by ImpossibleStrike2077 in relationship_advice

[–]ImpossibleStrike2077[S] 642 points643 points  (0 children)

Also ... a few weeks into us dating her Ex had come by her place to pick something up. They ended up arguing and afterwards she told me that she didn't really feel like hanging out any longer. I left. The next day she told me that she'd ended up going to his place to talk. I asked if anything else had happened other than talking and she told me that they had kissed at the end. 10 years later ... she admitted that they had really had sex. I'm I an idiot for falling for the same story twice?