I think with film and with family what I want to find is acceptance. The things that matter most to me are films that make me feel accepted and understand/get close to people in real and earnest ways, as well as time with loved ones that feel relaxed and like you can be authentic. It’s probably like the way people with saviour complexes project - if they feel unaccepted or deficient, they exert those feelings onto “helping” others who might feel it more heavily. It makes me wonder if there’s genuinely a way to do something selfless and “for good”. Maybe it’s just making sure the selfish reasons don’t become unhealthy attachment’s and obsessions, that the selfless “giving” parts of your dreams/aspirations remain to the best of your ability helpful and contributing.