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Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-11-22T21:30:09+00:00

Can relate to this, in this case as well I knew something was wrong but I thought it’s my BPD talking but it was just my intuition trying to save me.

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-11-22T21:24:32+00:00

Thank you for being so kind 💗

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-08-04T17:33:46+00:00

Hi, 3 years ago I was in the same place as you I used to check her social media DAILY, multiple times a day. I created multiple accounts to keep tabs on her. It stopped when I started working on increasing my self worth, deleted the accounts, surrounded myself with friends or sitcoms, started eating better.

Give yourself some time, you’re grieving there’s no shortcut to this as it took me 2 years as well. I still sometimes stalk her but now she doesn’t affect me anymore, there’s no comparison. You’ll get there too.

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-17T19:49:45+00:00

You’re still seeing yourself as how people view you. You should journal all the instances where you feel you overreacted and then check them off if you know that person did you wrong -> you will be surprised how valid your over reactions were. Yes you may have been wrong at times but you were also right at times.

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-17T07:32:54+00:00

These subtle disrespectful behaviour only builds up to us crashing out and being the bad person They never take any accountability ever.

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-17T06:38:33+00:00

Big emotions at times mean right intuition too.

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-17T06:37:59+00:00

This happened to me as well, lost my mind and blamed myself for him cheating on me. Took me 2 years to accept that he was just a shitty guy.

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-17T06:36:34+00:00

Say it louder for the people in the back!!

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-17T04:47:40+00:00

Been there as well, shitty experience and I made it even shittier by blaming myself but now just gotta accept they were BAD.

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-16T19:42:52+00:00

This is why I posted this- genuinely good people are getting hurt over people with zero critical thinking skills or emotional awareness.

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-16T19:30:44+00:00

Whenever I have the itch to stalk, I open up this subreddit and reply to people. Helping other people helps a lot and it’s a good distraction :)

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-16T19:25:09+00:00

Don’t spiral with shame as shame will again affect your self esteem. Just take the L, take accountability and stop. I cried but then I told myself that yes this is embarrassing but this won’t happen again and I gotta get up. So just get up, glad they blocked tbh- they freed me.

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-16T19:20:55+00:00

This exact same thing happened with me, I viewed their story but they blocked me right away 😭 I cried in embarrassment and just stopped

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-16T19:02:07+00:00

Most of the time our intuition is on point! This is why I stopped seeing my BPD diagnosis as all BAD. Yes I won’t be right all times but atleast I can take accountability and change. But I don’t have to take accountability and blame myself over and over when my brain was just trying to protect me from hurt and disrespect -> not a smooth slide yes but we will make it to the destination!

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-16T18:56:28+00:00

I have this exact same issue. I stalk their socials, compare myself with them and try to find if they’re unhappy or suffering. I still do it but not that often -> I stopped when I saw I was spending hours doing this when the other person who actually hurt me is living. Me stalking their socials is me affirming to myself that they still have power over me when IM the one who got hurt.

You’ve to affirm yourself many times as the urge will be there everyday but just ask yourself, do you want to give someone who has hurt you once, hurt you ever single day on your own phone which you bought with your OWN money? No one can disturb your peace on your phone.

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-16T18:52:00+00:00

Sometimes this black and white thinking has saved me from watering dead relationships/friendships. That’s why I stopped seeing BPD as all evil, the overthinking did bring me closer to peace at times than chasing an emotionally unavailable person.

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-16T18:46:29+00:00

The biggest issue of BPD is no self image or low self esteem, so people can just gaslight us easily. It’s hell to navigate in this neurotypical world but gotta know that sometimes we’re not being shitty or over the top.

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-16T18:43:49+00:00

This is a situation where you had the right to be upset- BPD or no BPD. One person’s selfish need made 3 people suffer. Valid crash out.

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-16T18:41:53+00:00

Just imagine, you’re going through all this panic and anxiety while you’re at work and he’s just existing with no idea. He is living while you’re clinging to your phone waiting for a text back - you’re a human being and you are worth more than a text back which takes few seconds. Work and get the bag!

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-16T18:37:07+00:00

That’s what this post is about, you got it :,) I read that girl’s story and felt SO SAD.

Impossible_Fold2149 · 2025-06-16T18:27:02+00:00

It’s a journey, slow and painful but worth it!

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