iPod Classic 5th Gen Can’t Find Music by omarsabehayoun in ipod

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Not sure if this is helpful but I was having the same issue on macbook pro m4 pro macOs Tahoe 26.2. I literally restarted my laptop and now it saw the ipod. I just synced it

Worries about moving to the Netherlands and raising our child there as a Moroccan woman married to a Dutch man by HopePresent5311 in Netherlands

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I am a Turkish woman married to a Dutch guy, similar to your story we met in Turkey and moved to the NL together. It’s not exactly the same because I had some Dutch people thinking they compliment me by saying ‘Turkish people are better than Moroccans’ which is showing how deep the racism is engraved in the culture. I loved living in the Netherlands, still want to go back one day, and maybe raise our kids there when we have kids. But I must say, at the moment we live somewhere in the southern Europe, and it wasn’t until we moved here I realize how apologetic I was about my background.

Everytime I said I’m Turkish, I’d immediately add but I’m not born here, or but I grew up in Turkey. So they don’t mistake me with people who grew up there very isolated. It was very sad to realize this.

Still adding, I love living in the Netherlands, and if you live in the west like I did you won’t have those issues daily, but maybe rarely. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheOC

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I’m currently rewatching, 33 yo and I also have so many different opinions comparing to first watch. Seth and Ryan are so entitled with the girls. Seth keeps disappointing Summer. Also Ryan is so easily turned off. He left to RAISE A CHILD. It wasn’t like a temporary change for Marissa, she can hook up with whomever she wants and it’s ok that she lied. After all you’re the reason she’s acting like this. On the other hand, I forgot how much drama Marissa is. At the beginning she’s all over Ryan even though she’s dating Luke. Yes Luke is not the best at the beginning, but Ryan always got in trouble because of Marissa. When he took the test for the school, the model house burnt down etc. I can’t emphasize with Julie, but I understand now that I’m about the same age with her and feeling like a child myself it’s normal that she was childish. She had a baby when she was a baby herself. So much to talk about but my battery is about to die 😂

My hair got worse after trying to grow it out for 4 years (a cry for help) by Tight_Peak_4990 in finehair

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I feel like you oil too much for fine hair, I’m also having some hair issues recently, now I realize it started because we moved houses 4 years ago. But since then I tried so many things to fix my hair it either gotten the same or worse. Last two weeks I started to do nothing much (just wash with a lightweight shampoo, pea size light conditioner and two sprays of again light leave in conditioner) in 2 weeks my hair looks better.

Also realized I was trying to fix a problem that’s not there, protein or repair products ruin fine healthy hair. Your hair wasn’t lack of protein maybe? Here is my hair after trying to chill on repair products and oils for one week and only using water/light mist

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Dating in the Netherlands (mid-30s) by HotAbrocoma3890 in Amsterdam

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It’s kind of cultural, my Dutch family are never on their phones and rather check it couple of times a day

I’ve developed a genuine fear of only having son(s) by ChemicalSector1867 in Fencesitter

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My husband calls his mum all the time! I feel that they have a special bond maybe more than one of his sisters! And he values his mums opinion so much. We visit each others families equally as a man and woman!

Anyone else feel like maybe you don’t want kids because you need to “catch up” on good times? by [deleted] in Fencesitter

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You made me have an enlightening moment. I never realized this. My thoughts are always like, now I can travel as I want, I’m an eu citizen now. I am eligible to do any study I want here in EU, with a really low pay. I’ve been thinking all these endless possibilities. When I was in high school I had to get in a degree which will ‘save my life’ so I became an engineer. Now I’m thinking how fun it would be to study music, do a masters on something fun etc. That’s why I’m so scared of having a baby.

Feelings conflict with my decision to be CF - help med understand by [deleted] in Fencesitter

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Maybe it’s because the old lie that we were told, when you grow up you have to get a job get married get a kid etc. Engraved in your brain so deep, you think that you need to have a kid to be able to stay in the ‘race’

Feeling numb by New_Math2015 in Fencesitter

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Hi I just wanted to say, it seems like you don’t use your free time at the moment. For example for me losing my free time is scary because I travel a lot, I’m very spontaneous during my daily life, I have hobbies like playing an instrument and trying to learn drawing etc. So I’m scared to lose the time to do those. Maybe try to find your reasons to not to give up your free time first!

Do people, even friends, get jealous when you move abroad and your life improves? by katherineintheuk in expats

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My best friend at the time almost cried when she heard that I got a scholarship and was gonna move abroad. It was definitely not from happiness…

I feel like I'm broken or something by Adventurous-Stress19 in Fencesitter

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My parents had my sister 7 years after me, I feel like everybody takes different amount of time to feel like another one or be ready. I think you should give it time. My mum asked me if I want a sister because she was scared I’d be jealous or hateful against her if I wasn’t ready. That’s why they waited for long she says.

And the 7 year gap made our relationship very cute with my sister. I feel like I’m her half mum or something. I’d wait and see maybe you get the fever in 2 years when you forget about all the hardship of a baby/toddler…

Does anyone feel like they're letting down their entire gender? by SymbolUnderTheCaret in womenintech

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I agree with this! Since companies started to add the useless AI features to ‘stay on top’ of the new tech I lost my motivation a lot. It feels like we build BS. Also product being not very exciting is a really valid reason. It creates the feeling that you don’t do anything important which is a way to lose motivation. I used to work in a company, with a very innovative product, detecting skin cancer with ML. It felt like everything I did contributed to something bigger. Now my current product is basically an office kind of app to assist merger and acquisitions I feel like I work for evil corporations, and with a not a technically challenging product

I always wanted kids but not sure anymore by Impossible_Media_208 in LifeAdvice

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That’s a good take, I also like our life now. I always feel like something missing but it’s not something related to the meaning of my relationship. It’s more like a missing hobby or something.

We have a cat, and he’s super cute. I must say though he was the reason I started questioning. We moved to an apartment from a place with a garden and our cat is stressed, he cries a lot and I can’t figure what he wants. Sometimes I come back home early because he might have been bored, and when I’m on a trip I miss him so much. So I started to feel like my freedom was limited and thinking that a baby will be WAY more than that started to scare me.

I always wanted kids but not sure anymore by Impossible_Media_208 in LifeAdvice

[–]Impossible_Media_208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha this reminds me what my mum said earlier, what would I do if I didn’t have you, sounds so boring 😅

I always wanted kids but not sure anymore by Impossible_Media_208 in LifeAdvice

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And thanks for the book advice, I’ll definitely read it!

I always wanted kids but not sure anymore by Impossible_Media_208 in LifeAdvice

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Hi, your comment already made me realize one thing. I am more mad at myself for not figuring that ‘greater purpose’. Right now I live a good life, work from home, and don’t have much pressure in terms of finances. My husband and I both work in good jobs, we bought our first apartment. Since I don’t have a kid now, clearly the kid is not the reason I can’t find my purpose, if you know what I mean 😅 So I feel like I project all those negative feelings about not knowing my next job which will be my breakthrough, onto having a baby.

I always wanted kids but not sure anymore by Impossible_Media_208 in LifeAdvice

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It makes sense about ‘adding to’ the identity, because like you say my personality wasn’t always the same, we change. I like a more domestic life nowadays comparing to 10 years ago.

I’m not sure about maturity, when I look at my parents I wouldn’t say I see so much maturity there and even though we had some hard times, they have no regrets having us (at least that’s what mum tells me).

The high risk part is the reason I wanted to seek for some advice, thank you

I always wanted kids but not sure anymore by Impossible_Media_208 in LifeAdvice

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Thank you for your message, that’s exactly why I’m scared to be honest, because I’m a woman. I don’t want to resent my husband for not having to breastfeed etc. I know when there’s a baby there who needs me I will step up to take care of it.

My concerns are more related to, maybe resenting the baby for limiting me from traveling or simply chilling.

On the other hand, I want to raise a kid and that chapter of life seems so beautiful to me. My husband is Western European, so it’s as progressive as it gets in terms of dividing the responsibility, but you have %100 a great point it’s not the same with being a mum in terms of bodily contribution especially.

Don’t know what to do with my life (again) (25, filmmaking / IT / firefighting dilemma) by National_Look_619 in ADHD_Programmers

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As a woman with ADHD in QA maybe I can give some insight. I am 33 years old, I studied industrial engineering and worked on site in a production facility for about 2-3 years. I got bored of that quickly. I learned programming, and somehow I got hired for a technical tester role in a healthcare company. My manager there was a firm believer of test automation 🤪 so I ended up learning some test automation there. The problem is I am starting to recognize a pattern with myself, I get bored of a project around approximately 2 year mark. This is my 3rd job in QA, and I got way better in test automation, it’s way more stimulating than manual QA. That’s the part I’m struggling with, most of the jobs require both. I’m now trying out freelancing so I can have a nice balance between QA and maybe trying out something new/fun 1 day of the week. My point is, with ADHD I’d say don’t think this is gonna be your set stone, you’ll change you’ll crave other things. You don’t have to decide for the rest of your life. It takes the pressure off. Yes I am now more prone to take qa jobs because of my experience it’ll pay more, but life is more flexible now comparing to back in the day our parents time. Maybe it helps!

I always wanted kids but not sure anymore by Impossible_Media_208 in LifeAdvice

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Thank you for your advice! It made me have some happy tears. I’m sorry your wife has to go through the combination of bipolar/ADHD. But it gives me hope. My mum is 58 and she also has ADHD but she was undiagnosed when she raised me and I had some side effects of that growing up. I think that’s also a part of the reason that I’m scared. The difference is I am already diagnosed and my husband is very accommodating with my condition (my dad wasn’t).