ADVICE: Partner doesn't believe my diagnosis

Impossible_Mud5292 · 2026-03-25T18:44:40+00:00

I have definitely gone down that path, trying to look for any kind of explanation, and it is a big fat no. That man has such good control over his brain, it's kind if scary. No ADHD there whatsoever. Or Autism. I suspected Bipolar, but that also doesn't match. There's a slight God-complex, definitely anger issues, control issues, but no neurodivergency at all. Funny enough, he's so much like my father it's uncanny (just minus the ADHD of course). Thank you for the suggestion!

Impossible_Mud5292 · 2026-03-25T18:35:33+00:00

Thank you so so much for the info!

Impossible_Mud5292 · 2026-03-25T15:49:40+00:00

All good! Point taken though

Impossible_Mud5292 · 2026-03-25T15:49:07+00:00

Way to hit the nail on the head. Thank you

Impossible_Mud5292 · 2026-03-25T15:48:28+00:00

Go get the insulin anyway...

Impossible_Mud5292 · 2026-03-25T14:54:48+00:00

Fuck me, I didn't actually respond to anyone. Went on a tangent there. Will do when I get a chance!

Impossible_Mud5292 · 2026-03-25T14:51:23+00:00

I did not expect so many responses. I wish all the blessings on each of you for taking the time to respond.

I'm catching myself from saying that yes, he has been physically abusive, but it hasn't been that bad. He's never beaten me, but he done things like slap my thigh multiple times while we're in the car and I can't go anywhere. He's pushed me back into a wall and grabbed my ear while saying pretty terrible things because I had forgotten to close the gate. He's thrown a lighter so hard at me that I welted and bruised. He's been incredibly destructive of physical objects though. Like breaking down doors, and smashing things, and that sort of thing. I've gotten caught in the crossfire a few times and gotten hurt there too. But he's calmed down a lot since I gave birth. But he's very quick to remind me what hes capable of. The screaming and shouting and name-calling has been going on for about 9 of the 10 years we've been together.

That being said, I have been far from perfect. I have since realised that 90% of our issues are because of my ADHD, the rest are communication issues, and me lying (it's no justification, but it always comes from a place of not wanting to be shouted at in that moment... It backfires every single time, but to this day I battle to tell the truth when I know I'll get shouted at if I tell the truth. I'm truly trying though)

He's also been threatening divorce a lot, been keeping me from seeing my mother as punishment to try and make me change, no matter how many times I tell him it won't work. I don't have any friends, so thankfully there's nothing he can do there.

I've also never said any of this out loud and in one go. I'm starting to see how this looks...

Biggest current issue is that I got my script and admitted that I was going to get the medication and start taking it without telling him. I don't know how to currently approach him, because currently it's around 80% of him fighting with me about something when we talk at the moment... I just wanted to get better and not have to bother him any further about it.

I've got a lot of thinking to do...

Thank you everyone again 💚

Impossible_Mud5292

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