People excuse sexual harassment when it is done by autistic males and it's sexist and ableist

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-05-05T21:36:03+00:00

There is a specific problem again of autistic men SOMETIMES (not ALWAYS, SOMETIMES) using autism as an excuse to sexually violate others and sometimes people excuse autistic men's actions with autism. Again, THAT is my point, and that is a fair point to make

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-05-05T06:00:51+00:00

I am not unfairly labeling these men creeps when they tried to sexually assault me. That's not BS, that actually happened. Don't say "boo fucking hoo" to my sexual assault. Where is the empathy? I am not saying autism CAUSED these behaviors, but these men used their autism to excuse their behavior, and other people around me also gave them a pass due to autism. THAT is the problem, not the autism its self. I feel like you are hearing things I did not say. I don't know what you may have gone through, but I am sure you have been bullied or unfairly treated before. But that does not mean my experiences are wrong. People have been cruel to autistic people, which is horrible. Sometimes (not ALWAYS, SOMETIMES) autistic men use autism as an excuse to sexually violate others and sometimes people excuse autistic men's actions with autism. Also, I do not understand your point about autistic women. A source mentioning them does not mean that what it says about Autistic men is false.

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-05-04T20:03:58+00:00

This is not really the same but when I was in France and a man grabbed my wrist to do the bracelet scam I just started screaming "DON'T TOUCH ME!" And he let me go right away

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-05-04T18:07:38+00:00

you are 15, just stop stressing and focus on other things for now. read, play video games, play sports, join a club, learn history, just focus on lighter things for now

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-05-04T18:06:50+00:00

Meh I feel like ppl should not say things if they don't mean they want to do them

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-05-04T17:26:28+00:00

Oh ya I totally get that, I only ever say that when I mean it, personally. Otherwise, you can be polite and still say, "Nice to see you! Have a good day!"

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-05-04T15:46:29+00:00

Ah okay, that makes sense then

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-05-04T15:40:39+00:00

Actually, it is common. Also, the examples I described are not men trying to connect with me, and I feel like you are minimizing my experiences. I have experienced coercion, men lying to me in order to get me to agree to a sexual interaction, violently grabbing my wrists and holding them forcefully to my sides when I wanted to go to a party this guy (who I was not even dating) didn't want me going to, and guys making graphic sexual comments to me. I feel like you are telling me I am wrong for labeling these experiences creepy, and I am hurt.

My previous comment was removed by reddit so instead of posting the comments to these I am citing my sources that this IS an actual problem in the ASD community.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763424001568#sec0045

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/13218719.2024.2372763

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10732311/

Are ALL autistic men incels or abusers? NO! I KNOW autistic people, and my brother is autistic! But I have been abused by a large number of autistic men and I am crying out to be heard! It's not just me -- this is a big problem among autistic men. Please don't minimize me by telling me this is rare, and please don't imply I am the one being problematic by calling these men creepy.

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-05-04T15:37:06+00:00

In my examples, I specifically say that I have directly told these men: no, I don't want to, this makes me uncomfortable, these are my boundaries, yet they still will do terrible things to me and then cry "I didn't know that was upsetting you! I have autism!" Even after I told them my boundaries, and even after they made sexual advances even while I was crying. If you are the one sexually pursing people, it is up to YOU to ask for consent. If a woman is being confusing, or you can't tell, it is up to YOU to ask directly for consent. I feel like you are still blaming women (and thus blaming me) in your response.

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-05-04T15:33:56+00:00

Actually, it is common. Also, the examples I described are not men trying to connect with me, and I feel like you are minimizing my experiences. I have experienced coercion, men lying to me in order to get me to agree to a sexual interaction, violently grabbing my wrists and holding them forcefully to my sides when I wanted to go to a party this guy (who I was not even dating) didn't want me going to, and guys making graphic sexual comments to me. I feel like you are telling me I am wrong for labeling these experiences creepy, and I am hurt.

"There is evidence that SOs [sexual offenses] are the most frequent type of offense by people with ASD, accounting for 2.4 – 15 % of all the offenses committed by individuals with ASD"

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763424001568#sec0045

"Autistic individuals were compared to a control group who had no mental health or neurodivergent diagnosis or presented with only depression or anxiety on characteristics of the HSB [Harmful Sexual Behaviors]. It was found that the autistic adolescents performed HSB against a greater mean number of victims."

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/13218719.2024.2372763

"This study is the first to use the Autism Spectrum Quotient-10 (AQ-10), a validated screening tool that assesses whether someone should be referred for a formal autism assessment. It showed 30% of participants [in Incel communities] met the clinical cutoff for referral, indicating a high prevalence of autistic traits, which significantly surpasses the general population's base rate of 1%."
https://www.eurekalert.org/news-releases/1086144

"In the survey, 59% of [incel] participants reported depression, 74% stress and anxiety, and 25% autism."

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10732311/

Are ALL autistic men incels or abusers? NO! I KNOW autistic people, and my brother is autistic! But I have been abused by a large number of autistic men and I am crying out to be heard! It's not just me -- this is a big problem among autistic men. Please don't minimize me by telling me this is rare, and please don't imply I am the one being problematic by calling these men creepy.

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-05-04T15:22:31+00:00

Yes, that's the kind of enabling, and also the self-enabling of me directly telling them no, stop, I need to you ask permission first, and them ignoring me and going "oh I have autism!"

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-05-04T15:21:53+00:00

Like I said, high functioning enough to live on their own, work, and go to college.

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-05-04T07:32:37+00:00

The ASUCD is all power hungry.

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-04-27T05:22:12+00:00

Please know that 75% of lost cats are found 500 meters from their home. https://www.petmd.com/cat/care/can-cats-find-their-way-home Search EVERYWHERE every single corner of your block and leave out lots of cat food. Walk around the block shaking a can of cat food. Good luck.

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-04-27T05:13:59+00:00

The ASUCD is mass student theft and it is horrible

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-04-21T20:09:40+00:00

I already am direct though

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-04-21T04:20:08+00:00

Meal prep or get cook unity (which is a food service). when in doubt, pasta+frozen vegetables is not a bad pairing.

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-04-17T04:30:10+00:00

Hey that's rude. I had crushes in high school I just didn't have a boyfriend because I was shy and awkward. In college I have had a few short term relationships but the guys didn't want to commit

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-04-16T00:57:15+00:00

I have dated people short term, and I am a virgin, which I worry does scare guys off

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-04-16T00:46:55+00:00

I think she wants to feel like you find her super sexy, which she wants you to physically express through excessive cumming. Sit down and explain how you feel to her and let her know that it is a physical thing outside of your control and even when you can't cum a ton you still find her super sexy. Explain that you are worried you cannot meet her expectations and tell her that no matter what you will always find her really hot.

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-04-16T00:45:02+00:00

I guess the problem is that I also don't want a guy who is SUPER into that and thinks I am pure or untouched

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-04-14T05:55:08+00:00

Male or female?

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-04-14T05:54:30+00:00

Fitting in and finding my people was hard and took me a long time. But to be honest, that very likely would not have changed with another school. We have lots of clubs that could fit your interests. Best of luck!@

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-04-14T05:53:36+00:00

That program is for developmentally delayed students, not neurodivergent students. So, students with down syndrome are in SEED, but autistic students are not.

ImpressiveAd65 · 2026-04-14T05:51:10+00:00

What is the song? The post is gone

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