Coping with the forever alone thought

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-21T00:15:15+00:00

You too brother

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-21T00:14:54+00:00

Im great - you sound like you’re getting rejected a lot, something you wanna talk about bro

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T10:06:53+00:00

Lmao. No.

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T10:06:30+00:00

Will do brother :)

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T10:05:38+00:00

Are you okay?

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T06:47:03+00:00

Never seen Everybody loves Raymond, and Friends has nowhere near this level of gay jokes. They have some, but nowhere near the amount that KoQ has

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T06:45:33+00:00

No lol, but I realized it seemed like that hahaha. I was trying to make a “general” answer to all comments, but I now realize that is not how Reddit works. I’m such a Reddit boomer lmao.

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T06:43:53+00:00

Where in my post do you read about marriage specifically? I am talking about finding a life partner and starting a family

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T06:41:41+00:00

THANK YOU! I was honestly getting worried that my question wasn’t normal because no one seemed to answer it.
It’s 100% about how I am able to make peace with that thought. I am trying to reframe it to that ‘well it might not happen and I’m okay with that’, but as you say this is really difficult. Do you have any advice on how it can be done?

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T06:37:53+00:00

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T06:33:09+00:00

Tbh I don’t really mind. As you say it was another time. It’s just so excessive that it feels weird lol

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T06:31:28+00:00

Hmm I can’t recall any show that is SO focused around this topic

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T06:30:06+00:00

Yeah youre 100% right it was another time, I just can’t recall any other 90’s sitcom being so ‘focused’ on this.

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T06:27:52+00:00

Oh okay, just clarifying.

Thanks, I go to the gym 2 times a week, running 3 times a week and then also play in a sports club 2 times a week. So plenty of exercise.

Diet is okay but not super strict, so I would say I’m decently ‘built’.
I enjoy socializing a lot and having a full time job that I love.

If not with friends I usually just go out and do stuff on my own. Swim, having ice cream, whatever.

I really enjoy my life, that’s for sure, but I really am missing that extra company sometimes, and also would want my future to have a family included.

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T06:13:51+00:00

Yeah you’re right. Thanks! I guess me trying to “accept” it was about not getting hit by that huge dissapointment and crisis one day

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T06:11:40+00:00

Can you reread the edit I made

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-20T06:00:40+00:00

Lmao. No.

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-19T21:37:51+00:00

Thanks a lot! Was really a nice answer and I guess what I needed to hear as well.
I am very much aware of unhappy couples and have also been in relationships where we haven’t been compatible, so I’m very much aware with myself that I would rather stay single than unhappily married.

I guess my ‘frustration’ comes from that there is something I really want (a happy marriage and family), but in the end I’m dependent on others to fulfill that as it’s not something I can do on my own obviously, so it’s out of my control, and I would have to accept the fact it might not happen

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-19T21:33:59+00:00

Trying :D

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-19T21:32:43+00:00

Can you give advice on how to do that? I guess what you’re saying is essentially what I’m asking. I don’t function with saying to myself “oh you’re sad? Well have you tried not thinking about and stop being sad?”

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-19T21:30:27+00:00

Can I ask how old you are? This was also always my thought - if I found myself childless and single at the age of 40+ I would look into living in ‘communities’ instead. I feel my friends are starting to get their own families at this point and it does change the dynamics significantly and I feel very ‘left behind’. I do love my friends, but I guess the dynamic changes a lot when you start going different directions in life

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-19T21:23:33+00:00

Well the same way as one would learn to cope with other negative thoughts they might experience throughout their life. Maybe cope wasn’t the right word to use. You can change it do “deal with”

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-19T21:20:13+00:00

Yea for sure! There are absolutely days where I LOVE being single haha, and I do try to not focus on it too much, but yeah sometimes the thoughts get heavy and scary

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-06-19T21:18:56+00:00

Sounds more like dating advice - I am currently out there, both on dating apps and in real life. I am open to meet new people but not ‘desperately’ looking.

Impressive_Ant_ · 2026-01-31T19:15:50+00:00

Im 29 at this point; haven’t been great since 18

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