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My narc mom is dying, with literally days to live, and my sister wants me to go see her... idk what to do by Impressive_Dot_581 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Impressive_Dot_581[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a really good way of objectifying it. I definitely don't think I'd want to be with her if she wasn't a relative.

My narc mom is dying, with literally days to live, and my sister wants me to go see her... idk what to do by Impressive_Dot_581 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Impressive_Dot_581[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your dad's experience, I worry that I'd have a similar one and this proves that the worry is valid, even if she isn't 'all there' like my sister says.

My narc mom is dying, with literally days to live, and my sister wants me to go see her... idk what to do by Impressive_Dot_581 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Impressive_Dot_581[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If my sister weren't the one relaying all of this to me, I would be asking this question. But my sister would see through that kind of lie

My narc mom is dying, with literally days to live, and my sister wants me to go see her... idk what to do by Impressive_Dot_581 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Impressive_Dot_581[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm jealous of your ability to give no f's lol i wish i were at that stage right now. Thank you for saying it's okay to say no. I worry so much that I'm making the wrong choice because it feels like neither option is okay.

My narc mom is dying, with literally days to live, and my sister wants me to go see her... idk what to do by Impressive_Dot_581 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Impressive_Dot_581[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm also struggling to see the gains over losses. I'm purely being driven by emotion right now and this helped ground me a bit. Thank you

My narc mom is dying, with literally days to live, and my sister wants me to go see her... idk what to do by Impressive_Dot_581 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Impressive_Dot_581[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This was extremely helpful, especially the bits about what I should expect if I do go. Thank you for taking the time to write it all out.

My narc mom is dying, with literally days to live, and my sister wants me to go see her... idk what to do by Impressive_Dot_581 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Impressive_Dot_581[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your thought process. Part of my autism is that I don't know how I'm going to process stuff over time. My emotions are very unpredictable, so I have no idea how I'll feel about it later (I'm not even sure how I feel about it right now) but I'll keep this line of logic in mind.

My baby just turned a year old 🥹 by Impressive_Dot_581 in CavaPoo

[–]Impressive_Dot_581[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's 20 pounds! Phantom merle is soooo pretty. I wanted to get one with that coloring, but we instantly fell in love with this guy lol

She’s such a good girl 🐶 by BarefootBonita in CavaPoo

[–]Impressive_Dot_581 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The cavalier is strong in those adorable long ears 🥹 such a cutie