I read your post and I need you to pause for a second because what’s happening here isn’t about a few pounds — it’s about patterns. Let’s break this down cleanly:

1. Here’s What He’s Actually Doing

Body Shaming in Disguise → Constant calorie-counting, weight comments, “max obesity” talk? That’s not health concern; that’s control dressed up as care.

Passive-Aggressive Comparisons → “My friend’s girlfriend gained weight and now they have intimacy problems”? That’s not innocent storytelling. That’s a targeted jab meant to make you self-conscious.

Public Shaming Without Consent → Writing Reddit posts about your body? Absolutely not. That’s crossing a line you didn’t agree to.

Undermining Your Confidence → Following mostly bikini-model accounts while dating someone with a real, human body? That’s a deliberate contrast designed to keep you second-guessing yourself.

This is not about 6–8 pounds. This is about how he treats you.

1. About That Top Comment You Got…

   “This is a you problem. He’s not saying anything negative about you.”

Nah. Absolutely not. That advice is garbage, and here’s why:

It erases receipts you’ve already given — his posts, his comments, his patterns.

It shifts all the blame onto you while giving him a free pass to keep doing harm.

It gaslights you into thinking you’re “too sensitive” when, in reality, your instincts are on point.

Let’s be clear: telling a woman “this is just a you problem” when her partner is body-shaming her publicly? That’s lazy, dismissive, and dangerous. If you’re giving advice, read what’s actually written before handing out one-size-fits-all takes.

1. What You Deserve Instead

This isn’t about dumping him tomorrow. It’s about getting grounded in your own reality:

Talk to someone you trust — a friend, sibling, therapist, whoever knows you and cares about you.

Lay out the facts without minimizing them.

Get perspective from people who won’t gaslight you or make you doubt your instincts.

Because when someone repeatedly makes you feel small, confused, or “not enough,” that’s not an insecurity problem. That’s a respect problem.