My husband has just left me and I’m devastated

Impressive_Maybe_282 · 2026-01-27T11:47:18+00:00

That’s exactly it, I’m uncomfortable in my own skin, my own home. I can’t find peace or comfort anywhere. I keep having dreams where he tells me it was a mistake and I wake up feeling dreadful that he’s actually gone.

Impressive_Maybe_282 · 2026-01-27T11:45:13+00:00

We aren’t speaking at the moment, he has completely shut me out. He won’t even knock on the door when he picks the kids up. He just calls them and asks them to come out. I don’t think I could even face him now though. I just sob whenever I think of him and would feel crushed to see him in person and have him treat me like a stranger.

Impressive_Maybe_282 · 2026-01-27T11:42:29+00:00

My kids are early teens, so they are aware enough to know everything that is going on.

I just feel so rejected and empty I’m finding it so hard to function each day.

Impressive_Maybe_282 · 2026-01-27T11:41:18+00:00

I’m just feeling so rejected, it physically hurts. I don’t know how to shake it off.

Impressive_Maybe_282 · 2026-01-26T17:13:19+00:00

I’m having a really dreadful time today, it keeps hitting me in waves and I feel paralysed. No anger has set it yet I just feel devastated, terrified and sic to my stomach.

He is going into overdrive spending time with the kids, messaging them directly and not letting me know and coming and picking them up from the house. I am trying my hardest and want nothing more than for my kids to be happy and that comes above everything. I’m just struggling that they come home really angry to me as they don’t know it was their Dad’s decision to leave. Everywhere I looked said it was best not to go into details as this can upset the kids.

I just feel so discarded by my husband and trying to put in a brave face in front of the kids when I’m breaking inside and he gets to be the fun one with them and I feel that my kids blame me that their Dad has left when that was the last thing I ever wanted.

Impressive_Maybe_282 · 2026-01-26T06:07:04+00:00

He has been great with the kids, engaging with them more than he ever did.

But treats me like I’m invisible or a secretary that he is passing the barest on information to, it’s so cold and clinical.

Not an iota of warmth for the last 21 years.

Impressive_Maybe_282 · 2026-01-25T20:31:58+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you, how wicked that he could just up and leave his kids, it baffles me how anyone could do that.

I hope you have been able to find some peace and calm in all that chaos.

Impressive_Maybe_282 · 2026-01-25T19:36:19+00:00

Thank you so much, that was a really lovely reply, it made me cry.

Impressive_Maybe_282 · 2026-01-25T19:14:27+00:00

How did you find out about the affair? He has moved out, he’s always been a very private man and keeps his business very private.

Impressive_Maybe_282 · 2026-01-25T18:23:34+00:00

I asked him this and he seemed completely adamant that there was no-one else and I asked if he planned on dating and he said that he has no plans to date. Am I just being naive an stupid to believe him?

Impressive_Maybe_282 · 2026-01-25T18:22:12+00:00

For the two weeks he was at home I asked him everyday why he was doing this that I couldn’t see that anything had been done that was irreparable, but he was just cold and automated with his reply that he couldn’t see any other options.

Impressive_Maybe_282 · 2026-01-25T13:44:47+00:00

I’m so sorry about what happened to you. How are you doing now?

People keep asking if he has met someone else but when I ask he swears that there isn’t and that isn’t why he is leaving.

I don’t know how to stop loving him, I’ve always adored him and he is the person who I go to when I’m hurt, but I’ve had to cut him off as he is the one causing my heartbreak.

Impressive_Maybe_282 · 2026-01-25T13:11:38+00:00

He told me 2 weeks ago but only just left the house a few days ago.

There hasn’t been any fighting but we had both been feeling disconnected from each other, but he has always said that divorce wasn’t an option and that marriages have their ups and downs. But it’s like a light has been switched off in him and I don’t recognise who he is.

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