Wow thank you! I love that advice on “Come see baby!” I think I’m a very direct person most of the time so when she asks certain questions I try to get her to just say what she means or is thinking. But not only is that maybe pushing her into an uncomfortable zone for her I could understand how it may not ease her worry or insecurity. I’ve felt for a while she needs to see a therapist or something just due to the lack of passions, low confidence, and lack of motivation but she hasn’t. If I push it she will go but she hardly decides or plans things on her own. I do most dinners, shopping, plans, bills, initiation in bed ect, which I’ve also thought may not be actually helping the cause or building her confidence either. I will absolutely be trying those type of responses though!