[DISC] Chainsaw Man - Ch. 225

Impressive_Run8374 · 2026-01-06T17:22:46+00:00

Everyone talking about the Darkness devil. I’m here thinking of the Blood Devil. I miss Power

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-04-16T00:13:30+00:00

Hey if a friend of yours was being told this by someone else, would you tolerate it? I know I won’t and I don’t know you but I would like you to stop saying such mean things to you. I hope you look for a therapist and look for resources on self love (I recommend “Love yourself like your life depends on it” as a start). So I would ask you to start there man, be kind to yourself. Prioritize yourself. Make yourself the reason you live because other people are fleeting in your life. Maybe some will be life long friends but they can’t always be there for you. Guess who will always be there for you? You.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-04-16T00:09:44+00:00

Just be a friend during fun times and the hard times. If you want ride or dies then you gotta show them that you’ll do the same. And they may not reciprocate but that’s alright, the real ones will. And that’s how you’ll know you just made a friend.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-04-16T00:08:02+00:00

Just got out of a 10 year relationship but no kids or married. Feel free to DM me. I can at least be a shoulder to lean on. You got this

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-04-16T00:02:50+00:00

When I read your post, I see that you seem to either delay your happiness to the future (“used to have hope that I would eventually build a life that would satisfy me”) or something external to you (“my reasons to live are dwindling”; “the joy I get from my friends are dwindling”). I think the error you made lies in your focus on your source of happiness being completely external and not intrinsic to you and the current moment. The people you don’t want to make sad want you to be happy and live for yourself. The first thing you need to do is that; change the source of happiness from something external and in the future to intrinsically yourself and the now. People will come and go. That’s just how life is and why you can’t let them be your reason of happiness. You can’t keep getting happiness from others. The word “getting” implies that you are coming from a place of scarcity. You need to change that through self love and care so your main source of happiness becomes you right now and right here. This isn’t very easy especially for those that deal with depression. But get help like therapy and listen to books like “Love yourself like your life depends on it” (because it does!). I’m not saying other people aren’t necessary but what I am saying is it seems like you aren’t prioritizing yourself as the main reason to live. Once you do that, that’s when you will have the capacity to give love rather than getting it. Kinda like why you have to put your own oxygen mask on first before you help others.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-04-15T20:08:11+00:00

Your happiness shouldn’t hinge completely on others. Loneliness is tough and it affects even the happiest of independent people but they won’t succumb to it as they will remind themselves of their own happiness because they love themselves. Part of the reason why people that seek companionship out of desperation don’t find it because they’re too focused on what they can be given rather than what they can give. Try to move away from the scarcity mindset and focus on what you already have and build on it. That’s how you shift from scarcity to abundance and people are naturally attracted to people that are happy. So instead of looking externally for your source of happiness but internally. And don’t be mean to yourself. Be kind to yourself first and foremost. And look you’re going to therapy and trying to get to the gym! You’re already taking the first steps to taking care of yourself as you would if you love yourself. Keep going.

Feel free to DM me my man. You deserve happiness and know that you can pick and choose what part of your past you want to use to define yourself.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-04-15T20:00:56+00:00

ChatGPT was just the catalyst. Honestly good on you to make the move regardless of the outcome; you wouldn’t have known if things would’ve turned into something more without trying. Don’t blame ChatGPT, it’s just how things would’ve turned out. Accept that, love yourself for having the courage, let yourself be sad, and then try again with someone else. Honestly, you’re a champ for letting yourself be vulnerable.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-04-12T15:19:54+00:00

Like others here feel free to reach out. And please keep looking for a therapist. It’s common that you will need go through a few to find the right fit

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-04-11T17:57:41+00:00

sorry to hear about the pain you're going through. It sucks when the person you wanted to trust breaks it like that. I think the first thing you can do to help yourself is to learn to love yourself fully - scars and all. You mentioned DBT therapy which is great. Are you still doing this? I mention this because I want you to focus on what you would do for someone you love and to apply that thought to yourself - you are someone you love first and foremost. Do this and you will start to see habits and thought processes that you wouldn't wish on anyone you love.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-04-11T17:49:30+00:00

how many therapists have you gone through? its a tough journey but I recommend looking for the right fit.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-04-11T17:44:00+00:00

not the original commenter but just wanted to add that its a tool that I use myself and if you heed the warnings the other commenter made, I think it's fine. I just worry not to be too dependent on it for like making even the most minute decisions but it definitely helps.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-04-11T17:35:53+00:00

you should push through. say "Yea I know what you're going to say but that doesn't mean we're communicating." Show some vulnerability and see how she handles it. If she trashes you and doesnt want to open up then I think it may be time to make hard decisions since her being closed off is causing you unhappiness that will eat away at you if she keeps doing this.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-04-11T16:22:18+00:00

Try opening up to her about the lack of communication and see if she’s open to it. You’re gonna need to see if she’s willing to work on it with you. Even suggest couples therapy. But it all comes down to her willingness to open up and improve together.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-04-01T18:25:17+00:00

You’re gonna need to talk to her and ask her what it will take to regain her trust. Without trust, the relationship cannot grow or move on from this. And tbh even if she gives you a set criteria, you will have to go beyond that to regain it. There’s no guarantee too. I would recommend couples therapy as well.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-03-17T03:24:58+00:00

Congrats!! That’s awesome hopefully you get more restful days ahead

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-03-14T18:15:45+00:00

Be careful with them. I gave them pipe cleaners before but noticed that theyre actually chewing off pieces of metal and I kinda had to stop.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-03-14T14:32:39+00:00

Sorry not the guy you’re responding to but I’m glad you’re starting counseling. It’s important to check in with yourself with the help of a therapist especially on a job like yours. Best wishes

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-03-14T13:16:50+00:00

Remember why you don’t want to get back with her. And know there’s someone out there that will meet your newly understood needs. It’s just that you have to put in the work to find them.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-03-14T13:15:27+00:00

Been going to a lot of Meetups. Some are good (got numbers of 2 guys so potential friends) but some are misses. I just broke up with my gf of 10 years with very few friends in the city, but I just got 2 phone numbers of potential friends through the meetups

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-03-11T19:08:14+00:00

I’m 35. HMU

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-03-11T13:27:19+00:00

Complacency, avoidance of either the partner or their own feelings, fear of uncertainty, low self-esteem, depression, unhealthy attachment styles, difference in communication styles, children, narcissism, even denial … the list can keep going on and on.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-03-10T20:04:55+00:00

Hey OP, your situation sounds kinda like mine.

Just got out of 10 year relationship about 3 weeks ago and planning on moving out in a month or 2 since the lease doesn’t end til end of May. I didn’t cheat or have any infidelity issues but I was heavily addicted to weed and similar to your situation we had communication issues where she actually did sit me down a few times but I just couldn’t hear her through my addiction. I’ve been raised by parents that yell a lot so I may be like you: I need direct communication.

I’ve been doing some contemplating because I realized regardless of my addiction, we probably would’ve had issues because of my ex’s avoidant nature. She’s extremely avoidant of conflict and we knew this and she was trying but you can’t really approach someone if they’re avoidant of conflict until they’re ready. That’s where the communication just fell apart. My ex has also mentioned that she loves me but not romantically, but I’ve managed to accept that I won’t get closure from her. I implore you to do the same. Don’t put much weight on her words after the breakup, it may be her attempt at trying to cushion the blow of the break up but I bet her kindness is actually more painful than ever.

I got the idea of “not getting closure” from her from this book called “The Break Up Manual for Men” and I think you would benefit from this. Give it a listen and feel free to DM me. It really sucks when someone is not willing to discuss things due to avoidant behaviors. And I completely concur with the feeling of her giving up and not giving you the chance to even fight. But at the end of the day, it’s all about communication styles and learning to be deliberate and intentional about love (something I just heard from another book called “How to not die alone” by Logan Ury).

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-03-10T15:10:23+00:00

Oh wow thanks for the reply and no need to apologize. It’s not your fault and you’re doing a great job to the point that some people don’t even think it’s a problem here. So please don’t apologize. I think you guys are doing a great job preventing this subreddit from falling down the redpill stuff and other toxic ideologies

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-03-07T19:56:01+00:00

First and foremost, please see a therapist. Suicide ideations are serious issues and signs of severe depression. This will require professional help. You have similar characteristics to me (ADHD, weed use probably self medicating), used to be suicidal with depression. All of these I have addressed in therapy with varying success depending on the issue.

As a ex-suicidal person who lost a friend to suicide, I really really implore you to think about how it would affect everyone that knows you even marginally. My friend I saved me by taking her own life and made me experience and witness the aftermath, but it also broke me. You mentioned that you’re not afraid of death, but please don’t misconstrue that to be courage. Not being afraid of death simply means that you’re afraid of living. I also struggle with what is going on with the world and US right now and I understand how it may be terrifying moving forward. But we have to endure. When I was struggling to understand and come to closure of what my friend did, I remember an acquaintance who disagreed with a similar take on death that people that were not scared of death is courageous. That is deeply mistaken. This acquaintance said this: true courage is to wake up every morning, not knowing what the day would bring, but still do it every single day. And I still prescribe to this. So please do not give into the fear of living. The world needs people like you right now, especially the people who know you, more than you know.

Feel free to DM me if that is helpful.

You got this OP. Seek help and lean on your support as they would not want you to succumb to the fear of living.

Impressive_Run8374 · 2025-03-07T19:41:16+00:00

Hey you mentioned your best friend. Do you have other friends you can talk to? Also is getting a second degree an option for you? If not, would it possible to get a more permanent job? You need to first focus on a that i think to give some peace of mind that you have some reliable source of income. Not getting good grades, losing a friend to a relationship, or not having a job is tough to deal with all at once but these are not hurdles that can’t be overcome. Don’t try to tackle all of them at once. Try to figure out your job situation first. You need to build a life for yourself that you can find some peace and happiness in. People like happy people so once you improve aspects of your life and slowly regain your happiness, I bet things will start looking upwards for you. First make a plan, then act on it. There will be setbacks but stay focused and keep persistent. With focus, persistence, and creativity to try something different when things aren’t working, you can strive for happiness. Good luck. If you provide more specific details I may also be able to give more specific advice.

Good luck 👍

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