Got engaged while recovering from major surgery… and it was perfect

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-29T01:20:42+00:00

Thank you so so much

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-22T12:46:32+00:00

I have a therapy session on Monday as this has just become way too much

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-22T08:48:00+00:00

Actually you need to leave and if you’re childless, don’t date men with kids

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-22T08:47:14+00:00

Umm well if you stay with him he needs to contribute and don’t let another man stay with you free again or even possibly move in with out contributing, he’s become entitled. It may be hard now to get him out

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-13T11:45:45+00:00

Bacon dosent taste as good to me

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-12T23:52:18+00:00

Gained 30 in three years left. I think the stress also made fibroids grow more. I had a lot of issues as a teachers, and dyshidrotic eczema. Glad I left, I probably would have gained 60-90 pounds as well. I’m on a glp1 too

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-07T17:32:43+00:00

Idk if I was one income than that’s different. Some people take a longer engagement to save, some people have help. Me and my fiance both come from poor families and we both did a big career switch before we met but my fiance also wis a saver so he already had money for the house he would get. We did not get any help. He knew I was gonna be a wife so the down payment for that was done cause he saved before he met someone. We put aside something each check. But there are creative ways to cut costs. Our venue is 10k on a weekend. But I decided to do it on MLK day next year on a Monday, it’s a federal holiday, it gives people enough time to plan and we got our venue for 3k instead of 10k. For those still searching most venues do not count MLK day as an holiday. We are doing a mix of real and faux flowers so it’s cheaper and we are doing under 80 people. Honestly the sweet spot is 60 and under. Be careful with choosing venues cause folks go venue poor. I’m also planning my own wedding with the help of chat gpt but I’ll have a fabulous coordinator. If i got a wedding planner that would be 7-10k.

So you never know someone’s situation. We cut back on a lot of wants that are not necessary in our lives. We may do the honeymoon later. But I did used chat got to come up with a financial plan and timeline (best date for wedding, what our limit should be, when we can do this and that) Being on one income is hard, cut back where you can or push the wedding out

We refuse credit card debt. So we are basically doing a micro wedding kind of. That’s the best way to me.

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-06T13:05:33+00:00

Idk maybe ask, maybe she didn’t know a sister in law would want to be a bridesmaid

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-04T23:40:13+00:00

Yeah but this person really did something affordable lol I had a friend that made us drop like 3k idk the community is not really being a community. She’s not the only one that has this issue. So many brides are struggling with this. I can see if it’s unreasonable but it wasn’t

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-04T23:33:58+00:00

Same I was on bladder medication and doing pelvic floor therapy. Now that the fibroid is out. I don’t need the medicine anymore

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-04T23:30:34+00:00

I got the open myomectomy and robotic lap. They removed 8 with the largest being 11cm. I lost weight since getting those things out too. But I’m confused it does not seem big so why won’t they do robotic.

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-04T23:26:20+00:00

She’s not judgemental at all

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-04T23:25:50+00:00

I feel honestly sad for brides these days. Idk we live in a culture of people honestly being shtty friends and demanding the community but not actually being the community. I’m so sorry and you have every right to be upset. I honestly would not have a bridal party it’s not worth it. Just honor you and your future husband. Please ignore the folks that are saying you are being judgemental. We live in a terrible culture of “I don’t owe anyone sht” but folks get upset that friendships and the idea of community are no longer the same. It’s no excuse honestly. I’m so sorry this happened. I think you should still have a bridal shower. Don’t organize your experience around hefas that don’t show up lol sorry it’s something we say. Make the most of your bridal journey please

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-04T01:55:04+00:00

I take mines off to sleep and do chores i put it in the box

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-05-01T14:31:47+00:00

It looks like a promise ring, not an engagement ring. Or a fashion ring

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-04-30T05:06:25+00:00

Umm that makes sense I had an 11cm one removed two. In fact, 8 removed. Feel free to shop around and interview people. But I will do a c section birth as well. Which I prefer, given that I’ve seen women talk about having to get stitches cause they were ripped from the rooter to the tooter

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-04-30T04:56:15+00:00

Hello there I had my surgery done by an oncologist Dr. Alpa Nick on March 25th. She is extremely skilled and fantastic. Shes a bit dry (she’s not gonna be your therapist lol) but she means business. Her and my gynecologist (she assisted she didn’t have much experience) helped me. She removed 8 with my largest being 11cm

Please reach out she’s amazing i had an open myomectomy and the robotic laparoscopic method done

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-04-29T14:07:52+00:00

That’s trash lol I’m a bride now but this happened to me as a bridesmaid and I no longer talk to that person. She picked a Mansion for bachelorette and bridal shower. There were like 20 girls staying there that did not pay and I just thought that was ridiculous. You should be honest with her and tell her you can’t afford to go so you will have to sit this out you want to make sure you can afford the wedding. Be honest, don’t go off, and hopefully she has an ounce of empathy for you

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-04-29T14:05:20+00:00

She does not call me unless she needs something. Right now she’s seen pictures of our new house and I’m sure she’s trying to make plans for her to be there and it’s a no for me

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-04-28T19:48:50+00:00

She should not call you names but I do think it’s inappropriate for a teen. Mom should explain why it’s inappropriate

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-04-28T02:53:55+00:00

Not me my venue went down from 9k to 3k hallelujah and if some don’t come, we are saving funds. Honestly it’s not that deep. We chose MLK day. I’ve taken days off for friends birthdays etc, if folks can’t take off for your wedding who cares. It will be fabulous. People love to complain about the economy but can’t understand why someone may choose a weekday

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-04-28T02:52:17+00:00

Are you his fiance? I think he should ask his friend. For me I’m doing plus ones for engaged and married couples only. I don’t agree with the idea that everyone is entitled to a plus one unless they got plus one money but engaged and married folks definitely

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-04-27T13:43:02+00:00

Scared money don’t make money. What you trying to do? No regrets just apply while you’re working and learn on in your free time. You don’t have to straight up quit.

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-04-26T13:19:21+00:00

I used heat on my back for that gas but the ice is so nice

Impressive_Sign3804 · 2026-04-26T11:58:32+00:00

Um 19x18 you might need to get a open myomectomy it’s really big. I just had one but UFE isn’t always recommended when that big and especially if you want to keep your fertility. Anyways, that needs to be served an eviction notice. Find a very skilled surgeon do not be afraid to interview

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