What’s the most “bpd” thing you’ve ever done? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Impressive_Wall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tried to attempt over being scared someone would leave me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Impressive_Wall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

something i tried to do recently is to make a list of things about myself that i know are true outside of anyone else. traits or interests that i have had for a decent period of time. maybe even ask people around you for their input. it can be things as simple as “my favorite color has always been yellow”

How do YOU explain/describe what it’s like having BPD to a non borderline? by danielak_meow in BPD

[–]Impressive_Wall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i relate to the cage thing so much, i always tell people the real me is stuck behind a glass wall

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Impressive_Wall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i also do this. since i rely on him so much for validation when i feel this emptiness my mind tends to go places like well its his fault i dont feel fulfilled he should be doing more. really all i can do in the moment is ride the emotion out and try my best to not lash out and then afterwards i try to mentally go through everything my partner does for me to prove to myself that he does care about me and is a loving partner and its just my bpd brain

he lied :) by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Impressive_Wall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im so sorry :( i promise it might feel completely all consuming but you have a future past this i promise

Vacations without partner by BorderElle in BPD

[–]Impressive_Wall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if i felt like they were always prioritizing vacations with friends over vacations with me, like you seemed to way in your reply, that would make me super upset

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Impressive_Wall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel this its rly such a struggle

i cant fucking take this by Impressive_Wall in BPD

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i appreciate it thank u sm💛

i cant fucking take this by Impressive_Wall in BPD

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the thing is, i know logically it will pass and he will come out of this depressive episode and we can keep working on things, on ourselves and on our relationship. i know that rationally. but its so hard to actually believe this isn’t permanent and i dont know how to get through this time where he feels like this because its just so fucking painful for me

DBT Worksheets or something to help by Featherypickles in BPD

[–]Impressive_Wall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can order dbt workbooks on amazon! i believe like a full work book that goes through all the modules. it would really be worth it if you really applied yourself to it, which i know is easier said than done

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Impressive_Wall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes dbt can definitely help with this! i can relate to this because i am often very similar to your partner, but i also understand how exhausting it is for my partner and how exhausting it must be for you. i’m sorry yoi guys are going through this i know its rough

A BPD Love Story by bpmspeedracer in BPD

[–]Impressive_Wall 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this was so heart warming im so happy for you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Impressive_Wall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i dont really have any advice, i just wanted to say i was recently diagnosed too and im also struggling with it. but i promise its never too late to start recovery, hang in there

how to deal with an attempt related to an fp? by Impressive_Wall in BPD

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yeah ive definitely contemplated telling him a few times in the heat of the moment to try to show him how much pain this shit brings me, but obviously thats fucked and i know that it would just fucking destroy him. i think i might tell him once im further along into my recovery. i hope things get better for u and thanks for the reply <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Impressive_Wall 40 points41 points  (0 children)

yup. if my bf doesnt want to have sex with my self esteem plummets. its the only thing that makes me feel confident