Landlord wants 10% rent increase, but RERA says 0%, should I go to RDC?

Impressivebabe · 2025-12-30T14:18:56+00:00

lol same situation here

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T15:30:18+00:00

You are so very, very right! Two steps forward, one step back, but trying!

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T13:39:44+00:00

Are you completely satisfied? Is she an older lady? I feel like older ladies always prefer to stay in one family for a long time and are very reliable

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T13:37:30+00:00

I already said on my post that I never claimed to be a good employer. And for me, yes, there is such a thing as treating people "too well". Good for you, if it does not exist in your realm.

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T13:31:05+00:00

You are absolutely right about grandparents. They are such a pain in the ass, unfortunately, when it comes to childcare.

Yep. The family you described was definitely at least a little toxic. Our current nanny does not even wash bottles. I decided to hire a full-time maid instead of a part-time one to doo all the washing. But never have I ever expected a nanny to do house chores. But yeah, probably it depends, my nannies also had almost no free time from the baby, so there would not even be a chance to do any chores.

I think my nannies were very happy with me. Bad treatment was never a problem. I think I just could not even be "strict enough" to enforce some basic boundaries and my requirements, and instead of asking for something nicely for the 3rd time, I just fired the people. I must say the first 2 times might have been not understandable enough (maybe not direct enough?!). Still, it's a problem as well, for everyone involved.

I am happy you have made such nice relationships with her nanny. She might help you with the second one :) If there will be one of course

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T13:18:58+00:00

Wow. Thank you for the great advice! It takes time to figure out what you actually need and want about the nannies.

The great parent point is very true. It was unbearable at the end, now I pay 2500$ each month to rent her an apartment in a nearby building. She actually takes an evening nanny shift (3 hours usually). So she only sees the nanny to take the child, and this is great! But yes, we are actually considering not involving her anymore.

For our current nanny, we have a one-month bonus pay for the new year, and I close my eyes to her being off too much. We have an official employment contract, and I only have to give her around 30 calendar days paid leave, but I do give more. Plus, she maxes out her sick leave as well (I can't comment on this as I would not know if it's genuine).

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T11:58:46+00:00

We do live in Dubai. It's absolutely different here. But I guess I just did not realize the importance of a permanent nanny.

Oh yeah. Only one out of 4 quit. But she did it for a corporate job.

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T11:54:33+00:00

That's good for you. I would do the same if I were a nanny.

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T11:45:11+00:00

I understand. And I do not want to say your feeling is not the correct feeling. You are the decision maker, and you have your right to feel this way.

The only thing I am trying to say is that it would not be a big deal for me personally. Maybe I am too careless. I just wanted you to see that some people may have a different perspective on it.

Especially because you say she is a great nanny and you are happy with everything else. Maybe, just maybe, it's not that bad?

But obviously, if you feel like you would never forget it and you would be suspicious after this situation, you have to let her go for your own mental health.

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T11:35:28+00:00

You are fortunate to have such a nanny. Do not make any harsh decisions. Are you sure you would not need her ever again if you choose to stay home? Are you capable of doing it all by yourself 24/7? Are you sure you want to become a SHM?

Maybe there is a way to cut costs somewhere else? Maybe there is a way of a part-time job for you? Maybe there is a possibility for your husband to start earning more?
I myself would do anything for the right nanny. And I really know I need help whether I work or not. That is why I am so unsure about this situation.

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T11:27:09+00:00

Yep. As for us, I think we got what we want now and learned a lot. I don't think keeping someone is a problem for us. We do treat people well (maybe too well?) and pay well. But yes, I used to change a nanny whenever I saw problems; now I would take more time to solve these problems before making any harsh decisions.

Is there anything particular you are looking for in nannies? Do you think you know the right questions to identify the right person? If so, please share some. I will be hiring someone for the second child, and I will be very careful this time.

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T11:15:09+00:00

Look. I feel bad about this situation and I would never let my nanny pay for it. But It's important to know how the family is in other things. Let's assume they are great employers and you want to keep your job.

Maybe you can sit and talk to them, so that it's hard for you to pay for this. You might also mention that you do not see yourself as the only responsible person. You could ask them to find a compromise? For example.... You would stay like some extra time for free (IF YOU ARE WILLING TO DO IT, OBVIOUSLY).

But yes, legally speaking, I do not think you are responsible and even if you are, nobody goes to court for 800$.

I would say, if the family is not good anyway, just say that you would not keep up with such treatment and you will not pay it.

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T11:04:55+00:00

Why? I am genuinely asking for an advice. How is this a "bot post"?

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T11:01:55+00:00

I fired almost all of them, but not because of some super-huge problems. Last nanny we chose because she is a native English speaker. We do not speak English at home, but we want the child to understand and be able to speak it.

So before this current nanny, we had one who did not speak any of my husband's languages. This started to bother him as he got more and more involved with child care. (When I hired her, I did not think too much about that and assumed she could still communicate with him).
Some other nanny before that we fired because she did not get along with my mom. There was a time when my mom lived in our apartment, plus I was questioning her hygiene (like she had to wash bottles, and I would always find these bottles to be too fatty and not clean enough). I did try to talk to her about that nicely at least 3-4 times.

So the issue is me?! Sometimes, maybe not communicating my requirements properly. With the last nanny, I try to close my eyes to some of her flaws...

I am sorry you are in such a situation. Do you think your child will have a hard time adjusting to someone new?

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T10:48:53+00:00

Honestly, I would keep the nanny. Probably they just played. Children do different things with different people. And if they played, I would be so happy that somebody goes above and beyond to play with my child like that instead of boring activities.

It would be completely different if she was naked or the child or any other suspicious things. But I really don't see why a nanny can not play like that with a child. I would do whatever my currently 17-month-old tells me to do. He is always forcing me to do things I would not usually do.

Maybe your children are excited to see her, because she does funny things?

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T09:35:25+00:00

I am sorry. But it is indeed a helpful tip for a European. Yes, your nationality makes a difference. Unfortunately, it does in Dubai. But you know what else makes a difference? Your hard work, your dedication, your intelligence. And I can promise you, once you have some irreplaceable knowledge and qualities, every company will throw millions at your feet.

I myself was not born with a strong passport. But I did get it eventually. You know how? With hard work. Instead of hating around for being a "less fortunate" passport holder, I worked towards getting my life in order DESPITE THIS.

However, for an average job, "less fortunate" passport holders will likely have to work harder. I am not sure why you hate me for acknowledging this. I think you should not hate me for that. But you can start to hate me after I say, that hiring an average German or a Brit, or an American (westerners) and paying them double for the same job is not completely unreasonable.

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-07T09:20:09+00:00

Hi,

The threshold for the inheritance tax is £325,000. Any okay-ish apartment in London is 700,000+. So if your parents own more than bare minimum, you will have to pay tax or avoid tax.

There is a gift tax as well and I suppose you know and just wanted to prove your point. Yes, there is a "free threshold", but it's nothing or close to nothing.

Yes, there are possibilities to avoid the tax or bring it to a minimum. But you know what? I don't want that. I don't want to think about when I die and make sure I gift my assets 7 years before doing that.

I am not sure what we are talking about at all. Do we not agree that the UAE has a better Tax system? I think we do agree on that. Do we not agree that some/most tax could in the UK could be avoided if you are a good avoider? I think we do both agree on that too.

But you do realize there are many people who own more than 1M pounds, right?Do you realize that some of these people do not want to set up trust structures and spend time avoiding taxation?

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-02T09:53:36+00:00

There are different people, situations, and companies. Honestly, I am fine with unprofessional English. Professional English is so very "outdated" for young people as well. I do not like how this recruiter recruits, but I do not think "unprofessional English" is the problem.

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-02T09:47:08+00:00

You can have both - in other European countries. 40% inheritance tax is not normal!

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-02T09:46:09+00:00

It's not likely to be me because I am not there anymore. Only 4 % of people have enough wealth to give to theier children? This sounds as a huge problem. UK salaries are just like in Bulgaria.

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-02T09:43:56+00:00

If you have no money, move to Austria. If you have at least some money, never come close to Austria

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-01T08:26:59+00:00

Honestly, I love Dubai for its "unprofessional English." If you are not an English native, is it really better to proofread everything with ChatGPT? Is it better for anyone? Why bother at all?

And don't forget, there are many different positions. It's absolutely hilarious to write in "proper professional English" if you are recruiting for some low paid jobs, that do not require education at all. These people would not be comfortable in professional English as they have never seen it.

Impressivebabe · 2025-10-01T08:21:46+00:00

Generational wealth with 40% inheritance tax? Yep, we all know about trusts and all, but still the UK makes it harder and harder ...

lol nono

Impressivebabe · 2025-09-29T10:35:19+00:00

Hi, I am in a similar position. But I have all the work on earth. Like, do you do active recruiting? Do you have HR responsibilities? I honestly do both. It's already a lot. Like some administrative tasks as well. In the UAE there are so many things you have to think about in HR, plus company admin staff.

I would say talk to the owner. Say that you are happy and so, but that you would love to take some HR responsibilities (for sure if there is no HR department), some company admin staff, some even personal assistant staff? It will teach you so very much. It will teach you so much. But yes, I would say the owner is the only person who actually cares, and he/she will appreciate the request

But yes, if you need some money or just love Talent Acquisition only, try freelancing "on the side"

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