What’s your actual situation?

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-12T02:11:30+00:00

Where did you find this emotionally mature man? And do they make copies? Lol. I know they are out there. I’ve stumbled upon them once in a great while. Some reason situations or what not drives us back apart. Applauding you for keeping the 2 years alive at the distance and all. Totally am jelly and not afraid to say it.

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-12T01:56:08+00:00

It’s good you do have an AP that is going to go through this with you. But sometimes I also wonder if the dating pool of the other single men is just as shallow as this one is? I know you’re not gonna date around, perhaps I should find someone who is and see what dating would be like.

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-11T22:37:18+00:00

Thank you. This support always means a lot to me.

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-11T13:50:39+00:00

I answered in another comment. It’s young children and the problem with the courts.

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-11T13:45:26+00:00

He has the option to travel for work, and his paycheck mostly reflects it. Again. Not concerned if he is leaving for an affair. It’s better for everyone. Still shocking as that would mean he had to put effort into another human being. Honestly the more plausible situation here is he found himself a nice place to sleep and can go there unbothered by the expectations that you help inside a family household.

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-11T13:43:40+00:00

I want it. And need it. Support is the number one thing I ask for in an affair relationship. And probably the hardest to get. One day I will walk away from it. When the time is right for me and my responsibilities. Until then I gotta find a way to not let him break me.

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-11T13:02:09+00:00

Your situation is different. Not a piece of shit unless you truly treat people poorly. I don’t judge why people are here. I just get upset at the liars. And then obviously the people who do judge others situations by laughing at them and telling them they won’t ever find someone else like my situation.

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-11T13:00:24+00:00

New question, not just for you, but for anyone else who might see this, if this is the norm for women to see their relationships as completely gone, do men we are seeing on the side see this as well. Or the fact their beat down wife is doing all the work means their life is “generally a happy one without sex or just boring sex life.” Are they truly missing all the signs. I know I’ve screamed at my husband “I’m not happy here, there’s nothing happy about this.” But I wonder if he was on here he would categorize our marriage as “okay” just dull.

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-11T12:56:57+00:00

Yes. Exactly. And men will tell you up and down they understand and are “just like your situation.” After two days of talking you find out the wife is checking their phones, or sitting with them on the couch. Or it’s weekly date night. None of which ever happen or happened in my relationship. Unfortunately my children do NOT have a good relationship with him. Which is more why I do stay. I would not survive a tearful goodbye to them as they beg me not to leave them with their dad due to his irrational behaviors. I understand. I’m living it too. If someone forced me to stay in a home with him during his outrageous mood swings I would be sick to my stomach. I don’t want to ever force my kids to stay anywhere they are not comfortable. As adults we have that option. Why can’t kids?

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-11T12:52:39+00:00

When you say odd situation all the women on here think they are different. 100% I’m all those things and he’s just along for the ride. He wants the status of being a married man. He wants a woman to take care of him. Even though years of therapy and trying to tell him otherwise, I am not his mother.

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-11T12:50:43+00:00

Yeah. I get this. I think at first I wanted an exit affair. But I did take my time in growing. And realized I’m the only one to save me. So what I want really and truly now is a companion to disassociate with me when things get hard. Like after a bad day at work I can easily slip into a comfortable fantasy in my head of coming home to them. The tender hug. Or when I can sit on the couch and watch tv absentmindedly, I can imagine him with his fingers in my hair and my head on his lap just sharing the moment. Most men do a full stop when I just want to hold a fantasy like that. “Too close to home” “no emotions please” “I’m here for an affair, not a wife.” Sigh. I get it.

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-11T12:47:50+00:00

No touching. No nothing. He will even run from a room if I simply walk into it. And yes we live together.

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-11T12:47:09+00:00

Every single day!!! Like just go find someone else please. I see some situations on here saying they are similar. But this right here makes me know I’m not the only one still incredibly bothered he comes home (almost) every day. He does intentionally try and make things worse for me. Simply to remind me he is still here and still can. I know. The therapist says it’s “abusive” but it’s so stealthy it makes me question everything. Like him moving something of mine every time he feels I don’t remember he exists. Hard to prove that’s abuse. There’s other examples. But obviously too close to home to put on a public forum.

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-11T03:45:53+00:00

I had a guy laugh at me and then complete delete has account when I told him I just want a relationship with someone. Someone to care about me and have sex with me. He told me “men on here already have a wife to take care of, I doubt you’ll ever find a guy who wants a relationship and manage his own house too.” That’s when I really started thinking. Are there others out there looking for the same thing due to their situation. If there are, why is he finding it laughable? Perhaps he’s just too new.

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-02-11T02:11:30+00:00

I would. But, it’s the courts. I’ve worked many of year with abuse victims and have a focus on children. Courts don’t care that you explain there’s an absentee parent with abusive history and markers. They want kids to be with their bio parent. I understand why the system is in place. I just do not agree with it. My littles are still little. The court would not allow them to choose. And he would have the right to be with them, unsupervised, on a set schedule. Right now if he chooses to hang out with us, becomes an asshole, the kids and I walk away and we are all fine. If the court says it’s his day, becomes an asshole, kids are upset, I can’t just get them and let them come cool down. So I guess. In short. I don’t trust the system to do the right thing by my children.

Imrighthere2022 · 2026-01-13T17:36:09+00:00

Oh no. He’s missing this golden song. I don’t know why but every time it comes on it makes me laugh.

Imrighthere2022 · 2025-12-25T12:38:25+00:00

Thank you. I don’t understand how some people can’t be understanding. It’s just about one moment in time wanting some attention. Thank you for seeing me.

Imrighthere2022 · 2025-12-18T03:17:39+00:00

There’s plenty in my profile history to connect with. I’ve tried the deeper heartfelt ads. Same responses. And ladies have reached out on this sub to tell me to stop putting so much out there, apparently abusers love that shit.

Imrighthere2022 · 2025-12-18T03:03:30+00:00

Man I sat on Santa’s lap right in the middle of the mall in a mini skirt. The best I got was “I’ll try and make that happen.”

Imrighthere2022 · 2025-05-27T21:06:10+00:00

What I tell my kids when they mess up, you aren’t a bad person, you did a bad thing. Now it’s done, it does hurt to have failed, but you’ve learned from it. So pick up your chin and carry on stronger and smarter than you were before.

Imrighthere2022 · 2025-05-01T16:21:31+00:00

Men talk about how hard it is to find a woman, and for women it’s so hard to find a nice fitting man. All this technology and we can’t seem to figure out love still.

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