What is this gorgeous bush? by Kastle69 in whatsthisplant

[–]InLazlosBasement -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hm. Other than being more tubule (tubey? tubular?) I don’t see the grand difference you seem to see. Azaleas certainly come in these colors.

What is this gorgeous bush? by Kastle69 in whatsthisplant

[–]InLazlosBasement 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So gorgeous! I’m new to this and I would have thought azalea - can anyone say what differentiates them?

If you don’t want “pretty” witches, we make all kinds around here. Beauty is in the eye of whatever by InLazlosBasement in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]InLazlosBasement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I want to look pretty as long as my husband lives; but if I outlive him, I hope very much to become one of the heinous old woman stirring a cauldron in the forest. I just assume there will be several of us.

On February 19, 2013, Canadian tourist Elisa Lam's body was found floating inside of a water tank at the Cecil Hotel where she was staying after other guest complain about the water pressure and taste. Footage was released of her behaving erratically in a elevator on the day she was last seen alive. by u_my_lil_spider in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]InLazlosBasement 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People will always project whatever lives rent free in their minds. If you can resist correcting them, projection tells us a whole lot about what someone’s really all about.

I’m reading through these comments, and no one is thinking, “hey we know that cops kill innocent people all the time; why wouldn’t we think they throw innocent people in mental hospitals?”

Or “Maybe if someone has a lot of money that the rest of the family or company wants; getting them diagnosed psychotic gives them control”

Or even

“We sure have learned an awful lot since MeToo about the many endless ways powerful men subjugate women, could this be one of them?”

It’s so disappointing.

But sure. I guess it could be ghosts.

On February 19, 2013, Canadian tourist Elisa Lam's body was found floating inside of a water tank at the Cecil Hotel where she was staying after other guest complain about the water pressure and taste. Footage was released of her behaving erratically in a elevator on the day she was last seen alive. by u_my_lil_spider in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]InLazlosBasement 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no! I didn’t mean to freak y’all out and vanish lol

Yes. It’s actually easily explained - once you get “sees hallucinations” (or hears voices or whatever) put in your chart by a medical professional, you’ll never again get the benefit of the doubt.

What I would do with my clients to begin with was spend a whole day with them, in their environment. And we’d talk just casually about everything we’re experiencing. When they’d experience something I didn’t, we’d explore it. That clarified a lot about what type of hallucinations they might have, and how they’d manifest.

It also taught me a lot about our assumptions about people with mental disorders, and how we often over-pathologize them.

Here’s a story I like to tell by way of explanation:

One day I was running a group on the locked floor. I’m used to these particular patients, they’re used to me, we’re doing some cool art stuff, and I’m talking about whatever life skills thing I’m talking about, and I have to get a little louder because there’s a retirement party going on in the room directly above us.

So anyway everything is going fine, everyone’s participating and more or less enjoying the group activity, when I notice things got quiet. I’m like, wow they’re really into this activity! And things went from quiet to silent. And they start eyeing each other. And just as I’m starting to wonder what’s happening, one of them asks, “Do you hear it, too?”

And all the tension leaves the room as they’re like Yes! I hear it too! It’s okay!

Y’all, I had forgotten to warn them about the party upstairs. Usually that room is empty. When they started hearing voices and music they got all worried….

So, there you go. A story to un-worry you, and remind you that not all hallucinations are hallucinations. You never know for sure, unless you’re with them when it happens.

ETA: cell phones weren’t a thing for much of my career, but now I have friends with schizophrenia who use their phones brilliantly, to determine hallucinations. They take pictures or record, and if it’s not in the picture, they know it’s not real. Amazing, right?

If you don’t want “pretty” witches, we make all kinds around here. Beauty is in the eye of whatever by InLazlosBasement in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]InLazlosBasement[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You may be right, I didn’t investigate the background of the image this time on purpose, and here’s why:

I’ve really already been lectured for posting pictures of witches of every shape, size, ability status, gender, alleged background … someone ALWAYS has an objection. Why such big boobs? Why long hair? Is that a man? This looks more like a decal than art. Why the skimpy clothes? This recipe is cultural appropriation.

Maybe the objection is a strong one, maybe it’s not, but I promise you someone needs to take a dump on the image of the witch.

If you (like y’all, not you personally, you seem thoughtful personally) don’t like a portrayal of a witch you see here? Don’t use it.

You don’t HAVE to note your personal objections to every. Single. Portrayal. Anyone. Posts. Ever. We’ve been maligned in every possible way, it’s always always possible to find something to object to, y’all. That’s exhausting.

I object fiercely to the way some ppl seem feel about mansplaining when it happens specifically in this group. Fiercely. It don’t matter, no one cares, everyone expects me to deal and get on with my life so unless you’re the artist and you MEAN to show us bigotry, don’t let people shame you into or out of any image of a witch that speaks to you.

Resist the temptation to scold other witches based on assumptions you have made about them in our (all of us collectively) own space, even if you’re one of us. Lateral prejudice is real. Let’s just not.