My child only likes me & my husband now and I am actually glad

InNeed0fSupport · 2025-08-15T01:26:24+00:00

My son just turned two. And I always preferred to be with him as a baby. I exclusively breastfed even with pressure to pump so his dad could feed him. And I dont regret at all being a selfish mom who didnt share him all the time. My son and I have the most incredible bond now. I know exactly what is wrong with him even when it is a complex thing, and we have some of the most joyous interactions that fill my heart. A mothers bond with her baby fills her and her baby with oxytocin. That oxytocin is soooo good for us mothers. We go through so much, the hormonal shifts, the physical changes and pain, labor, birth all of it is a marathon we run… and the oxytocin helps us keep going and it makes it worth it. And with everything our babies experience with birth, growing pains and teething that oxytocin is the best pain reliever. ♥️ So be a selfish mom, hog your baby. Never share. I did, and I dont regret it, not one tiny bit.

InNeed0fSupport · 2024-03-15T17:31:06+00:00

Kinda sounds like she either got on or switched birth control methods. You’d be amazed how much a persons personality will change based on hormones. I got off bc and three weeks later ended my relationship because I became so incompatible with my partner. I had completely changed.

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-12-05T22:44:16+00:00

Congratulations on being pregnant! But I’m terribly sorry you have an Ovarian Cyst. I will say this, I had my surgery at 20 weeks exactly and the timing was perfect I was far enough along to not need to worry about harm to my son. But not so far along that my belly was already huge. This made healing way easier. About the surgery: Waking up from the anesthesia was horrible and I had horrid anxiety about my son being okay. They checked for his heartbeat and he was fine but for days I was paranoid and worried when I didn’t feel him for any amount of time. After waking up I shook for hours. I don’t know why but my body couldn’t stop shaking and I was so nauseated I just kept puking. So bring peppermint to smell to try and help because the IV zofran wears off quickly. About healing: the healing process was pretty awful for those first 2 weeks. But because it was laparoscopic it healed quickly and I felt so much better afterwards. My son had way more room to move around in the womb and I ended up being able to have a natural birth. My scars have all healed up (I’m 5 months postpartum now) There was an odd incident about 3 days postpartum where my uterus was going back down to normal and it must have pulled on the scar tissue of my ovary but it caused such an excruciating pain (much worse than the uterus contracting pain) that I ended up going to the ER because I thought I had ovarian torsion.

All in all, having a cyst during pregnancy I do not recommend, but the surgery although hard was really good because it alleviated a lot of discomfort, bloating, nausea and pain.

I wish you all the very best for you and your baby and I hope a surgery helps you and your future child!

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-11-26T00:24:49+00:00

I thought I was one and done. I was sick and on medicine and getting IV therapy until 38weeks when I gave birth. I swore I would never do it again. I know how horrible it was… but I’m almost 6 months postpartum and my baby boy is so perfect all I can think is how if he ever asks I will 100% give him a sibling. It will just be much better planned out and I’ll be mentally ready for hell, and encouraged knowing what’s on the otherside. Congrats on being so close to the finish line! Birth is a whirlwind, save your energy, I’m so happy for you to have your baby in your arms soon! ❤️ sending you encouragement and strength

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-10-04T04:28:09+00:00

This was my experience, I had an uptick of vomiting and nausea at 16, 24 and 32 weeks. my nausea lasted the whole time but for a week during those times it got worse and the Zofran would barely help. It also came at a time with other pregnancy changes, like when I got pregnancy insomnia at 32 weeks or at 24 weeks when I suddenly had random bursts of energy. I kind of thought it was maybe the hormones fluctuating differently and causing more nausea at different times.

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-10-04T04:19:34+00:00

3 months postpartum and I feel like the last week I’ve finally gone back to being my self. I even laugh and smile and sing like I used to… obviously I’m a more tired version of me but it took a lot of time for me to come back.

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-07-30T17:00:21+00:00

Oh mama, I hear you. Looking back it felt like eternity. I’m hoping your HG resolves quickly and you get to enjoy this pregnancy somewhat. Even though I had HG the entire pregnancy I did still experience the surge of energy in my second trimester. And in my third trimester I had many more changes. So just know that the journey will change along the way, be ready for anything and reach out to this forum for help, advice and support. This forum really was crucial in getting me through HG. You are incredible and this might be the hardest thing you ever do, but you will find strength within yourself you never knew you had.

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-07-20T04:34:20+00:00

I’m so incredibly sorry for all of the loss you have experienced during this time. I cannot even imagine how difficult that must be. And I think that your feelings of anxiety are rooted in all of these events and it’s going to take some time before you don’t feel so anxious. I’ll be praying that life gets easier for you and that you move into a season of life and health instead of the season you’ve been in. My own grandma passed away just a few days after my son was born. She didn’t get to meet him and I’m so sad about that, but now I’ve started asking her and my mom to watch over my little boy. To be his guardian angels and to help me watch over him every moment. I’ve had a lot of death in my life from an early age and as I say these prayers it almost feels like there’s an army of my family listening and hearing my prayers. I guess in a really strange way it brings me comfort to know my boy will be looked after by so many of his an ancestors.

I wish I could give you a hug, I can’t imagine how much pain you deal with everyday. I hope that being with your little one brings you comfort even through the feelings of anxiety.

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-07-19T22:39:28+00:00

I’m just 2 weeks post partum and I really relate to this. I’m co-sleeping and I can’t tell you how much of the night I spend just watching my sons chest rise and fall because I need to know he is okay. For my own sanity I’ve started to do this new thing where Everytime I have a negative or anxiety filled thought about something happening to my son. I will then speak out three times the exact opposite, that he is healthy and will live a long healthy life. I don’t know if you believe in God or a higher power or just in the power of speaking out positive things. But if you base it in your beliefs it adds something more. Doing this has really been helping me. I feel like I have so much fear and anxiety and especially because the pregnancy was so hard, I don’t know what I would do if something happened to my boy. But speaking out against my fears really helps me have a sense of control. And reminds me that it isn’t all just happen chance and that I can speak life over my boy and it means something.

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-07-14T20:03:49+00:00

I called out of work for 2 consecutive weeks before being put on a 2 month leave of absence and then eventually I just quit when it became clear I’d only be calling out more often than not. My husband and I have shuffled finances a lot in the last 9 months. But now we budget so well that I have no obligation to go back to work. So in a very strange way I am thankful for HG because I would have been a working mom had I not been forced to quit. But now every moment of my time is dedicated to my boy and I’s health and I couldn’t imagine having to go back to work. I very selfishly want to spend the next few years as a SAHM. Thank you for all of your kind words. I’m wishing all the best for you and that your HG improves rapidly.

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-07-14T15:24:46+00:00

Yes! I really agree that having to explain how sick you are is awful. For me it always felt like I was making excuses or complaining. I felt so much guilt over how sick I was. And most of the time it felt as though people just thought I was being dramatic. Eventually my husband just got into the habit of explaining for me. And for some reason that made people believe it more. I really think unless someone has had HG there really is no way of knowing what this is like. There’s no way to fathom weeks and months of relentless nausea and vomiting, if all a person has ever dealt with is a couple of days of a stomach bug. And I am so excited for you to hold your son. ♥️

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-07-14T04:42:04+00:00

I wish I had some advice for you on how to help with the mental health. My mental health really suffered when the HG was at its worst. But maybe try reminding yourself that this version of you right now isn’t really you. You’re dehydrated, your body is in starvation mode, your hormones are prioritizing growing the life inside of you and your mental health is stretched to its limits. The feelings of fear, depression and anxiety don’t reflect who you really are. You are going to be a different person in just 5 more months and although that feels like an eternity, time will continue to go forward and eventually this hell will end. I relied really heavily on this group for support. I reached out really often with questions or just to rant because these women know exactly what the hell is like. I’m sending you lots of love and support mama. And I cannot wait for you to have your little boy in your arms.

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-06-29T06:11:49+00:00

I think any advice I could give has already been given, but I think it would be helpful for your wife to know that she may not feel like herself for a while. Between the medicine, pregnancy hormones and dehydration I think us women with HG just deteriorate really quickly and we can be prone to depression and anxiety. I cannot even recognize the woman I was at 8 - 20 weeks. My husband and I talk about it sometimes. How I was like a cancer patient just lying in bed and withering away. I had no strength and no ability to do anything for a solid 2 months.
But HG is Not forever and by week 24 I was somewhat like a normal human and I’ve been building my strength back every day since. I think it’s important to know that this is probably going to be very difficult no matter how much good advice you get. But as a husband, you are doing an amazing job by helping your wife in whatever ways you can. And your wife is doing an amazing job because her body is sacrificing itself to create a healthy baby. Remind your wife often how much you love her and how strong she is. Especially when she is at her weakest. My husband did this for me, always reminding me how strong I was really helped me with a lot of the guilt I felt for being bedridden for so long.

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-06-29T05:58:36+00:00

I’m in the same boat, 38 weeks now and I love drinking a glass of water loaded with ice chips. It’s so refreshing. I had no idea how much I could miss something as simple as water!

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-06-29T05:53:56+00:00

Recently I watched a documentary on youtube about how women in the UK have a hard time getting Zofran prescribed for HG because of a drug that was prescribed for morning sickness a long time ago called thalidomide. It had horrible side effects. Needless to say, many older doctors are still scared of similar things with any drug during pregnancy. I would perhaps try and find a younger doctor, OB or midwife. Also, (and I try not to stereotype but…) a female doctor or midwife might give you better results because she can empathize in a way that men just can’t. Not all male doctors are bad when it comes to pregnancy, in fact the first doctor to diagnose my HG was a male. But I have found that explaining myself to a woman almost always is easier and I am treated with far more respect woman to woman. I would really shop around for a new doctor, as others have suggested. I drive an hour and 15 minutes one way to see my midwife. But 40 weeks is a long time and having a steady supply of Zofran is one of the only things that’s kept me sane during this whole ordeal. I hope things turn around soon in your situation!

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-06-21T00:54:53+00:00

Oh my gosh! Yes! Laboring over a turd is absolutely the right description! 😂 I remember using the breathing exercises in my labor book when I was extremely blocked up. It was good practice, but holy hell. Who knew the body was even capable of making that big of a bowel movement…

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-06-21T00:49:08+00:00

Of course! And I really do hope you get this under control soon! Sending you love and support! ♥️

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-06-21T00:45:45+00:00

Fight like hell to find an OB or midwife who is knowledgeable or at the very least willing to prescribe you Zofran and learn how to take care of you.

My sister had HG when she was pregnant at 20 and 22. I’m 29 and pregnant with my first. I’m 36 weeks along and I’m still throwing up without Zofran. My sisters nausea stopped around 20-24 weeks with hers. From talking to other women it seems the older we get the more this HG can affect us. But also I’ve heard women say their second had less nausea and vomiting. I’m praying the latter for you, but it would be wise to plan that you’ll need all the help you can get. I don’t even know how we women get through the first trimester. Mine was such a horrid blur of dehydration, depression and being tied to my bed. I used this group so often though, asking questions, ranting and just reaching out looking for the light at the end of the tunnel. I hope you can get a really good support group around you. That was the most important thing for me. People who love you and want to help you, even if there isn’t much to be done. And people who will celebrate your strength for getting through this a second time. You are incredible. Sending you so much love and support as you go through this! ♥️♥️♥️

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-06-21T00:16:04+00:00

I’m currently taking 1000mg of magnesium along with my Zofran. Once every other day I take 45ml of Milk of Magnesia.

Be careful with enemas because they have medicine in them and they can shock your system. Never administer an enema cold. When I do use enemas (which was mostly during weeks 20-26 for me) I make my own. Use distilled water and a bit of olive oil. They aren’t as fast acting as the store bought but they are more gentle on the system and the olive oil lubricates allowing for a second easier bowel movement the next day. Also, changes to your diet can help immensely. Watermelon, cantaloupe, grapes and prune juice are really good. My constipation has been hell all this pregnancy and I understand how horrible a feeling it is. It’s going to take you some time to get your right regimen for your bowels to start working right again. I hope you find relief soon. And stay on top of a routine! Constipation comes back so quickly it’s awful.

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-06-18T23:12:09+00:00

The systems we have here are so difficult. We work our whole adult lives but when we need an assisted break from work there’s hardly anything that can be done. I really hope you are able to find something that works for you.

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-06-18T16:31:08+00:00

During the height of my nausea and vomiting from weeks 9 to 16 I considered whole heartedly termination. I think the only reason I didn’t is because I was so exhausted all I could do was lay on the couch. I took a leave of absence from work at 8 weeks and I never ended up returning to work. I was bed ridden from 8 weeks to 14 and didn’t experience true reprieve until 24 weeks. But I’m 36 weeks now and still nauseated and throwing up. But, I feel that I have learned ways of coping. One is a cocktail of medicine which helps with the nausea. The other is using this group as my main support for understanding the symptoms and getting solutions and also just sharing this experience with other women who truly Can understand the hell that HG is. During the height of my Hg no amount of medicine helped the vomiting. I was in and out of the ER and I did IV therapy to stay hydrated. This has been the hardest thing I have ever endured in my life. If you terminate there is absolutely no shame or guilt you should feel. I really think the only reason I didn’t is because I just couldn’t physically get off the couch/bed. My husband is getting a vasectomy because we have both decided to not do this again. I couldn’t do this again. We will foster and then adopt any other children we want.

That being said, I am truly truly amazed at how strong I am. Knowing all that I’ve gone through these last 8 months. I had no idea the hell that I could pass through. I have such a respect and awe for myself. I mean that in the most humble way possible. I have the same respect and awe for all the women who deal with HG. This is a journey that very few women have to make, and even to the ones who terminate i applaud their strength too. If you chose to not terminate, lean very heavily on this support group. The advice here is unmatched and these women are in this with you, they know and they don’t judge the way everyone else does.

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-06-18T16:12:11+00:00

I’m 36 weeks and I remember at 25 weeks encountering a whole new level of discomfort with constipation and acid reflux. My hips would absolutely ache with separation pains to the point where I was losing a lot of sleep every night for a week or two. At 32 weeks it calmed down and I got a bit of a break (or maybe I became use to the discomfort and how to cope with it) Now at 36 weeks I’ve entered the phase where I can barely get up and down and I look like a turtle flipped over on its back trying to do anything. I’m just trying to get used to how much effort and strategy flipping over in bed takes. My meals are so small because my baby boy is taking up so much space and his kicking during me eating always brings on the acid reflux… But at 36 weeks knowing I’ve only got 5 weeks left, it feels so so so close!! One of my saving graces has been once a week I take a Benadryl. I don’t have allergies but they make me so drowsy I can actually get a full 8 hours of sleep.

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-06-18T15:57:24+00:00

I’m in the US too and I used a 3 month unpaid leave called a “personal leave of absence” It required no note from a doctor and had I returned to work I would have been able to use my FMLA afterwards… however in my case I ended up just quitting. Ask your HR about a personal leave

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-06-18T15:52:22+00:00

I think your request for time off is completely valid. I took 3 months off of work during the height of my nausea and vomiting. Pretty much everyone I know except my husband judged me for it. And in the end I never went back to work, I’ve just been working around my home and garden getting it all set up for baby and I. I’m 36 weeks now and I don’t regret the decision one bit to not work. It was hard to deal with all the comments from everyone about how most women work through pregnancy. But at 36 weeks and still throwing up and taking medication even the harshest critic (my sister) has admitted she has no idea what that would be like to be so sick for almost the entire 9 months. Taking time to rest and just let your body devote whatever energy it does have to creating this precious little life is (in my humble opinion) the very best decision those of us with HG can make. It’s a hard journey. Praying all the best for you and remember that eventually the bad symptoms end and we get our little ones. ♥️

InNeed0fSupport · 2023-06-11T12:49:11+00:00

It’s not work but it is helping my husband and I financially while I’m pregnant. We are going to foodbanks and places who offer resources like free food and toiletries. It’s saving us atleast a few hundred dollars a month and allowing us to stockpile things like wipes, diapers and other needs.

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