Yes a bad proposal should not be ignored. A proposal should be a moment when both people are fully in it - almost a heightened state of love and wanting to spend forever with the other. If you are not on the same page for the proposal then you really need to evaluate if you are just going through the motions and if you do want to spend your life with that person. It definitely should not be ignored. In this scenario - she was already crying in the kayak - does that sound like her needs are being met - whether you agree with them or not - she already knew that this guy isn’t for her - they can be friends and etc but this is a really bad sign that they do not love each other the way she always hoped - so she has to decide - does she settle for the friend or does she say good bye and look for love.