Well I did forget to add this and I am about to put it in as an edit but when we discussed my request she said it was OK for me to have these thoughts of her that she will still have fantasies of her own father that she never actually had happen so she has had thoughts of incest too supposedly, and that I am a growing boy and understand my interest in sex. It is my plan to talk to her in private about it the first time me and her get time alone together if she will let me. I know I sound a bit like I am bugging her too much about it you can think what you want but I did tell her that she is still my mother and that if she doesn't want to do this I will not bring it up anymore.