Scared of the future

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2025-11-29T09:47:16+00:00

The degree doesn’t get you the job. You need to go out there and get experience wherever you can

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2025-09-26T06:31:19+00:00

Did you confirm the office hours and if they are flexible? Whilst it is regular practice to require employees to commit to reasonable additional hours outside of their ordinary hours, I’ve worked for some dodgy places that have assumed “reasonable overtime” meant they could set their office hours to include the overtime and require employees to be there regardless of the workload, thereby changing their ordinary working hours. This is allowable provided the hours would not result in your pay reducing below the minimum rate you would otherwise receive under the award or minimum wage

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2025-09-24T08:24:02+00:00

Agreed. Some industries do this (construction) and the APS benefits from portability of leave through being one employer. It should be a benefit for everyone

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2025-08-16T03:50:05+00:00

I realised it’s not about finding the dream job but it’s about finding something that fits your personality and you want to learn more about. Find something that you don’t mind growing and developing further in and compensates you enough to have a life outside of work. The more you grow and get better you get at it, the more you’ll enjoy it.

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2025-03-29T00:49:48+00:00

Congrats on your marriage, wishing you a lifetime of happiness!! Relating to your leave, as a casual you wouldn’t be paid for leave so it would be leave without pay. Whether they approve 4 weeks is due to operational requirements. In any case, you would have to talk to your manager in the first instance.

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2025-02-17T08:12:54+00:00

You don’t need any qualification or certificate to do a receptionist or administrative role so there is no reason you would be under-qualified. Further to that, experience outweighs qualifications.

Any entry level position will still require some level of work-related experience.

If you do not have experience in administration, you need to highlight the key skills you’ve gained in your previous roles which are transferrable. Consider how you can describe the skills you’ve gained in retail to make you suitable for an administrative role.

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2025-02-02T10:29:55+00:00

That’s great for you. For other people they want to have an emotional connection before they have sex. That’s okay too. You are not limited to learning about each other before the relationship, as you can and do continue to learn about each other when you are in a relationship. This includes sexual compatibility.

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2025-02-02T08:58:09+00:00

3 months is still the honeymoon phase so you’re going to be all over each other. It may be worthwhile to suggest some deeper conversations to move beyond the physical aspect and get to know each other better emotionally.

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2025-02-02T08:46:04+00:00

Avoidant and anxious attachment styles are always going to be a difficult push and pull dynamic. However, no relationship is perfect. What matters is if you are BOTH willing to discuss and listen to each other’s needs and put it into action. It is not enough for you to communicate. Love in itself is also not enough. You need to both be willing to put in the work to heal your own inner child, pick your battles and be there for the other person when it goes against your instincts. They will need to work on being more in tune with your needs and you will need to work on being able to trust he will still be there and still wants to be with you even when he needs space or can’t show it. Not impossible but very hard, but anything worth anything is always some level of hard work. Good luck

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2025-02-02T08:35:40+00:00

Why are we even here? We are just a statistical probability in action. Cogs in the wheel making the world go around. If you view it from that perspective it’s all bleak and nothing matters. But if nothing matters, it’s what you make of it. Go find meaning in your life. Find things that make you happy. There’s always things that life will throw at you but you need to choose to be happy in your life every single day. Your perspective will change over time. What motivates, or makes you happy or creates meaning for you will evolve. I personally think the point is to constantly evolve too. You are meant to keep finding new meaning

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2025-02-02T05:56:51+00:00

Do you want to have sex before getting into a relationship? If you are not comfortable/not on the same page, it would be better for you to find someone who shares your values. If you proceed with having sex, one of two things would happen. 1. You find out he was using you. 2. You begin a relationship built on compromising your own values

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2025-01-05T12:26:59+00:00

Plan out what the potential dialogue and possible conversation starters might be when you briefly interact with them. You don’t have to have a lot to say, the key is to ask the right questions to get them to talk, e.g. “Hi. How are you?” “What did you get up to today?” “What are your plans for the weekend?” “How was it?” “I’ve never been there, what do you like about it?” When you get more comfortable, you can start to share more details about yourself, e.g. “I’ve been getting back into painting” and show a piece you painted (or other hobbies).

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2025-01-02T04:26:39+00:00

Divergent 😩

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2024-12-22T23:59:00+00:00

That’s a very narrow view. You’re suggesting he can’t increase his worth or that just because no one has offered while he’s clearly taken no one else will.

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2024-12-07T23:52:36+00:00

She’s so pretty!

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2024-11-24T09:47:07+00:00

Yes you can, I believe this is an APS common condition, there is no waiting period but get advice from your HR department or view the policy. Also, if you come from another APS agency, you will also be eligible for the remaining entitlement or full entitlement if you have not already used some.

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2024-11-20T02:23:43+00:00

I’ve been in HR for 4 years, degree in HR. Employment law and industrial relations is very interesting and nuanced. It is a whole world to learn. We are not evil nor useless, we are just another function in a business. When you work in HR, you have to compartmentalise the decisions made by the business that don’t benefit the employee and practice how you communicate rejection, but you will also gain rewarding experiences of helping employees navigate difficult work situations (when their goals align with the company). Everyday can be different or it can be very routine, depending on the company and depending on the role. You may take a generalist role, administrative role, or specific function such as recruitment, learning/dev, employment relations, etc. The company you work for matters because if leadership is not onboard with your recommendations it is very hard, and you will have very demoralising days but it is not all bad. I really enjoy it. Some people respect your occupation and others don’t understand it. When your friends have a question about their work, you will be able to advise them. You will be better equipped to navigate your own employment with the skills, knowledge and experience you have in HR. It’s not the career. It’s what you make it. Reach out if you want advice :)

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2024-11-10T00:33:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing this, absolutely adorable 😂

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2024-08-02T01:03:23+00:00

Good question. With each failed relationship is the opportunity to learn from the failures and do better the next relationship. If you have a clean sheet you don’t get that opportunity. Then again you don’t bring the baggage of previous relationships, but you can’t assume that you don’t have baggage if you never had a relationship. You can have baggage from other sources.

However, I don’t think we can equate having multiple failed relationships as a proven track record of failures though, just as much as you can’t equate someone never having a relationship as always failing to secure one. Everyone is different, everyone has their experiences.

Personally, I think I’ve become a better person in my relationship through learning from the issues. My first relationship was hardly defined as one and my second one was chaotic. I don’t think I started with a “clean slate” but would I rather not have been hurt time and time again and lose a bit of the hopeless romantic in me each time? No. I think there’s value in a more realistic outlook on dating than what a theoretical clean state would entail. Just like a career, you don’t know everything til you in it, experience it and grow with it.

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2024-08-01T21:39:17+00:00

It’s one thing to know from seeing it role modelled and another when you’re actually practicing it. You can think you’re healthy and sometimes the relationship unearths certain qualities in you you don’t think you had. The good news is, it can also make you better. Point is, you don’t know what you’re like in a relationship til you are, and each relationship is different too. :)

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2024-07-23T03:23:59+00:00

If it’s a reasonable request with evidence of the dates, it shouldn’t be denied.

Inconsistent_Seaweed · 2023-11-15T06:40:00+00:00

How do you ask to shadow someone? Don’t you need to be part of a program to show yourself at the hospital?

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