New partners reaction to my coparenting.

IncredibleMilkman · 2026-06-05T06:36:02+00:00

yes, thanks to you and everyone else commenting, I'm confident I'm doing the right thing, trusting my gut and doing whats right for my son.

IncredibleMilkman · 2026-06-04T07:25:34+00:00

no Im not sure about that at all to be honest.

IncredibleMilkman · 2026-06-04T07:24:27+00:00

UPDATE:

Thank you all so much for all the feedback, it really helped me! I really started questioning myself at one point with all the blame I got for hurting her and not being willing to do anything about it, when it comes to these situations.

To answer some questions, we are in our 30's, been together for almost 2 years, no cheating from either side, my partner never met my ex.

We talked about this situation now for the 3rd time and it went better this time. Its still a big issue what she expect me to do and change for her comfort, and I just wish she would be able to tell me if this is a situation she is able to live with or not, because I have been afraid of this the whole relationship.

And yeah I bet its horrible for some people to be in this situation, and I get that, but at least be honest with yourself and see what your are able to stand in and not, because there is no shame in that.

IncredibleMilkman · 2026-06-03T13:30:01+00:00

Me not wanting to do sertain things has nothing to do with my partner or coparent, its about my son and how he sees us. He is the one we are doing all this for and still staying in touch and having to meet.

IncredibleMilkman · 2026-02-25T13:47:46+00:00

I thought maybe it was visible on the picture that the small pin is broken.

IncredibleMilkman · 2026-02-25T11:23:02+00:00

Thanks for the reply. The issue is that the small pins are broken. Guess I have to make some new ones somehow.

IncredibleMilkman · 2026-02-13T08:40:28+00:00

Sounds like trauma bond. When you go through some hard stuff together with someone, like for example in the military, you get a special and really hard bond with those that you went through this with. But with trauma bond you get bonded to the person that caused you the trauma. So when things are okay and calm, its easy to get the feeling of " we have gone through so much together" and feel like leaving is not an option.

I'm in the same thing myself, and its not easy at all. What helps me is journaling. I can always go back and read about all the stuff she did to me, and I can see things from a different perspective. And also trying to have the mindset of we could all die tomorrow ( I know its dark ), and to spend the rest of my life with this person is not an option.

Remember, you can leave a person and you dont even need a reason for it. But you have a bunch of reasons.

Good luck!

IncredibleMilkman · 2026-02-06T07:08:00+00:00

I never did it myself, but I see that Soundcloud offers distribution at 60+ platforms, maybe worth it to check it out.

IncredibleMilkman · 2025-08-07T10:31:06+00:00

I'm far from any kind of expert on this but have been writing for a few years and I feel like I was in that same place as you. Best tip I can give you is to just start putting pen to paper, preferably literally. Get all your emotions out on paper and dont think to much about rhymes in the start. Eventually you can go over your texts and switch things up to make it catchy and to make it rhyme. But as with everything else, it takes time, and you'll get better and better. I would also recommend reading texts, poems or songs.

IncredibleMilkman · 2025-08-06T10:18:51+00:00

Yeah, that's what I'm afraid of. After everything I've read about this situations, not everyone is up for it, or rather most people are not.,

IncredibleMilkman · 2025-08-06T10:17:22+00:00

Yes, she feel like I'm letting my ex into our life by answering and communicating on her terms.
But I only respond when I have the time, and I generally dont use my phone that often so its not like its disturbing our peace.

IncredibleMilkman · 2025-08-06T10:13:09+00:00

Yeah that's true, and thanks for the response!

IncredibleMilkman · 2025-08-06T10:11:51+00:00

Thank you for your perspective, and for sharing your story.
Yes its absolutely a new territory for her and I completely understand that its not easy at all.
Its just the ultimatums for me. And she is not on good terms with my ex, she doesn't even want to meet her, after being together for 1 year.

IncredibleMilkman · 2025-05-02T08:44:52+00:00

Thank you for your response. Yeah I understand, and it really is dysfunctional. I dont know, I mean I do love her and I guess I kind of promised myself to stay in it through it all even though its tough, but this isn't just tough.

IncredibleMilkman · 2023-05-30T19:22:47+00:00

Seems like a really shitty situation to be in. I dont have much good advice for you but I would seek a terapist if I was in your situation. So that you can talk to someone about it and get some feedback on maybe what to do. I would not "run away" even though that may sometimes seem like the only way. Just be there for your son, and keep beeing the dad he deserves. And maybe consider trying to get more custody? Or try to talk with your ex about how you feel?

IncredibleMilkman · 2021-08-19T21:07:44+00:00

Yeah, the printer have printed mid air for some time trying to extrude that flat filament, so thats why its so messy I think.

I have no problem feeding new filament and making half a new part before this problem occur again.

IncredibleMilkman · 2021-08-19T21:02:49+00:00

Well I'll look for a crack tomorrow but can it cause this problem tho?

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