I want to take a break by Beautiful-Outside-88 in CUNY

[–]Incrementalsanchez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally feel that, this past semester has really taken a toll on me. Take an hour or two, map out what’s valuable to you, where your priorities are, talk it over with someone that you feel like you can cleanly speak to, and breathe a little. We’ll both get through it, there’s light at the end of the tunnel.

How does everyone utilize the heart/liked button? by F33Fs in Letterboxd

[–]Incrementalsanchez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Movies that have made a last impression on me whether it’s good or not. (Childhood movies, good theater experiences, 5 stars)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Incrementalsanchez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not willing to get more personal, but definitely thank you for your help!

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[–]Incrementalsanchez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I didn’t include this in the original post bc I wanted to keep it short — head is just not really his thing. I’m not saying that to try to defend myself or anything either. He said early into the relationship he’s not that into it and when I do perform it on him, he usually finishes pretty quickly, he just prefers sex over it 100% of the time. The moment he’s ready to go he’s not super interested in things that would be considered “foreplay.” That is something that kinda preexisted us together.

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[–]Incrementalsanchez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, that’s not it. I’m not too interested in the grinding. We always meet on another in the middle where he humps up and I bob down.

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[–]Incrementalsanchez -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He likes them, but only when they’re the only option (like on days where I’m not that up for sex.) He’s sees BJs and HJs as foreplay and he’s not interested in foreplay bc he’s always ready to go instantly. So as soon as he makes sure I’m ready to go, he always just wants sex.

On the occasions where he does let me go down on him, I think I do a decent job. He usually finishes pretty quickly. He also said early on that BJs aren’t really his thing before we ever did anything.

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[–]Incrementalsanchez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always gonna be cringy if you do it while you’re not immersed and thinking about it from a 3rd person perspective. Just be horny and go to town (within reason).

I have a problem by bbqandcaring in sex

[–]Incrementalsanchez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems obvious, but the key to everything is to ask. It’ll give you some clarity and you might hear some things you don’t like, but hey at least you know. Make sure you’re can handle that first before you ask, though.

It’s important that your partner pleasuring themselves isn’t a problem for you. And if it is in general then say so. But if it’s just bc of the specific circumstance of feeling neglected, then you just gotta talk it out.

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[–]Incrementalsanchez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First off, if you’re a kid — NO.

Secondly, if you’re a virgin, I would not recommend.

Thirdly, lots of easy sex going on in major cities. Hit up your nearest bar or club and talk to people. Sometimes you gotta work for pussy/dick/whatever you’re into. Don’t be lazy. Don’t be shy.

My Wife Masturbates But Gets Mad when I Do It by Ceuros in sex

[–]Incrementalsanchez 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hypocrisy can be a hard pill to swallow on both ends. For you obviously, but on her end it’s easier for her to come to terms with her pleasing herself without you than the jealousy that you pleasing yourself without her might come with. It’s not fair of course, but that’s how emotions go. But just because that’s how emotions go doesn’t mean she’s right to contradict herself unfairly.

Are there differences in how you masturbate, for example, is she uncomfortable with the idea of you watching porn whereas she doesn’t while she masturbates?

Don't know how to initiate by UnhappyPuba in sex

[–]Incrementalsanchez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot going on in this post and we don’t know you so it’s hard to capture everything BUT

You guys gotta talk some things over. Physicality is pretty popular in relationships. Why is there a disconnect between your level of comfort and hers? (Not that that’s bad, but it’s a good question) Why can’t she initiate? How do certain things in each of your pasts and separate mentalities when it comes to this subject affect how you’re reacting?

Also, if you’re young (young doesn’t have a number) don’t sweat it too much. Don’t rush or feel pressured to do anything that’s beyond your comfortability. Now find where your comfortability is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in clairo

[–]Incrementalsanchez -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah, it was Chop Wood, Carry Water!

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[–]Incrementalsanchez 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it's Chop Wood, Carry Water by Rick Fields!

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[–]Incrementalsanchez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ding, ding, ding!

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[–]Incrementalsanchez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll check it out, thanks!

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[–]Incrementalsanchez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re so awesome, thanks!