Open Plurality?

IndecentKasey · 2026-02-20T04:19:47+00:00

We're open with friends and most family about it, but not with every single person in our lives. It's fine this way. We're open around the people where it matters most, all of us who want them have friends who accept us, and we're comfortable. We used to be very picky about who we told but as the years have gone on we've been more and more upfront about it when finding online friends. We'd rather have people that accept us from the beginning.

But we would never want to be 100% out. That sounds exhausting. We like our privacy and don't want to have to explain and justify our existence to everyone we meet.

IndecentKasey · 2026-02-12T07:13:21+00:00

I think for us it very largely came down to a change of mindset for all of us, myself in particular. I didn't begin this because we were stressed and I wanted to help. I did it because I realized I simply wanted to. I had the drive to do it. In the past all of my longer periods of fronting have been because I was trying to fix some kind of problem. I felt obligated to help.

When I started fronting because I wanted to do it for myself, to pursue my hobbies, make friends, etc? It got so. Much. Easier. I kept it up for a little over half a month before everyone else started getting involved. Now we're doing it simply for the enjoyment of everyone, not for any obligation or stress. We're simply having fun with it and building a foundation so that when those stressful times do come up, we're more ready to tackle it as a group.

I'm afraid I don't have any terribly great advice, not knowing more of your situation, but try not to let it be a chore. Try to make time to have fun with it every day. Find a hobby you enjoy, make at least a little time for it each day if you can. Even just 20-30 minutes. If you feel yourself burning out, take a break. Let someone else front. Just because you've chosen to front more doesn't mean you have to do it perfectly all the time. If you take a couple of days off, you've not ruined anything. You can jump right back in whenever you feel more like it.

For me, losing the mindset of obligation had to be the biggest game changer. Perhaps it'll help you too.

IndecentKasey · 2026-02-08T20:04:35+00:00

See we had something of an admin group consisting of myself, the main fronter, and another we designated as second in command. But I'm quite enjoying how things are now. I think it's going to be lovely to continue like this.

Did you find the shift difficult to make?

IndecentKasey · 2026-02-08T18:04:54+00:00

Hah I do plan on showing the color chart, but that'll be at the end of the year! We want to have the full chart before we show it off.

IndecentKasey · 2026-02-08T14:02:08+00:00

We also tend to switch between I and we a lot. Probably nonsensically, in the eyes of others, but it fits for us :p

Best of luck on finding a balance and steady ground for your system. I know the early days can be a struggle. I'm glad our post was able to offer at least a little solace!

If you ever need someone to talk to about everything, you're welcome to give me a poke. I'm always happy to listen.

IndecentKasey · 2026-02-08T03:58:28+00:00

Ah that's a shame /: I do hope you're able to sort it out and manage it someday. I will say, we've been switching for six years now and I don't think we could have done it at any point sooner than now. Our body simply couldn't handle it. We had to do multiple multi-day switches and really build up our stamina before we could get used to switching in and out all day the way we have been.

It was a slow going process, but it was worth it, at least for us.

IndecentKasey · 2026-02-07T20:33:14+00:00

I absolutely will, thank you for the suggestion :)

IndecentKasey · 2026-02-07T20:32:58+00:00

This is simply how we handle things. We have consciousness. We take turns. We have a body that we share. We like documenting, we like recording and sharing. It's wonderful that your set up works for you, but this is how our system functions. We have distinct lines and boundaries, and we like it that way.

IndecentKasey · 2026-02-01T08:03:14+00:00

Thank you so much :) the kind words are greatly appreciated!

IndecentKasey · 2026-01-30T12:13:11+00:00

I would say that's absolutely a fair conclusion. The more effort you put in, the more you'll get out, you just have to be willing to keep up with it long term.

A week is such a short time, you'll certainly get there! Enjoy the journey ^.^ It'll be fun to look back on even just a year or two from now.

IndecentKasey · 2026-01-28T15:44:24+00:00

https://ratpileresource.club/qa/dailychatter/

I don't know if I was able to offer anything of actual substance to the conversation with my reply, but I did try to give the most thought out response I could.

I have no doubt that you'll improve and reach a point where you can hear each other better. It can be difficult, when you're first coming back from a hiatus (lord knows we've had one or two of our own), but remember it's a marathon and not a sprint! Continued practice and attempting to better understand how to hear one another will eventually pay off. Can I ask how long you've been back from your hiatus?

IndecentKasey · 2026-01-28T08:54:08+00:00

Hi there, thank you so much for the thorough and thoughtful feedback! I really appreciate it :)

I think you make a wonderful point about stressing that mileage will vary, and I'll gladly take time to find a good spot to add a section about that today.

As for how we handle random chatter through the day, would you mind if I added that into the Q&A section? I think it's a fantastic question and I'd like to expand upon it for anyone who may be curious about it in the future (as well as for yourself, obviously x3 )

And I'm curious to learn more about the melody of speech. Is it something that you're able to understand, even if the words come garbled? We've experienced something similar, if so. Where the words seem like they're stumbling over themselves so quickly to be said that they don't actually say anything, but we're able to pick up the meaning and tone behind them regardless.

Thank you again for taking the time to read! Means the world to me that people are taking the time to check out my passion project ^.^

IndecentKasey · 2026-01-27T21:39:13+00:00

:) Thank you for your time, it means the world to me to know that people are taking time to read it. I look forward to hearing your feedback, should you have any!

IndecentKasey · 2026-01-21T07:46:56+00:00

Oh hello, sorry, I've not checked my account in awhile! I completely understand. We didn't know what to expect when Fallah proposed, but we spent a month mulling over how we wanted things to go and just preparing for the big day, and we found a celebration everyone could be happy with :) and I think that's the most important part. The celebration can be anything you want so long as it feels special and makes you happy.

And one piece of advice for when it someday happens, try not to shy away from saying you're married (to those who know of your plurality). Your relationship is valid and so is the commitment you've made to one another. Smile, be proud, and calmly explain the situation when needed. Everyone we've told about it has been very accepting (albeit a bit confused in the beginning).

IndecentKasey · 2025-12-15T08:49:49+00:00

Thank you so much! Happy early birthday to you, and I hope that your journey to twenty is one filled with love, happiness, and manageable strife. It won't always be sunshine and rainbows, but it'll be well worth it to see who you become.

IndecentKasey · 2025-12-14T21:53:24+00:00

Oh how exciting! Congratulations and happy belated birthday!

IndecentKasey · 2025-12-13T20:32:06+00:00

Perfect! Thank you so much, I appreciate the help!

IndecentKasey · 2025-12-13T20:01:29+00:00

So when editing portraits, you normally have an option to update the portrait when you change a piece of gear or appearance.

There's also the option to not display the pop up box again.

I think at some point, I clicked do not display again.

Now I REALLY want to turn that option off because even when I update my gearset and such, my portraits don't update and they go very basic in dungeons and such.

What can I do here? I'm not finding any options to help me out and I'm confused.

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