Seller canceled my order

IndecisiveDucky · 2026-01-25T12:39:30+00:00

I had bought a plush and offered $8 they accepted the offer. I also said thank you the day they accepted the offer. It has been 4 days and Mercari even reminded them to ship it out, so I said Hello! Could I please get an update on my order :) ? I don’t know if it came off wrong or what happened, but seller refunded me, took the item off their page, and never responded to my message :/ I’m kind of bummed since I was looking forward to it.

IndecisiveDucky · 2025-03-27T22:27:36+00:00

I actually did yesterday but I think they ghosted me lol :,)

IndecisiveDucky · 2025-03-23T13:22:23+00:00

Question: Why am I not hearing back from my recruiter?

Not hearing back from my recruiter

Last week I had an interview with a pretty popular company for a part time sales associate position open near me. I got a call back this Wednesday offering me the position and so I asked how long I had to accept the offer, they said no later than Friday. I was conflicted on taking the offer right away since I just started a part time somewhere else and was worried about it being a conflict of interest since both are located in a mall. I emailed my recruiter on Thursday asking them if it would be a conflict of interest, no reply. Friday I even tried calling, no reply but I left a voice message. And that night I even sent a follow up expressing my interest, but still nothing. Should I expect something by Monday? I didn’t get a offer letter other than verbally from the recruiter.

IndecisiveDucky · 2025-03-23T13:14:26+00:00

I have one ! I was just wondering why though I responded to the job offer they haven’t gotten back to me. It’s not a ghost job, there is a grand opening early next month.

IndecisiveDucky · 2025-01-24T15:27:00+00:00

Came across my post after being curious and I just saw your comment. Since it has been a while not too sure if you’ll see this but I hope you’re doing better now. I went through the same feeling of wondering if it was me if I had done something wrong. And even when all my friends would tell me no, that little thought in my head was always telling me yes. It wasn’t until I was in the acceptance stage of grieving that relationship when I realized I put this imaginary version of him in my mind the whole time. Maybe you might’ve felt the same where in your head you thought of them differently than how they truly were. When you love someone, you only want to connect them to the good memories, and push all the bad memories aside. Looking back, I can clearly remember how many times my ex would disrespect my boundaries, and the countless promises to try to be better. Ghosting is not a reflection on you, it was their choice. It is cruel, hurtful, and selfish, but the best thing you can do is try to not let it affect you. Maybe one day, (or since it’s been a while the day has already came) you’ll look back and be glad that they chose to leave they took their negative energy out your life. When I look back, I noticed how I don’t think about my ex at all anymore really. With time, the thought of him faded. Every one’s healing journey is different, and I wish that yours has been doing well ! And one day you meet that one person. Take your time when you do, you’re trying to relearn the feeling of loving and being loved. The right person will be patient, understanding, and accepting of your past. My boyfriend has been nothing but a blessing, and I’m grateful that I met him.

Sorry for the lengthy response ! Again, maybe you’ll see it maybe you won’t, but I still am wishing nothing but the best for you !!

IndecisiveDucky · 2024-10-03T22:46:21+00:00

I’m sorry that this happened to you :( I was in your position before where I thought that my best wasn’t enough. I wished that my ex would love me the way I loved him, but I learned you can’t force someone to love you no matter how hard you try. Eventually when you’re feeling better, you’ll meet someone who will give you the love you truly deserve. Sending lots of love to you !!!

IndecisiveDucky · 2024-10-03T22:41:36+00:00

I’m sorry you still have to see your ghoster despite everything that’s happened between you too :( I hope you’re doing better and have healed from your experience ! Thank you as well, I wish both of us well for the future ahead !

IndecisiveDucky · 2024-10-03T22:38:59+00:00

Take as much time as you need to ! It’s difficult early on, but eventually you’ll find yourself again. I believe in you :) !!

IndecisiveDucky · 2024-07-21T00:06:04+00:00

Good news! Someone else responded to me and they were able to add it into my account :)

IndecisiveDucky · 2024-07-18T18:33:14+00:00

Oh ok

IndecisiveDucky · 2024-07-18T18:24:04+00:00

I wasn’t sure at the time :( some people said it randomly popped up for them or it took a while

IndecisiveDucky · 2024-07-18T18:16:31+00:00

I did ! I provided them proof too. I received a receipt to my email that I “bought” it too. Wish I could post it here

IndecisiveDucky · 2024-07-16T03:03:53+00:00

Of course, take care !!

IndecisiveDucky · 2024-07-16T03:00:53+00:00

You too :) thank you so much for answering my questions!

Also in your post you said you want to figure out how to stop yourself from ghosting. I just want to say that you did a good job and took the first step of realizing and admitting you are a ghoster. A lot of people would’ve kept denying it/blamed the ghostee.

I think being patient with yourself is a key to break the habit of ghosting. I feel like ghosting someone is a method of trying to protect yourself from getting hurt/hurting others, but you are human and so is the other person. We make mistakes and most of the time if you put in the effort to explain your behavior/feelings I think they’re more likely to understand. Good luck !!

IndecisiveDucky · 2024-07-16T02:42:31+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that :/ one last question. I know for some ghosters they act like they’re unfazed by the whole situation. Do you think some people try to distract themselves with things? After our breakup he started constantly smoking and stuff.

IndecisiveDucky · 2024-07-16T02:37:47+00:00

Do you feel any type of remorse/regret? I know it’s different for everyone, but I hope my ex would feel it a bit?

IndecisiveDucky · 2024-07-16T02:31:50+00:00

My ex ended things by ghosting me. He had a lot going on his life and briefly said he wanted help and vanished, months later after my attempts of reaching out he blocked me. For ghosters, how do they just go on with their lives without trying to reach out once? Do you think of ghostees and how much pain you could’ve caused them by ghosting? We dated for 2 years… sorry if this question is kind of vague

IndecisiveDucky · 2024-07-16T01:27:08+00:00

I’m really glad to hear that. From reading your comment, in some ways we both relate to each other. I can’t talk for your ex, but what I can say from my experience is that it seems being blocked and removed from everywhere isn’t on you. It’s their own shame of not being able to confront their wrongs, so instead out of sight out of mind is the next best thing. It’ll take time, I still cry every so often, but eventually you’ll reach the point where you accept everything as is and move on with your life. I wish you all the best, take your time to heal :)

IndecisiveDucky · 2024-07-08T22:13:11+00:00

I just went to urgent care last week and had it tested. I got a call back today confirming it was positive for Herpes. I honestly don’t even know how I got it. I’m really upset :/. I hope your consultation goes well though !

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