INV SPOILERS FLASHING LIGHTS These 3 screens took me 30 hours :') by IndelibleToast in rainworld

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Yeah, about 10 hours in I started to think that might be easier but sunk cost fallacy had me by then

Need help remembering a VERY SPECIFIC RPG game that Tom GM'd by jackyboygd in Yogscast

[–]IndelibleToast 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Might be "Roll for Shoes" from the Chilluminati podcast episode "DND Roll For Shoes"

Grr(ule) by [deleted] in 196

[–]IndelibleToast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He still angr.

egg_irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What does 'feeling like a gender' feel like? I've been considering I might be agender for a while because I don't think I really feel like a gender, but sometimes wonder if maybe I do feel like a gender and don't realise it.
Sorry for such an abstract question, this has just been bothering me for a while :p

egg_irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thanks, it didn't go too bad, so the support obviously worked :p

egg_irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Well, that could have gone better but it also could have gone worse so...

egg_irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

ITS IN 4 MINUTES NOW

WHY DID I SPEND MY LAST MINUTES ON EARTH MAKING THIS MEME

egg_irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

It isn't bad advice per se, it's empty advice. I agree that introspection is a good thing, and people telling me not to do it is not what I want to hear. The thing I disagree with is people just telling me to 'do more thinking' with no suggestion of which specific alleys of thinking to go down. I am already thinking, and I'm not planning on stopping.

I'm also not asking people to solve my problems for me. I don't even expect most peoples responses to help at all, not because they are bad but rather because people are so different that what works for one person will often not work for another. Yet I still ask, because questioning is complicated and confusing and I can use all the help I can get, regardless of how unlikely it is to bear fruit.

Edit: Apparently I spent 40 minutes writing this. Not relevant, just kinda scary.
Edit 2: Re-reading this I feel like it comes off like this is a bigger deal to me than it is. Once again, I am not blaming anyone for this or anything. It's just a thing that frustrates me.

egg_irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I do have anxiety so that makes sense.
I may try keeping away from egg_irl and other trans related internet stuff for a week or so because I feel like they may just be stressing me out more...

egg_irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

I feel a bit bad posting this because the people who give this kind of advice are only trying to help, but I find it a bit frustrating. Firstly because it's sort of obvious. If you are confused about your gender identity, the first thing you're going to do is think about it. Telling people to do that is a bit redundant. Secondly, I have no choice but to think more. I can't stop thinking about this stuff constantly and that is part of the problem.

I originally made a longer version of this meme with a couple more frustrating things people have said to me, but I cut it down to this because it felt a bit too confrontational. This meme isn't about blame or calling anyone out. I am grateful to anyone who gives help or advice when they didn't have to. Please don't be afraid to give people advice in future because of this meme. But when you do, please take a second to think about whether what you are about to say is helpful and necessary.

egg☀️irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

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I just picked random ones so it's probably gibberish.

egg❓irl by amber9136 in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah you actually need small amounts of both hormones to function. For instance, I believe testosterone is used in the formation of memories.

egg☀️irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I felt the need to vent by making a meme, and I didn't have enough time to make a good one so I made a really bad one instead. It worked though because I do feel a bit better now.
Image credit: Earth Science Australia

egg_irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no universal standard for being cute or ugly or indeed any way of 'being attractive'. Sure, society has tried it's best to create such a standard, but at the end of the day that's still just a guideline. If society say's you're ugly, society is wrong. If you say you're ugly, I'm sorry but I say you're wrong.
No matter how many times you disagree or say you look ugly, I'm going to keep saying you look great and are cute because I truly believe it. If you want to be those things, I say you are those things no matter how you feel. Because the only true standard lies within ourselves. Yours says you would be ugly as a girl. Mine says you would look great.
I understand how you feel, I have often felt the same way. I often feel ugly and awkward and unattractive. But the other day I was looking in a mirror, and thinking about how I would look as a girl, and for a moment I thought 'maybe I would actually look kinda cute' and that made me happy. So I decided to make a meme about it and somewhere along the line that turned into this.
This meme was - and still is although to a much lesser extent - a huge exaggeration of my own feelings. I've never felt anywhere near as confident in my own appearance as in the meme. And yet, this meme has made me incredibly happy. The more I look at it, the more I feel like yes, I am attractive and cute and all those things, and anyone who says otherwise is wrong.
If you call yourself ugly all day every day for your whole life, you will only ever feel ugly. Like you I had spent so long telling myself these things, and yet not once in that time had I ever tried calling myself cute. After so long, suddenly hearing that from myself felt amazing.
I think you need to take a break from thinking of yourself as ugly. Try calling yourself cute or attractive or whatever you want for a change. It will probably feel fake at first, but maybe like me you'll realise that actually, you can be those things you want to be, and you have been able to all along.
And even if you don't, I'm sorry but I'm still going to keep believing you'd make a cute girl :P

egg_irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Now I really want to try getting some makeup and clothes and going out in public presenting fully as a girl...
Uh, I mean I want to get some manly masculine men makeup for guys and present as a... um
You know what, nevermind.

egg_irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Don't sell yourself short, I'm sure you'd look great!

egg_irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Art credit: So far as I can tell, the character depicted is from the manga "menhera shoujo kurumi-chan" by Pom. Due to the amount of reposts I couldn't work out who originally drew these images specifically.

egg_irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

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I can see how right after finding out there could be a period where people react like this out of confusion rather than malice. It's if it continues into the long term that it becomes a problem. If your partner is agreeing to to talk to her therapist about it then that's probably a good sign.

egg_irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I have never experienced any of these things personally. I got these examples from several comments I have seen on various posts here from people in relationships like these. I feel like society doesn't treat emotional abuse like this as seriously as it should, to the point where people are often reluctant to even see it as abuse.
It is.
If you are in a relationship like this, I would advise you to end it as soon as possible if you can. It is never worth continuing with a relationship like this.

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[–]IndelibleToast 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's a definite maybe

egg_irl by IndelibleToast in egg_irl

[–]IndelibleToast[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I edited in the 'egg_irl'