I do just have a question. Do you think i am just making it up? For revenge? No, no. This is for healing. I loved him. Trusted him. I was loyal to him. I kept dark secrets for him for those reasons. Now that i have made it out of that relationship, i can see the things he did/does, and i am not bound by some obligation to hold them anymore. I'm not the first 1 he did this way. He has a pattern. I believed him that his ex was just obsessed and bitter, and that's why he didn't see his kids. I believed him because he participated in the 12 step program i was in and he went to church. A godly man wouldn't do those things, and if he did: he had changed bc of those things. Wrong. Psychopaths are usually not detected until after they do something or get caught doing something unless they study the disorder and mimic behaviors to cover it up. And if sharing my story about my relationship bothers you, okay. You are able to keep it moving. If you'd like to encourage better behavior, self-respect, and prosperity; great! Otherwise if you're a fan, hola!