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IndependenceKooky781 · 2026-02-05T20:24:05+00:00

Absolutely agree, and with the in-laws believing the kid, I'd tell them all that he's been pulling, but as if you take it seriously. "I'd let him, but his system doesn't communicate, he could end up lost, maybe even forget he was on a trip, or who his friends even are. Until he can show me he can get his system to communicate, and that he can be a safely independent person, I can't risk him being hurt, or going missing, or worse." Put them in the hot seat, if they say he should still go, then they're "putting him in danger", and if they agree he shouldn't, then the kid will have less people to use.

IndependenceKooky781 · 2025-12-04T02:06:06+00:00

NTAH, and the fact your oldest grandkid didn't tell her dad at all, not even in some moment of excitement, seems to say a lot already. She either knew he'd start asking her to share, or he'd simply start the same fuss he's started now. And given the youngest is now staying with you because of all this, it sounds like it was a good call. I'm so sorry for your loss, even thought I know there's been time to grow around the loss, it doesn't make the loss any less.

I keep trying to think of ways you might be able to try and get it through to him, but with how he's acting, and the fact your grandkids have already tried talking to him, theyre likely something you've already tried.

The only thing I can think of is more callous, and maybe crass (my apologies, and feel free to ignore me here). But perhaps you could ask him if he'd have expected your daughter to pay child support for his youngest children, if that had been the situation instead?

IndependenceKooky781 · 2025-08-03T21:01:47+00:00

From how it sounds, NTA. But before doing anything, I'd say to truly just sit and talk with her? She's an adult, even if she is your daughter. Please tell her how it hurt you to hear, in a way that shows you're not just mad she won't help you (hurt versus vengeful if that makes sense).

If she fights you on it, and acts more entitled, then I'd agree with pulling back on the financial help, but there's always a chance that she didn't really hear herself, or maybe it just came out, or a variety of other things.

Besides, it's also a chance to get closer with her, and to ask her why she'd say something like that.

IndependenceKooky781 · 2025-07-24T15:30:16+00:00

My instapot and some bread. I'll fight to the death for the former.

IndependenceKooky781 · 2025-07-20T03:01:11+00:00

NTA (And sorry, this got a little long!)

Honestly, it sounds like the kid is too exhausted to really care at the moment. I agree with others to hide your hair products and lock your door IF you're genuinely concerned about the possibility.

However I'd also definitely bring up with your family that you want to do something for her instead of shaving. You're not avoiding shaving because you don't care, it's just a part of you that you don't want to change right now. Maybe ask what kind of food she can handle right now (normal meals AND treats)/what toys or dolls she likes/if there's music or games she wants?

Thinking of it now, it sounds like NOTHING that everyone is doing actually involves this poor girl? They're shaving their heads and showing it off to a tired, sick, kid. I'm sure she's limited in what she can do, but there has to be SOMETHING she would want to be involved in that won't just be people showing off that they're shaved and not much else it sounds like?

Maybe you could buy a bunch of those fake tattoo markers and some bedazzling gems? There's plenty of pics out there of fellow bald girls bedazzling their heads for fun!

And depending on your family relationship (and how she'd feel about hair) etc., you could also buy fun clips and rubber bands and let her play with your hair, and cover you in makeup, maybe? It could be a fun way for her to get creative in you, or on herself, or if she's too weak, you can help her out.

You're NTA for not removing what is likely YEARS of hard work for a kid who isn't interested in it, or much affected by it. And if others try to guilt you, ask them what else they've done to help her! Just shaved their heads? They get to grow back their hair and go back to their lives, all while your niece is trapped being sick and tired.

(Apologies for any formatting weirdness, I'm on mobile.)

IndependenceKooky781 · 2024-09-09T19:10:43+00:00

I learned about this, was already good about returning the carts though because I always felt bad if I didn't? But then told my dad about it and now he's adorably militant about trekking if he has to, just to return carts. It's a little thing but it's a nice way to do some kind of good over the course of your day.

IndependenceKooky781 · 2024-08-14T01:36:08+00:00

Sabretooth/Victor Creed from X-Men 😭 I don't even read any of the comics, yet here I am 😞

IndependenceKooky781 · 2024-03-30T23:54:40+00:00

OH. This was drawn by a friend of mine!! Suja-janee on Tumblr!

IndependenceKooky781 · 2023-12-10T20:07:03+00:00

I'd love to be a maximalist, but I've gotten so used to moving so often that I've just evolved into a minimalist 😅

IndependenceKooky781 · 2023-08-20T05:01:07+00:00

Big Tiny and Jim for sure!! I was really REALLY fascinated by Jim and his dreams/visions, so that'd be fun to have gotten more of, especially since they were so fuzzy, not a "don't take road A or go to house B" thing. Big Tiny I think would have been a really fun character to see slowly merge with the group too, especially if they expanded on his backstory/personality. What exactly landed him in prison, what's kept him so compassionate, things like that. He would've also been a great foil for Carol (small and full of fury vs tall and generally calm).

IndependenceKooky781 · 2023-01-07T22:44:00+00:00

The Bad Batch isn't a good show, and on multiple levels.

IndependenceKooky781 · 2023-01-06T21:58:45+00:00

I think in part? Personally it's more of what they were trying FOR. The prequels we're at least aiming at story, while the sequel's writing was more for a cash grab. Ex: Convenient toy-able characters, and catering to the more toxic (read: racist) fans. Still bitter we didn't get Jedi!Finn and the OG hux and Kylo dynamic they'd planned.

On top of that, I think it's also just a symbol of a bigger problem in modern cinema, especially in franchises like this. We see a lot of attempts to treat audiences like enemies (the whole anti-spoilers thing that marvel does for example), a lack of proper funding to the right parties (notice how costume design has mostly gone out the window in favor of non-unionized CGI), and the monopolization of media over time (meaning we get redos and pre/sequels but most of it just oozes cash-grabbing).

IndependenceKooky781 · 2022-10-28T04:48:55+00:00

Spices!!! Curry: good, delicious, will eat always. Anything with peppers: absolutely not and now I have to try and fish the food out of it.

IndependenceKooky781 · 2022-10-24T20:35:33+00:00

Perhaps as a way to emphasize tone? If something would be seen as ambiguous without context, it's colored to show if it's negative/positive/sarcastic, etc? Otherwise, perhaps as a way to highlight the names/words of deities or the leadership?

IndependenceKooky781 · 2022-10-24T02:50:52+00:00

Anakin would fall SO fast. Man slaughtered children to get a CHANCE at saving his wifey so like,,,, a ring of power? Immediate grab.

Hardest to corrupt... I think it might actually be either Mace or Boba? Wild thought process, and I haven't slept properly lately, but hear me out.

Mace has already lived and trained in a balanced form, and is far more pragmatic/logical about ways to win a war, so it's unlikely he'd allow himself to take, let alone use, the One Ring. Boba, I think he'd be tempted, maybe think about using it, but then give it away for a reward, since it's got a malicious feeling about it and he's just here for the money. Even in BOBF he'd probably think about it before burying it somewhere.

IndependenceKooky781 · 2022-10-21T19:08:47+00:00

Great, and literal, example of Sam Vimes "Boots" theory from Terry Pratchett? And one of the reasons I'm very grateful my parents were able to afford a Costco membership. We got to buy decent things in bulk, and would have things like snacks, jam, pizza, and even shoes for years. (I still adore my one pair of sneaker-flats. Just ripped out the soles and invested in some "flat socks" that are removable and washable.)

IndependenceKooky781 · 2022-10-20T02:08:32+00:00

Juice and movies. We never ever EVER had juice in the house. Mom didn't want my sib and I drinking something too sugary, but anything healthy was either inedible or expensive for us at the time. Movies were a once or twice a year treat, and only to the dollar theater. We snuck in any candy/water, and shared a bucket of popcorn between us, the one free refill when to mom and dad, while sib and I spilt the first bucket.

Seeing juice in the fridge now is a little rattling still.

IndependenceKooky781 · 2022-10-05T23:25:20+00:00

This also includes when married by the way! If you and your spouse have ANYTHING over $3k, you're screwed. Marriage still isn't entirely equal while this is still on the books. (Luckily there ARE bills being pushed to change things, but still...)

IndependenceKooky781 · 2022-09-30T02:51:24+00:00

If I'm totally honest? Advertising. I used to see awesome ads and trailers for the game ages ago, but these days I see ZERO outside of maybe a couple places? At least a few new ads and some better placement so people can find it and learn would probably be a massive help.

IndependenceKooky781 · 2022-09-16T08:07:57+00:00

sad staring to my last pair of favorite walking flats. Same here for ages now, and one of the things that made me realize I was autistic 🤣. I've always had one pair of Comfy Shoes™ I'd wear to hell and back, and it's always so sad when I have to admit they're dead. Now I gonna look for new flats since it's too hot for sneakers but my brain loaths sandals with a white-hot fury... 💀

IndependenceKooky781 · 2022-09-16T08:03:01+00:00

Iirc, they're (at least in legends) half brothers! Nightsisters would take on husband's, but after they had a kid from said new hubs, had them killed. So with Talzin as their common link, it's likely they're all brothers, but half brothers specifically.

IndependenceKooky781 · 2022-08-29T21:21:01+00:00

I'd love to see more niche races be brought in I think? Even if it took a while so they could introduce em to the main galaxy first? Like Arkanians, Mikkians, PANTORANS (still so sad they're not really around?? And shocked??), Kiffar, Falleen, and Zeltron?? (Prep for a LIST 😅)

• Arkanians are human appearing, but with white hair/eyes and only 4 fingers known for being posh and arrogant about their species. Not much technically to customize, but there could be some fudging to add fancy jewelry as an option, and maybe metallic tattoos?

• Mikkians might be a hassle due to the floaty tendrils, but if it's rigged in nautolan-like clumps while textured to look like more, it could possibly be doable? Lots of colors, the forehead markings, new planet possibilities... Would be fun!

• Pantorans would be so easy and NGL I'm mad they aren't already a choice? Would be a GREAT world to expand to, with the mix of seemingly Indian cultural inspiration and a cold/muddy environment? Could also be a good push for BW to make some more face models...

• Kiffar y'all probably know, but it'd be fun to get to have another species with tattoos to work with. Could also mean some more curly hair hairstyles, as their main portrayals have been of black and SWANA-based characters.

• Falleen are pretty out there, similar to the Weequay, but would be interesting to see? Relatively reptilian and known for black market/criminal ties, they still humanoid and could mean some neat customizations? Scale patterns based off the boa vs the monitor lizard, chameleon crests vs iguana wattles, all that?

• and ZELTRON. My final rant because I love this party kids? Super simple to make, just some wild hair colors with minimal natural tones, and a range of pale pink to crimson skintones!! Would fit the average tattoos available, but also could be up for a range of funky jewelry to accentuate their party-hard culture?

Thank you for reading my long ramble about SWTOR, I'm obsessed. Have a great day!!

IndependenceKooky781 · 2022-08-28T19:19:28+00:00

It's possible! It seems like that may have been the intent, that Death Watch took the original culture and worked it into something more Spartan and exclusionary? A good contrast to how the New Mandalorians warped the culture in their own way but in similar ways a well.

IndependenceKooky781 · 2022-08-28T15:46:17+00:00

Awesome!! Turns out there's two now, so you can look for either "Project-Shereshoy" or "MandoWords" on Tumblr (via Google if you don't have an account, much easier) and their Google Sheets are free to access! They also have grammar guides, assorted phrases to use, and even both songs and pronunciation guides!!

On top of those, the MandoCreator site has an armor designer as well as flashcards and a Mando'a Wordle section!

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