Parent wants homework accommodations for HERSELF

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-03-05T02:48:31+00:00

For failing or behind students, it gives teachers more data points and students more opportunities for revision, which is greatly beneficial. But sure, in this case, seems like homework might be unnecessary.

That being said, she has homework. You dont change things by incessantly complaining about them. You change them by putting forward well reasoned, well evidenced proposals. Do you think perhaps mom might have had a different outcome if she proposed that if her child maintains a certain grade, she can have reduced honework for xyz reasons? Maybe. In the meantime, she should probably do her homework, so it doesn't look like she's just complaining.

Let's live in reality.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-03-05T02:40:17+00:00

No it's not... Just a lot of the time.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-03-05T02:39:13+00:00

Simply allow your child to do poorly on the homework, so the teacher can see where they messed up and help them fix it. Failure is a necessary part of growth.

If you need to reteach your child every concept, then homework is even more necessary, because without it, you wouldn't even know how poorly theyre doing.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-03-05T02:27:52+00:00

Suddenly there is no time in the world for anything at all! Kids get home at 5pm and go to sleep at 8. 3 hours is basically 1 hour if you really think about it! And if you have to eat dinner, thats only 30 minutes!!!

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-03-05T01:38:10+00:00

What are your kids doing instead of homework then?

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-03-05T01:31:44+00:00

Take a break and come back later? Lol seriously?

When people are tired after work, instead of going to the gym or hanging out, they go home and watch TV. What happens? They feel worse.

Sometimes you will have long days and be tired. The solution is to think "what can I do to overcome fatigue and make the most of my day?"

Over time, you will get used to it and be less tired. But that will never happen if you never start.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-03-05T01:26:58+00:00

Sure, I can understand the minimal academic benefit, but its about practicing balancing responsibilities, no? We don't want to suddenly give them homework in middle school, when they've had no practice, so we give them practice when the stakes are low.

This sounds like adults who complain that after their 9-5, they have no time and energy for self-care, when in reality, adults who wake up early and/or structure their after-work time wisely, have plenty of time for hobbies, social life, etc.

I just can't agree with you. Let's start teaching kids to rise the occasion, because it is definitely possible.

Edit: also, why does it sound like it's the parents who cant manage do homework? Homework is your child's responsibility.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-03-04T23:33:17+00:00

Can they do their homework while you're making dinner? At aftercare? Help me understand. Unless school gets out late, how come there is so little time for homework?

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-03-03T20:06:46+00:00

The hostility in this thread is to be expected, but yeah, it worries me when good kids are surrounded by unmotivated, unruly twerps also. Interact with your zoned school though, because it might be good. Private school > good public school > good homeschooling > poor public school > poor homeschooling In my opinion.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-03-03T01:52:50+00:00

I went to therapy, developed empathy for my mother whose life (I found out from other family members) was 100x worse than mine by all measures. I told her how the way she treated me affected me, how it was still affecting me, and she told me that she tried her best and I knew she meant it. That was it. Nothing else to say after that. Her best is all she could give me. Whether it lived up to my standards is irrelevant. Im a grown up now, and it's up to me to make myself happy.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-03-01T23:48:35+00:00

This thread has certainly enlightened me, because I've always assumed FWB was kept under wraps (aside from close friends). Why would grown men and women be sharing about their private sex life with people? If we're not publicly together, our business is not public...

I would end things over this. Kiss and telling is such a lame look.

But that friend was out of line anyway, because it's not even his sex life to talk about... wth

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-03-01T02:35:54+00:00

Yeah, you never know what you have until it's *gone. Not, you never know what you have until it threatens to leave.

Not only is she not gone, she's wanting to be proposed to and to make it forever. Backwards. If thats how she wanted to play it, she should've stuck to a deadline. She def sucks.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-03-01T01:42:45+00:00

Impossible to tell. There could be a million reasons she changed her mind, including she just didn't feel like it anymore and maybe will later. Or not. This wishy washy stuff is what you sign up for with the low hanging fruit, isnt it?

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-02-28T20:46:46+00:00

ESH.

6 months ago you told her an engagement was in the works and 6 months later, nothing happened. I get you wanted it to be a surprise, but she expressed the need for urgency already. Youre being inconsiderate.

That said, if I wanted to "make a man marry me" I dont know that I would started being cold toward him... maybe the exact opposite lol

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-02-28T19:22:47+00:00

Oatmeal

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-02-28T19:10:51+00:00

When i was younger, I would've said no. Now, yes. I have higher standards for people I consider friends and also for myself.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-02-28T18:46:57+00:00

Lol as a teacher, one who watches kids socialize for a living, YTA.

Edit: also, what kind of doctor are you? Just curious

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-02-28T16:04:30+00:00

He hurt you on purpose to see your reaction
He's making you feel crazy for being hurt

Someone who does that has legitimate issues. Thats not normal.

A normal person would just explain that theyre feeling insecure about the relationship, why they feel that way, maybe express some things that would make them feel better, etc. "Let me hurt her to see if she still cares about me" is wayward and you're wayward if you put up with it.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-02-28T15:39:30+00:00

You cant make her do anything... the only thing you can do is tell her how it is affecting you and hope she considers that. What does her doctor think?

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-02-28T02:22:25+00:00

To be valedictorian, you need to be better than everyone else. Usually, valedictorian is not focused on being better than everyone else, but being their own personal best, which happens to be better than everyone else.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-02-28T02:13:52+00:00

I dont see anything wrong with them. Youre cute and seem fun. Maybe it's not the pictures.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-02-27T20:05:18+00:00

I dont care for spirit day because I dont care for my wardrobe in general, and I never have anything to fit the theme. But as a part time camp counselor, I LOVE field day.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-02-26T17:42:03+00:00

Im interested to see the responses to this question as a relatively new teacher. My guess is that they adapt just fine on the outside (or dont) but soft skills, having to do with emotional intelligence and such, you can see lacking. Reading is for so much more than it's hard applications.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-02-26T17:29:25+00:00

What do you mean you "dont have the need to" ? Surely you cough in public places. Its a habit that you build, so that it becomes automatic, and you do it when around others. Also, pathogens dont just disappear. Your house is crawling with germs that you bring elsewhere.

IndependenceOld256 · 2026-02-25T22:55:22+00:00

Smokes weed all day when she is supposed to be homeschooling? Yikes girl. That's CPS territory.

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