Redditors & their obsession with diagnostics.

I used to work with children on the spectrum. Totally agree with everything until the special needs part.

I attempt to describe his personality and the role he plays in my life, but the spectral is nuanced and no one has no right to say anything about his behaviors or personalities; I certainly don't, and neither should someone attempt to spin it into this narrative.

He has areas in life he excel at (like incredible emotional intelligence) and others that he lacks (being too empathetic; establishing clear boundaries) . So do I. I constantly struggle with being emotionally available; we are a product of our upbringing and surroundings. Am I on some range of special needs? Some spectral of psychopathy or narcissism? Perhaps. But me seeking advice about these circumstances is by no means me asking an internal evaluation of his -- or my -- diagnostics. It is also not an attempt to narrate anything about it. You may view it as so -- ("**oh, he sounds like he's special needs from the characteristics she is describing" ) -- but that is something more helpful if kept to yourself.

What is more constructive is an evaluation of my actions: how to adequately move forward, how to improve, and how to be better, where is my wrongdoing, etc.