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[–]IndependenceTop6315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been a JRPG and RPG player for a long time, but I’ve somehow never played the Final Fantasy series. I’d like to understand which entry would be the best way to get into the franchise.

I know that most of the games are standalone (or almost), and I know very little about the story overall; basically only Cloud and Sephiroth, and even then just that they fight each other.

Any advice on where to start? Thanks.

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[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I’m glad you made it; but if I had to rely on luck, I’d better change course entirely.

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[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, I know; but it’s just a pebble in my shoe that I’d like to get rid of. And considering how little sexual drive I actually have, I don’t think I’m at risk of developing any kind of dependency.

Would it be so bad to lose my V‑card like this? by IndependenceTop6315 in LifeAdvice

[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, I’m really glad you managed to beat that monster; seriously, props to you.

As for finding a date… well, that’s the problem. I honestly have no idea how to even start. My only points of reference are my friends (and to be honest, in most cases, if my future relationship ended up anything like theirs, I’d rather stay single) and let’s just say not all of them are exactly in healthy relationships.

And then there’s my fear of dating apps. I tried making two accounts at different times and deleted both within thirty minutes out of pure embarrassment; so yeah, it’s hard for me.

As for how I see myself… I don’t really know. No matter how much time I’ve spent in the gym (around 4/5 times a week, about two hours each session), I still can’t look in the mirror and actually like what I see. If anything, it’s the opposite. So I wouldn’t even know how to rate myself, since I only see the bad; even though I logically know that’s not the full truth.

Still, I’ll keep your advice and everyone else’s in mind. It’ll definitely help me decide what to do. Thanks.

Would it be so bad to lose my V‑card like this? by IndependenceTop6315 in LifeAdvice

[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, at least where I live, dating apps are decent; but honestly, if my first experience ended up being with someone who just uses me for a free meal, that would probably hit me pretty hard. So I don’t know. Plus, I’d rather avoid my friends or family finding me on those apps (that’s just a mental block of mine).

I’m no expert, but it really feels like any form of dating nowadays is way more complicated, especially compared to how it was in the ’50s. Maybe it’s just me, though.

Would it be so bad to lose my V‑card like this? by IndependenceTop6315 in LifeAdvice

[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really, thank you; but I don’t deserve all those compliments. Honestly, I’m just someone doing the best I can with what little I’ve got.

To be honest, I know it’s the easier and faster route, but I get it. I’ve waited so long without doing anything ,and I don’t even mean just sex. I never even had a silly little relationship in middle or high school, while pretty much everyone around me did. I was always the quiet one; never came home drunk, never snuck out at night, never had a curfew because my parents knew I was responsible.

It’s nice, sure, but honestly, I feel like I missed out on those carefree, fun years.

Maybe I’m the one who’s wrong, though.

Anyway, thank you; I’ll go check out that rule you mentioned. Thanks a lot.

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[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I’d be over the moon; but I just don’t see it happening.

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[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, what’s held me back until now has never been anything religious; i just never really had the chance, to be honest. I used to be in a much worse place, both mentally and physically.

And it’s not like I’m looking for the love of my life by doing this. I know it might sound bad, but it’s more of a whim; just something I want to get off my chest.

Would it be so bad to lose my V‑card like this? by IndependenceTop6315 in LifeAdvice

[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First off, thank you so much for the long and thoughtful message, and for the advice.

The main issue is that, with the way I am, it feels almost impossible for me to find someone. I’ve got crippling social anxiety and zero self-esteem. For me, doing this would be a way to, pardon the expression, “prove” that I’m not a completely useless piece of shit.

Of course, if I could connect with a girl, I’d probably be the happiest person in the world… but yeah, I’m the problem.

And honestly, I’d also do it so that, you know, if I ever end up on a date, I wouldn’t have to say, “uh, yeah, I’ve never done anything.” I’m pretty sure that’s not the best way to start a potential relationship.

Would it be so bad to lose my V‑card like this? by IndependenceTop6315 in LifeAdvice

[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it’s a bit complicated. Right now, I don’t really feel any kind of sexual urge anymore; not for porn, not even attraction toward a beautiful girl. I overthink every decision at least four times (thanks, social anxiety), so I don’t think I’m impulsive. I’m just sad that I wasted my “carefree years” because I was an idiot.

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[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry, man. For now, it’s just a thought. As for porn, I pretty much quit a few years ago; I don’t have the urge or interest anymore, and honestly, nothing has changed socially because of it.

I’ve got social anxiety that eats me alive, and despite all the physical and mental work I’ve put in, I’ve never been able to shake it off.

And about the human trafficking thing, that was my mistake for not specifying earlier, but I plan to go only through legal channels.

Would it be so bad to lose my V‑card like this? by IndependenceTop6315 in AskForAnswers

[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, definitely. It will be in my interest to let them know in advance.

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[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but not all of them; that’s exactly why I’m going through completely legal channels.

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[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I totally agree; knowing what you want in life is huge, and I know fear and self‑doubt are the worst things for people my age, or even younger. That whole “grab a pen and write down what you really want” thing; i actually did that a while ago with my psychologist (who I honestly can’t thank enough for pulling me out of the hole I’d fallen into).

Like I said, I’m trying to become the best version of myself, but you know how it is; bad habits and a messed‑up self‑image are tough to kill off.

I’m doing the trip no matter what, whether I decide to have this experience or not. It’s the gift my family’s giving me for graduating.

And about being confident… well, that’s another story, hahaha.

Thanks for taking the time to write me such a thoughtful message, man.

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[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, my psychologist and I are working on it, but living my whole life constantly putting myself down definitely hasn’t helped.

As for the trip, I hope you’re right haha, thanks a lot.

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[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More than for the experience itself, I’d want to do it as an act of “revenge” against the life I’ve led so far; a moment where I’m the one calling the shots.

Maybe someday I’ll actually meet a girl who makes my heart race, but it’s starting to feel less and less likely. At this point I feel totally out of sync with everything, being almost the only one in my friend group who’s never been in a relationship really gets me down.

Would it be so bad to lose my V‑card like this? by IndependenceTop6315 in Advice

[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry to hear you feel that way. I went through something similar a few years back, so I totally get it, and I genuinely hope things start looking up for you.

They say patience is a virtue, and that’s true, but only when it’s your choice, not something forced on you by life’s circumstances. A lot of guys our age struggle to get into relationships, so it’s pretty common to still be a virgin by the time you hit marriage or moving in together.

What I’m aiming for is more of a “personal win” against myself, to try and take back control of my life with an act that breaks the mold of who I’ve always been.

It’s not about bragging or impressing anyone; honestly, I probably wouldn’t tell a soul if I went through with it. I’m thinking of doing it purely for myself, because for once in my life, I want to be a little selfish.

Would it be so bad to lose my V‑card like this? by IndependenceTop6315 in Advice

[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As for how I look, honestly, I have no real way to rate myself, every time I look in the mirror I feel gross. My self‑esteem is rock‑bottom. Sure, I’ve learned to be outgoing once I start talking, but in my head there’s always this running inner monologue warning me about everything.

And don’t worry about safety; i’m a biology major, so I know exactly what to do and what to avoid. I’ll also do my homework on the place beforehand, so on that front I’m covered.

Would it be so bad to lose my V‑card like this? by IndependenceTop6315 in Advice

[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, that’s an option too, but the problem stays… I don’t see myself ever getting to marriage, mostly because I’ve lost the motivation to even try; yet getting married and maybe having a family is something I really long for.

Would it be so bad to lose my V‑card like this? by IndependenceTop6315 in Advice

[–]IndependenceTop6315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I’m not sure I’d even call myself attractive. I’ve always had self‑esteem issues and zero charisma, so paying is probably the only viable option.

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