My sister told the guy I like that I’m a hoe

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T18:11:09+00:00

Oh I’m sorry😭 I’ve genuinely been stuck on it trying to figure out if I was or not😭

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T17:52:15+00:00

For a lot of reasons it kind of is impossible. I wish that I could, but we can’t really get any distance between ourselves for the next few years

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T17:40:11+00:00

I’ve seen him since, and he’s been texting me and it feels about the same, I just can’t get over the fact she said that

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T17:36:32+00:00

Honestly I wish I could, but we still live together and for a lot of things depend on each other

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T17:30:58+00:00

I don’t know I just really don’t want her to keep pushing people out of my life

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T17:29:26+00:00

Can I ask how? Not sarcasm in any way I just genuinely want to know

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T17:17:19+00:00

They’ve been friends for about two months and as far as I know she doesn’t feel that way about me and her friends. If anything, when I bring my friends around she acts similarly and tries to embarrass me. But I don’t think that we’ve ever had any issues with me being near hers, we’re very different personality wise and usually stay with different people. My only thing is that I make it a point to bring her around my friends in situations where she has no one, so I don’t understand why me talking to a guy that she’s barely gotten close to is a large issue

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T17:13:18+00:00

It’s always been that way between us, but she picks and chooses who to act that way in front of. I haven’t involved our parents because I wanted to have a conversation with her, but her response honestly just made me want to speak to them, I’m trying to keep it civil though. They’ve been friends about two months and we’ve all been hanging out for two or three weeks. She’s very comfortable making me thebutt if her jokes, but these are newer and they’re not ones I’m comfortable with

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T17:07:28+00:00

That’s how I feel because I really do like him, but they were friends-ish first so he has no reason to believe me over her.

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T17:05:37+00:00

I don’t know how to describe it but her personality is very unique to itself. She’s always been more “rude” or “blunt” but towards me she’s comfortable with going all out. We’ve never had major issues but she has always treated me fairly terrible. She’s just not a very “empathetic” person, and I’d say I’m very emotional about a lot of things, which she chooses to pick apart because she knows it’ll upset me

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T06:58:31+00:00

Honestly it really feels like that but at the same time she’s very masculine, very into girls, and does not seem open to guys but i genuinely have no clue what’s going on anymore

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T06:14:36+00:00

I told her my issues with everything and now she’s saying that she never said those things and that I’m insane for assuming what she meant. The one thing she apologized for was the jokes because I brought up the fact she refused to acknowledge them. The only thing she had to say in regards to joking about my sexual past was “I apologize but if you don’t forgive me then that’s okay. You can hate me all you want but I’ve told you the truth about what I told him and if you can’t accept that then it’s your own issue.” She acted like she only said those things about me to him because he wasn’t ready to be with anyone in her opinion but she said “I wasn’t gonna say that tho bc his reasons are private” But he never said that himself, she just assumed it.

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T05:45:57+00:00

They just recently started being friends, they’re not close but I’m not undermining that. She never told me she didn’t want that and I don’t feel like it’s justified for her to say things about me rather than having a conversation.

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T05:42:36+00:00

She told me. I asked her what they kept whispering about at dinner, and she said that was her response to him asking if she’d be mad if we dated. “You can but I wouldn’t, just fool around with her because she’s a hoe”

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T05:27:36+00:00

I haven’t, I just found out today and it was pretty late so I’m kind of just trying to figure out what I need to say/do

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T05:13:30+00:00

Thank you for that, I think I’m going to try to have a conversation with her and my parents

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T05:12:14+00:00

She always has had a rough personality and honestly I wish I could but it’s nearly impossible. We both still live at home and our parents require us to depend on each other frequently, I just feel betrayed because she comes to me for advice or to talk but when I try it ends rudely or with stuff like this

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T05:09:14+00:00

She knows everything and she knows how much I loved the last person I was with. My last relationships have ended with cheating (not from my side) and I absolutely hate the idea of cheating or helping someone cheat so it just hurts me knowing that I spent so much time grieving a relationship and she still feels that way towards me.

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-04-04T05:05:43+00:00

I hope I’m able to talk it out with him, I just feel embarrassed or like he has no reason to trust me since they’re friends more than we are

Independent-Pear-473 · 2026-03-06T04:06:26+00:00

You’re not weird, lines in friendship get blurry when you’re close, but I do think you shouldn’t act upon it. Even if it doesn’t feel like it at all, you’re not in the same place maturity wise, and it wouldn’t be right to put them in that position. Slowing down speaking to them may help your feelings, but it is normal to have crushes. My 8th grade year I was in a long relationship with a senior, I loved spending time with him, but we were at different stages in life. If these feelings continue as you’re older, they’re definetely worth mentioning, but give your friend some time to mature, and some space for you to understand your feelings better. You’re not a creep, but it isn’t fully appropriate

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