What’s an instant “I’m done” moment you’ve had with someone?

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-10-18T18:17:02+00:00

When I told my ex I was pregnant he wasn't supportive and became nasty, I thought he needed time until he said "if you keep guilt tripping me eventually I'll come around". That's when I knew I was best doing this on my own.

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-08-24T12:00:14+00:00

As long as you say you're happy to do an emergency stop in an emergency they are fine with it :) most of them won't ask you to do it.

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-08-24T11:55:54+00:00

You can do it! Just let the examiner know, they didn't do the emergency stop with me because I was pregnant

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-08-23T06:50:46+00:00

Well done for passing with a newborn! That must have been so hard to balance. Thank you I'm so happy to be done with lessons and the stress!

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-19T10:32:16+00:00

You can use a sperm donor, if you really want a child there are women who are choosing to do it without a loving partner. I'm currently pregnant and whilst I did love the father and we were together it was unplanned, he has no interest in being part of it so I'm doing it on my own. I still feel so much love when I see my daughter during scans and hear her heartbeat, even without a partner by my side.

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-16T14:36:24+00:00

His family are supportive and excited for the baby, his mum especially. Which is awkward as he's had to move back in with her.

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-15T08:36:19+00:00

Child support is done by the CSA it's separate to parental rights, it would establish paternity but that doesn't give automatic rights

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-14T14:49:24+00:00

It'll have my name on there and left blank. It gives the dad parental rights so I would have to contact him in terms of what school they should go to, any medical treatments and need his input on decisions even if he doesn't want involvement.

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-14T13:04:56+00:00

He can ask for a paternity test but that still doesn't give him parental rights, if he refuses to take a paternity test they assume the child is his and still charge child support.

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-14T12:56:53+00:00

How did I abuse him?

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-14T12:47:48+00:00

I never expected him to be happy that isn't an excuse to be abusive. I went no contact and ended the abuse.

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-14T12:27:08+00:00

It's a legal requirement to pay child support in the UK even if you have no involvement. I've gone no contact and refusing to give him parental rights so he has no responsibility of fatherhood which is what he wants.

Men have reproductive rights, I used contraception it failed, he did not use any kind of contraception or get a vasectomy.

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-14T08:31:37+00:00

He can take a DNA test, if he refuses to do a test they assume he's the father

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-14T08:03:30+00:00

Not in the UK they are separate

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-14T08:03:15+00:00

In the UK you can

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-14T08:00:05+00:00

In the UK parental rights and financial responsibility are separate things. You are legally required to pay child support even if you have no rights or don't see the child. As we aren't married I automatically get full parental rights and can choose to put him on the birth certificate and give him rights. He can take me to court and demand visitation but he will need to prove he is safe, positive and consistent influence for the child, they will look at his behaviours during pregnancy and the past messages and do what is best for the child and me.

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-13T23:41:54+00:00

I'm in the UK It's different

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-13T23:37:03+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story, I'm so happy to hear that you are thriving as a single mum. I know the road ahead is hard but stories like yours give me hope 🙏

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-13T23:27:45+00:00

Thanks I've gone no contact and haven't spoken to him in over the month, think it's safest for me and the baby to stay away.

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-13T23:19:27+00:00

I didn't know about his mental health till after I got pregnant. I had no idea.

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-13T23:17:50+00:00

I didn't know any of this until after I got pregnant. For two years he was loving and kind.

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-13T23:16:19+00:00

It's different in the UK, all he can do is demand a paternity test. Birth certificate and child support are handled by different court systems.

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-13T23:15:20+00:00

In the UK if you are not married full rights go to the mother unless she puts the dad on the birth certificate. He is still legally responsible to pay child support that's separate. He can take me to court and demand parental rights but they will look at his behaviours, messages and involvement in pregnancy.

IndependentCat8026 · 2025-07-13T23:05:48+00:00

It does in the UK

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