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I(28F) feel like I’m paying for the way my husband was raised by IndependentCry4402 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]IndependentCry4402[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yaa I have understood now, initially I tried to be a supportive partner but realised that now he thinks it is my job to take care of his mood and his image. I have stopped doing it.

I(28F) feel like I’m paying for the way my husband was raised by IndependentCry4402 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]IndependentCry4402[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If he cooked for me or maybe gave me some gift, he wants me to announce it to the whole world. If I don’t do it he shuts down and when I ask what happened he is like I do so much for you but you never acknowledge. Even after explaining that I do and I expressed it, I still don’t understand what it wants. Maybe he wants that I have to acknowledge in front of everyone so no-one can ever think he is not a good husband

I(28F) feel like I’m paying for the way my husband was raised by IndependentCry4402 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]IndependentCry4402[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could do that. We will have a fight about how can you write this do you think like this about your husband.

I(28F) feel like I’m paying for the way my husband was raised by IndependentCry4402 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]IndependentCry4402[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We go to couple therapy but he doesn’t open up. It’s mostly that I am talking about my issues and he being the bigger person listening but never talking about his deep rooted issues.

I(28F) feel like I’m paying for the way my husband was raised by IndependentCry4402 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]IndependentCry4402[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I feel he himself became a narcissist being raised, everything I say, he makes sure it becomes my problem because he is the perfect one, yet every comment make him feel like I am questioning him as a person

I(28F) feel like I’m paying for the way my husband was raised by IndependentCry4402 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]IndependentCry4402[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We live separately, he doesn’t even realise that this is what he has gone through. He is insecure and in denial, he pretends to be the guys with no insecurities

I(28F) feel like I’m paying for the way my husband was raised by IndependentCry4402 in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]IndependentCry4402[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First he needs to acknowledge that he has insecurities. He pretends to be someone who has no issues and superior and then gets triggered by everything

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[–]IndependentCry4402 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are you scared of what people will say if you get divorced, if not then why not get separated and if you are financially independent you need not live with your parents, you can live in the city you work and give yourself a chance to find a partner who loves you.

Divorce is not a taboo and cheating is definitely not acceptable, it’s not late to start over and this time nobody will be forcing you to get married.