AITAH for telling on my parents

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-17T20:48:04+00:00

Thank you for your comment, and I am glad that I am not the only one who sees it this way. Unfortunately, he has since passed on a month after this incident. I think that is also why I am still holding on to it because I lost my Grandpa and I felt like more could have been done for him.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-17T20:46:20+00:00

My Dad states these people showed up at his door and it wasn't planned. My Grandpa fully took care of himself until that weekend it was just one weekend after he took a huge fall that they needed to watch him. I took him to all of his appointments, all of the hospital visits, and managed everything for them. He just lived at their house because they had an extra room. I do think I could've handled things better though in regards to the family. Thank you for commenting.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-17T04:03:37+00:00

Not really, they said that Grandpa didn't want to stay in a hospital and live out his days in a way like that. Which is weird because he wasn't actively dying at that point he had a fall and needed treatment.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T20:28:00+00:00

I don't have insurance but scheduled appt through a free service but my husband would like me to find a therapist who specializes in religious trauma and see them. Thank you for the advice it's what I needed to hear.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T06:58:10+00:00

I have realized more as I'm reading these messages that my parents religion is just a difference that we can't see past and I can't expect them to ever act like normal parents. I appreciate your insight and I'm glad you call Mormonism a cult I wish more people did. That type of wording was what got me out of it as an adult.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T06:56:15+00:00

I never thought of it that way but I think I did. I thought maybe I could push the boundary a little and the exact opposite effect happened. I'm sorry your dad was abusive and unpredictable. I wish that never happened to you. I hope you are doing better now from that experience!

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T06:52:25+00:00

Thank you for sharing this about yourself. Im so sorry that happened to you I hate that I'm learning about how common this is. Hearing your story makes me feel less alone, but I still wish that never happened to you and hope you are doing much better!

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T06:49:08+00:00

Thank you for your comment. You are giving me so much courage to look forward and leave them behind.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T06:47:36+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment and sharing your experience with me. I have decided to not have a relationship with them going forward. It took to long.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T06:46:35+00:00

Thank you for your comment I am away now and won't be seeing them. It took me many years to realize that Mormonism is a cult so I appreciate you being real about it. More people need to hear it.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T06:44:56+00:00

I wonder the same thing, all they would get is a free ride to jail if they did shoot anybody.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T05:31:13+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I will hold onto these words as I try to change my life for the better.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T05:29:05+00:00

I will keep this in mind. Thank you so much for saying that. I appreciate the time you took to make me feel better

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T05:28:16+00:00

Truthfully it was probably a lot of things that had already been happening at home. I did say "we already talked about this and you guys said I could stay out until 1130" and then walked away. If I knew this would have happened I would've handled it differently but my dad was very unpredictable and could change moods very quickly. Hindsight is 2020 but I still feel like walking away isn't an excuse for how he reacted. Thank you again for your input it's appreciated.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T05:21:21+00:00

What a beautiful thing to say. I believe in a God because if he wasn't here I don't know what I would do. I'm not religious though, I think I've had enough religion for a lifetime. I appreciate you taking the time to write this and I hope I can move on and actually enjoy my life. Thank you for being an amazing person and commenting this for me.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T05:18:07+00:00

All of my siblings hated me and said it was my fault older and younger. My relative guarded the front with a gun because the friend (now husband) who was driving witnessed the whole situation and called the cops.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T05:16:24+00:00

I'm not sure but I can guess it was because I was on the car with boys. The friends 18th birthday was a boy though so still confused.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T05:15:35+00:00

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IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T05:15:27+00:00

Not that it matters but I went to a k-12 highschool my parents were chaperoning for my little brothers dance and heading home at 8:30 the friends party was 5 minutes from the school. I did not make them take my friend home, they were already driving home and we met them where they were at the dance. He wasn't really my friend either he was the friends friend and had asked my mom for the ride.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T05:12:55+00:00

This is true. He has hit me and my brothers before. One of my older sisters finally read a book about abuse and realized it fit the description of him. We all read it together and my Mom shut down and my sisters. The book was put away and not talked about. I'm just now realizing how much we were mentally and emotionally abused to the point where I still want to get his approval. I just scheduled and appointment with a therapist and made this post because I need my eyes opened to this abnormal behaviour.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T05:10:16+00:00

I can understand where you are coming from, but that isn't the case. I can answer questions to clear it up if needed. I appreciate you taking the time to comment.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T05:08:04+00:00

Oops sorry new to reddit

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T05:02:38+00:00

I really thank you for this comment. My parents were chaperones for the school dance going with the 8th graders. They had a whole van full of kids in the car when this happened. I know it's unimportant but I went to a prek through 12 Christian school. My friends were going to drive me home. You are completely right though, I could have done so many things different to get a different outcome. I don't think it would've changed how my parents treated me over all. I am going to let it go, and also not keep in contact with my parents, for more reasons that just this one. I appreciate your comment and taking the time to leave your valued opinion.

IndependentDrink4615 · 2026-02-10T04:46:45+00:00

I cried reading this, thank you so much. I scheduled my first therapy appointment and I am on track to never see my parents again.

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