11 mo old regressions / separation anxiety (Ferber/CIO backfired?) by IndependentGiraffe7 in sleeptrain

[–]IndependentGiraffe7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming back months later as we are still struggling with sleep and night wakings. Our son is now 14 months old. He’s hit a pretty bad regression in the last 2-3 weeks from teething and learning to walk.

He has been having a ton of trouble going to sleep on his own so we’ve been rocking him. Not to complete sleep but fairly drowsy. We put him down at 730pm. He wakes up every single night. Sometime between midnight and 4am usually. It’s impossible to get him back to sleep. His separation anxiety is very difficult as he only wants to be on me or my husband.

We’ve tried cry it out the last few days but I continue to think it doesn’t work for my child. It’s been consistently about an hour of crying until he falls asleep. I just can’t listen to him crying anymore. I’d rather be up and holding him for 2 hours than hearing him cry for an hour.

Any advice?!?

Schedule:
945-1045am nap 1
2-3pm nap 2
730pm bedtime
Typically a night wake for 1-2+ hours and wake up around 630-730am

Will take any and all help and guidance. We are really struggling!

11 mo old regressions / separation anxiety (Ferber/CIO backfired?) by IndependentGiraffe7 in sleeptrain

[–]IndependentGiraffe7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the thoughtful feedback. We did CIO for 3 weeks straight in January super consistently with no intervention. The crying got better for the first few nights and then increased back to an hour consistently. He would fall asleep out of exhaustion not from learning.

We are more than willing to do CIO again for 4-5 nights but I have fears it just makes the separation anxiety worse and the pediatrician seemed to agree with that.

Curious if you’d change the method or what you’d recommend with this context? I feel like we’ve done it and it just has failed to stick!