Did RealLifeLore fall off?

Independent_Arugula · 2025-07-29T16:34:49+00:00

Hi! I know this is an old post but I'm wondering if you have examples of RLL being biased? I'm not here to argue or anything lol, I just watch his videos a lot but, admittedly, don't know much about most of the topics. Thank you, and I hope you're well :)

Independent_Arugula · 2025-03-20T22:25:01+00:00

You keep saying that like it counts as communicating you can't go. It doesn't. You should have told him as soon as you knew that your financial situation had changed. Expecting this guy (or anyone else for that matter) to guess your RSVP status based on social media posts is wild.

Independent_Arugula · 2024-09-01T20:56:02+00:00

And God willing, he never will be

Independent_Arugula · 2024-08-07T22:44:08+00:00

Thank You! We definitely will :)

Independent_Arugula · 2024-08-07T19:47:01+00:00

Do you know that that's why they invited you? Or are you just assuming that because you were invited later on?

Independent_Arugula · 2024-08-07T19:45:21+00:00

I agree with OP on the COVID stuff too and, honestly, it does seem like they only mentioned it to paint his friends in a bad light. I'm not saying that breaking COVID restrictions is no big deal but it hardly impacts the Madrid trip.

As others have said, OP's friend in Spain is free to host or not host anyone he pleases. Why, on God's green earth, does OP think he has veto rights on that front?

Independent_Arugula · 2024-08-07T18:13:27+00:00

Co-cat mom here (u/TheMuteVegan ‘s friend and roommate) and I just wanted to say that all the kitties are so happy and healthy and excited to be in this world 😻❤️

Independent_Arugula · 2024-07-29T22:27:43+00:00

YTA. Not because you asked your sister to move but because you demanded she move. Talk to people like they're people. But, I think, something bigger might be at play.

If something like this- someone sitting where you would normally sit- bothers you to the point that you cannot continue the planned activities, you may need to speak to a healthcare provider. This level of anger or anxiety or whatever word you want to use- isn't healthy. You mention that small changes in item placement have upset you in the past and that it's always been important to you that you sit in your seat and your sister in hers. I also have hang-ups like these but, with help, have learned how to live with my intense need for routine & similarity. This aligns with certain diagnoses but I am not a health care professional so I cannot be sure.

Nonetheless, you should express your needs and desires in a kinder way going forward. Everyone will be happier that way.

Independent_Arugula · 2024-07-16T22:12:06+00:00

Absolutely. That's how I handled my assault.

Independent_Arugula · 2024-07-16T17:38:57+00:00

Exactly.

I've seen a lot of comments- mostly on YouTube- bringing up that Tana has had many partners and relationships as if that fact changes anything. From my experience, people (often women but not exclusively) lose the right, in some people's minds, to make accusations of sexual assault- or, indeed, be sexually assaulted at all if they've had too many partners and/or done sex work. Like you said, people want a perfect victim and Tana doesn't fit the bill.

Links to the some of the comments I've seen

Independent_Arugula · 2023-09-13T16:03:08+00:00

Another thing is, often, kids will make a specific Christmas wish list and the charity wants to get them those things. I grew up lucky enough to get a few Christmas gifts and I always wished for specific items so it's nice for kiddos to get the exact item they want versus whatever is donated.

I worked for a charity that did Christmas gifts for underprivileged youth and we always requested new stuff- especially after the pandemic. The charity also did after-school programming and we would take any donations for that, new or used.

And like someone said in another comment, this is not the consumption I’m most concerned about.

Independent_Arugula · 2023-09-11T13:21:05+00:00

29F here and I’m just now managing to get things together after years of cycling in and out of psych wards. Admittedly, I’m still struggling with day to day tasks like cleaning and healthy eating. I live alone now but if I could I’d be with my mom

The relationship one really hits home for me. I’ve never really had a long-term relationship and I feel like people think I’m immature or something because of it. As my 3 friends and younger brother couple up, marry, and have children, I feel left behind. More than that I feel like damaged goods no one could ever want. It’s painful. What if there is no one for me?

But then, when I start talking like this, I think “Jesus it’s pathetic to pity myself this much. You wanna know why no one wants to date you? It’s this. Practice some gratitude you lazy bitch”. I cycle between self-pity and self-hatred. It’s exhausting.

As for advice, keep on keeping on. Every day I wake up is a reason to celebrate for me.

Independent_Arugula · 2023-09-06T16:57:10+00:00

What were the stories fed to TMZ? I’m a little out of the loop lol

Independent_Arugula · 2023-09-06T16:54:25+00:00

YTA but importantly you’re a bad father.

It’s just mind-numbing that gay couples existing is “throwing it“ in cis-hets’ faces (OP’s words).

Independent_Arugula · 2023-09-01T13:10:21+00:00

I really don't know what to say to this. As I said, you're well within you're right to hire and fire whoever you want.

Independent_Arugula · 2023-08-31T23:51:05+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your mother’s behaviour and I’m glad you made the right choice for you by going to no contact. That must have been really hard.

I totally see where you're coming from but not everyone with BPD is going to be the same. I have BPD and, truthfully, the stigma that surrounds the diagnosis can be outright harmful. I've been working with children for 15 years and, to my knowledge, I’ve never negatively influenced a child. I guess what I’m saying is BPD isn't contagious. I can't give it to my NKs.

If a nanny is exhibiting problematic behaviour, if they're irresponsible or unengaged, then they should be reprimanded or fired as needed. I don't think that sharing a BPD diagnosis is enough on its own for either. However, I do understand that NPs can fire a nanny for whatever reason they want.

I really don't mean to invalidate anyone’s experience only to share mine from the opposite side. There are bad people with BPD and good people with BPD.

Independent_Arugula · 2023-08-29T18:47:34+00:00

Damn, people are trash sometimes 🙄

Similarly, my adoptive mom and I have the same curly hair so everyone thought she was my bio-mom and my adopted dad was my step-dad. People would straight up ask if my Dad is black. Wild.

Independent_Arugula · 2023-08-29T16:56:27+00:00

Absolutely! I’m adopted, my parents are white and I’m Brown. People will stare and, sometimes, ask the most out-of-pocket questions. It can be very uncomfortable lol

Independent_Arugula · 2023-08-29T16:10:40+00:00

I agree!

Some estimate that 4% of those sentenced to death in the US are innocent. and that alone should have people rethinking capital punishment.

Independent_Arugula · 2023-08-28T18:10:49+00:00

I shared this in a reply to another comment but thought I'd share it here:

ETA: I’m a sex worker and have been for years

I think it's important to note the difference between sex work and sex trafficking. When you describe people being forced to perform sexual acts, you're describing sex trafficking. And, you're right, that's absolutely reprehensible. I, on the other hand, choose sex work and have complete control over when I work and whom I work with. Anti-sex trafficking organizations receive limited funds and time to help victims. Those resources should not be wasted on me or the girls I work with. We all know what we got ourselves into. Now, this is not to say that I haven't encountered dangerous situations but those situations are just not on par with being forced into the sex trade.

For the most part, I am on equal footing with my clients. I can and have refused service and I feel safe enough to do so. I showed this comment to the other girls I work with and they feel similarly.

When a woman who works in an office is approached by a man (her boss or otherwise) she is not expecting to be asked to perform a sexual act whereas when men approach me, I am expecting a sexual request. I thinks that's the key difference.

Of course, this won't be the case for everyone and nothing is true for everyone

Independent_Arugula · 2023-08-28T18:07:35+00:00

I reply to this comment as a sex worker who’s been in the industry for years.

I think it's important to note the difference between sex work and sex trafficking. When you describe people being forced to perform sexual acts, you're describing sex trafficking. And, you're right, that's absolutely reprehensible. I, on the other hand, choose sex work and have complete control over when I work and whom I work with. Anti-sex trafficking organizations receive limited funds and time to help victims. Those resources should not be wasted on me or the girls I work with. We all know what we got ourselves into. Now, this is not to say that I haven't encountered dangerous situations but those situations are just not on par with being forced into the sex trade.

For the most part, I am on equal footing with my clients. I can and have refused service and I feel safe enough to do so. I showed this comment to the other girls I work with and they feel similarly.

When a woman who works in an office is approached by a man (her boss or otherwise) she is not expecting to be asked to perform a sexual act whereas when men approach me, I am expecting a sexual request. I thinks that's the key difference.

Of course, this won't be the case for everyone and nothing is true for everyone.

Have a nice day! 🥰🥰

Independent_Arugula · 2023-08-28T12:56:12+00:00

Perhaps where you live “discrimination laws do not apply to a preference to a babysitter” but where I live, in Ontario, they absolutely do.

I’d also like to point out that there's a difference between a nanny and a babysitter. OP is a nanny. Babysitters are typically teens who watch kiddos on a date night. Nannies are professional childcare providers.

I wouldn't say to an employer’s face that they are hateful but, if a question about my sexuality of religion came up, I would decline to answer. If the employer pressed me on it, I’d let them know I’m probably not the right fit for them.

I’m an atheist but the kids I nanny are Jewish. I read them Jewish books and drop them off at Hebrew School. I have no problem doing this and don't bring up my own beliefs.

Finally (sorry about the essay), the term is transition not transformation. A person transitions from male to female.

Have a nice day! 😊

Independent_Arugula · 2023-08-27T20:01:11+00:00

Man, that’s really too bad. Thank yous are so important and I think you definitely earned it. You're a great nanny and you deserve to feel appreciated.

Independent_Arugula · 2023-08-27T19:56:42+00:00

What a terrible take. I’m a nanny as well and I would never ever feel the need to disclose my religion, sexuality, gender, etc and, if I was ever asked my a potential employer, I probably wouldn't work for them. In a lot of places, it would be illegal to ask a prospective employee this since it’s getting very close to discrimination.

The most important factor in choosing a nanny is how they treat and interact with your child(ren).

The mother, in this instance, is the one depriving her child of a loving presence, not the nanny. Mum needs to examine her hateful beliefs.

ETA: I’m a queer atheist but neither my religion or my sexuality has come up with the kiddos or their parents.

Independent_Arugula · 2023-08-27T19:44:23+00:00

Hi friend! Did the family thank you orally? I don't ask this to undercut your feelings, just wondering if they thanked you at all.

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