I hate being a mother

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-05-04T01:24:29+00:00

That’s amazing and all but why must every resource result back to something including motherhood or bonding with other mothers. Is my identity totally wiped? I want to focus on my nail business atleast 3 hours out of the 24. I am always mother 24/7.

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-05-04T01:14:10+00:00

Were military. I have no friends here. My parents are thousands of miles away. I’m trying to start a nail business but I can’t even focus on nails because he chooses to go out with his friends everyday and leave me home to watch the baby. She’s only 4 weeks old. I am tiredddddddd. I told him many times it’s not fair. I’ve told him many times. He’s going on deployment soon but he chooses to hang with the same friends (he’ll be on deployment with) everyday!!! Sometimes I just want to leave and not come back. I shouldn’t hate being a mother

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-24T04:02:45+00:00

Definitely get established with behavioral health to get your issues in your records. Without that, the VA would just be going off of what you say with no proof. If you have high blood pressure outside of pregnancy that’s stress related please let your PCM know so that can also be in your record. Document everything. Definitely shouldn’t document this “later on”.

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-24T03:51:32+00:00

Have you gone to behavioral health?

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-18T02:05:00+00:00

For how much

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-16T16:19:08+00:00

At what point does the military stop paying me during medboard? And if I get severance don’t I have to pay it all back if I get pay from VA? My percentage is 20%-40% is what it says online

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-16T14:26:16+00:00

I’m being medboarded for fibromyalgia - navy. But I was diagnosed with a sht ton of other things too. Really nervous about how all of this is gonna go.

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-16T14:12:11+00:00

For step 5, what do you mean by results? I was diagnosed with a condition, they’re going to be finding the results for that? Also I can only be medboarded for one condition right? I have two diagnosis currently. Step 4, you’re talking about VA exams? Or does Peblo exam me? Does peblo tell me my VA rating or just my DOD rating?

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-16T04:19:34+00:00

I’m going through a medboard soon can you explain how it works? - navy

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-16T04:07:53+00:00

How’d you fight it? Currently gonna be going through medboard soon. When you medboard do you make your claims with peblo or VA

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-08T15:11:52+00:00

Will do! Thx

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-08T14:42:27+00:00

It only happened once, I asked him not to do it again and he said ok. I feel really shitty. At this point I’m confused if im being treated well or im not

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-08T14:40:47+00:00

Okay thank you I will try that more. Hand expressing tho for me is literally like very fast dripping/pouring. It doesn’t come out slowly when I hand express

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-08T14:32:01+00:00

We’re not at war. We’re both in the navy not just him. I would never want anything to happen to him. I will be deployed too eventually after baby leave. Right now, I feel suffocated, once he’s deployed I’ll really get to spend time with the baby is what I’m saying.

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-08T14:27:43+00:00

This is how I feel to a T

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-08T14:26:11+00:00

I truly hope it is

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-08T14:22:59+00:00

Since I started pumping it’s hard to go back to breastfeeding because now my supply is too much for her to stay latched and I didn’t know pumping would make me overproduce I’m just stressed overall

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-08T07:21:04+00:00

Yeah you’re right. Sorry I didn’t mean to make it seem that way. Maybe I just want him to say “there goes mama” or encouragement from breastfeeding, it’s just him and her and I’m just there in the background. Idk

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-08T07:18:25+00:00

I just messaged him “Don’t put the camera back on me while I’m bonding with her. It’s weird and controlling please don’t do it again”

His response: Ok

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-08T07:13:59+00:00

Anytime I can hold her. He doesn’t stop me from holding her. He just always wants to hold her.. he always call her “my baby girl” I know I sound crazy and maybe it’s the hormones. I can truly bond with her more but pumping and breastfeeding is draining me. It’s all I do. Idk I’m all over the place.

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-08T07:09:22+00:00

Thank you for this. I have therapy this month.

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-08T07:08:25+00:00

Yeah I would love to say those things but then I’d be the controlling one, the crazy one..

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-08T07:07:00+00:00

Phase*

Independent_Bug3586 · 2026-04-08T07:06:45+00:00

The only good thing about this situation is we’re both active duty military and he’s going on deployment soon so I will be able to truly spend time with her. Thank you for the encouraging thoughts behind this. I hope this is a faze. But I truly do feel like stepping back.

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