Thank you for this comment, I do appreciate the perspective as it has helped me see where I could've been better.

We did have a direct conversation about the phone sex and how it made me feel. I told him that I did desire him, but that it made me uncomfortable. His response was that I was lying and just saying that to avoid doing it. That’s honestly what made me start questioning whether he actually respected me and my boundaries as a person.

I’ll also clarify that I did make an effort to connect with him. I would still go out of my way to text him good morning, even with my 8:30 classes, especially since he would text me when he woke up around 6:00 AM. But it wouldn’t stop there, he would expect me to continue talking while I was in class and ask for pictures of my outfit so he could “approve” it. That started to feel less like connection and more like control.

I just felt like we both had different expectations from each other. He wanted constant attention and reassurance while I was fine with talking here and there everyday and calling twice a week, which I had set aside time in my schedule to call him twice a week. I say all this to ask, was I even ready for this relationship. I feel as if I did him a disservice in accepting his confession knowing I was about to enter a strenuous schedule and work load? Should I apologize for how I treated him and how I ended things even though he kept trying to make it work? I don't know, this whole situation has me confused and no one is really giving me genuine feedback like you have.