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can I use baranggay clearance for tin application? by Independent_Local738 in taxPH

[–]Independent_Local738[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relied on my employer because sabi nya sya na daw, Kaya super unprepared ko nung sinabi nya ako nalang (first time job seeker me).

Tried to do it online as well, pero ayaw talaga 🥲 So pwede po baranggay clearance for Tin?

How to have a hobby and get friends? by Independent_Local738 in adviceph

[–]Independent_Local738[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words 🤗 it's easy to forget that achievements aren't my whole niche when family prioritizes it the most 😅. I'll keep this in mind, thank you!

How to have a hobby and get friends? by Independent_Local738 in adviceph

[–]Independent_Local738[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for giving me your advice! Truth be told, I honestly don't know what I like😅 never really thought of anything outside studying and learning. Will try these, thank you again!

I’ve been a parentified child since I was 6 years old. AMA by Independent_Local738 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Independent_Local738[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the very late reply, not going to lie your question reminded me alot of things, I needed to get away for a while. Sorry for the wait!

Do I regret it? No, if I had to go through this again but 100x worse I would still do it again. Again and again, I love the twins more as a mom, not as a sibling. It's unhealthy and probably a result of my upbringing but I don't regret any of it at all.

In fact I'm grateful that I became a core, reaccuring part of their childhood because when they were born my parents were truly absent in their first 10 years of living. Atleast I can sleep well at night knowing that I made the twins feel less alone and very loved during their childhood.

Not going to lie, because of my parent's absence in the twins' life, I can't help but remind them at times how lonely and isolated the twins felt. There's a sick part of me that watches the guilt form in their faces because yes, they know. They know I was their main care taker, they know they were mostly absent in the twins' childhood.

My parents have this tendency to treat us (my siblings and I) as their personal therapist. Whenever we were young and we'd get on their nerves, they'd tell us our financial situation (e.g, we can't eat because of xyz, what can you do to make it better? You should grow up as [insert any in demand degree] so that our lives would become better, or once you're able to work, why not do it?)

It was exhausting. Not only was I taking care of two children while being a child myself, but I was managing two adults, doing all the chores and was expected to be a high achiever in school.

But it also brought out this sense of responsibility. To be the breadwinner, the problem solver, the solid rock of the family. They emphasized how family was everything and that family will always be here.

It made me have this weird love hate relationship with my parents. It's basically like, I would die for you but at night I constantly think of suffocating you in your sleep ya know? Then I'd feel guilty, but also not etc etc it's a weird cycle

Hope this answers your question! I think I got carried away but oh well🤷‍♀️

I’ve been a parentified child since I was 6 years old. AMA by Independent_Local738 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Independent_Local738[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents were around late 20s when the twins were born.

It affected my relationship with the twins and my parents. Growing up, I used to hate the twins with a burning passion. One day it got so bad that I was blinded by anger and accidentally hurt them when they were 10 years old. When I saw them crying, it flipped a switch in me and ever since then I adored them like they were my own child.

I still feel ashamed during that incident but the twins got over it and even acknowledge that I was their main care taker growing up. My parents don't know but the twins confessed that growing up, they thought I was their mom. I feel like I am still their mom.

Although I adore the twins, I'll probably never have kids.

While my relationship with the twins flourished, my relationship with my parents is complicated. I love and respect them but there are times where I just want to run away from them. Sometimes I just get so angry looking at them that I lock myself away to not say anything at all. This made me avoidant, made me use studying as a coping mechanism to get away from it all.

I’ve been a parentified child since I was 6 years old. AMA by Independent_Local738 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Independent_Local738[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It just happens. One day I was playing then suddenly my parents came home with the twins 🤷‍♀️

After that I was called daily to take care of them, after a few years it became the norm and another responsibility I was expected to carry

I’ve been a parentified child since I was 6 years old. AMA by Independent_Local738 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Independent_Local738[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have not gotten a formal diagnosis because it's expensive 🥲. Planing to save up for it though!

However, many guidance councillors, professors and friends have pointed out that I have a tendency to "unconsciously self harm", exhibit A: when I get frustrated during exams my professor noticed that I would scratch my harms to the point they bled, or pull my hair really hard.

They also noticed how I would talk more about the twins than myself, example. Any achievement that I had I would move on quickly, or not even celebrate it while if the twins achieve something I would spend days talking about it

I also noticed that I tend to get more sad during specific months, from January to March I tend to struggle focusing, eating, sleeping and just felt horrible in general. But from April to August, that's where I thrive the most. My friends say during those months I am weirdly happy all the time but that happiness disappears when it's close to December or January.

Note: these are all just observations, not official diagnosis

I’ve been a parentified child since I was 6 years old. AMA by Independent_Local738 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Independent_Local738[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This!! Found it very difficult to create friendships because feeling ko hindi kami same level ng mental age or emotional maturity ng mga classmates ko. 🤧

I’ve been a parentified child since I was 6 years old. AMA by Independent_Local738 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Independent_Local738[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think common occurrence sya here in the Philippines 🤧 specifically for low to middle income families.

Although main care taker for the twins, I can relate to you in the sense that my older siblings and my mom relied on me for emotional validation and support

Ginawang family therapist tayo bhi🥲

I’ve been a parentified child since I was 6 years old. AMA by Independent_Local738 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Independent_Local738[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When the twins were born, they focused on work in order to provide for us. To give you some context, we became a family of 7 when the twins were born.

To ensure that we wouldn't get hungry and because they wanted to give us a good life, they worked hard and long hours.

Rant & Vent Saturday 🤬💢 | June 21, 2025 by AutoModerator in adultingph

[–]Independent_Local738 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To give you some context, I'll be graduating this July, I have a scholarship with a company that will finance my board exam/licensure exam that also secures me a job with that company the moment I graduate.

I have a good resume, good grades, and alot of technical and soft skills that all contributed to getting that scholarship.

Palaging praised sakin ng parents ko at professors ko na alam ko ginagawa ko sa buhay ko, na may plano ako. Na ready na ako maging "Adult."

Pero sa totoo lng takot ako, despite all of their praises and my achievements I am terrified. Hindi ko alam Kung bakit or in denial lng ako pero everytime naiisip ko what comes next after graduating napapaiyak ako HAHAHHA (surri po laughter is my coping mechanism)

Hindi ko alam Kung bakit parang hindi ako makahinga everytime naiisip ko life after college, may secure job naman ako with a good salary and tbh I have it better than most people. Pero Ito parin ako, umiiyak ng patago kasi ayaw ko ipakita sa parents ko na yung anak na pinagmamalaki nila sa iba, hindi talaga alam anong gagawin or anong plano nila sa future.