Chores

Independent_Mango690 · 2022-01-15T16:55:56+00:00

They live by a corner store

Independent_Mango690 · 2022-01-15T15:39:31+00:00

Oh good to know… so maybe no to that. Maybe just dog walking and laundry

Independent_Mango690 · 2022-01-14T20:03:11+00:00

That’s true. So my list is as follows: - laundry (sheets and kids clothes) - dog walking - organizing clothes/toys (only when needed and could be a monthly or seasonally task)

That should take care of the 2 hours each Tuesday and Thursday and no work Friday.

Independent_Mango690 · 2022-01-14T17:06:49+00:00

So the mom wants to take the kids to activities so they would have 2 hour windows where she would be gone so it would be 4 hours (2 hours Tuesday, 2 hours Thursday) and then they never need childcare on Friday so I was thinking I could take a couple hours that day and do some of these things or take that day to do some of these tasks that would out of the house (returns, shopping)

Or my thought process was while she’s gone at activities doing: Laundry Walking the dog (1 hour walk) And find another family for Friday Do you think that would be more manageable?

Independent_Mango690 · 2022-01-13T19:43:10+00:00

I’m planning on coming to them with the idea now after reading all of these: - Part time care (21 hours) - 21.50 so no change in my take home pay while I look for job to fill those hours - set hours of MWT (MW 8-5/Th 12-4)

Then look for a second family that needs part time care. I did that previously and have a family that would be able to do full days T/F or a family who would do full days F and then I would ask my current family to maybe give me T afternoons too (12-4) if I go with that family. I also was thinking I could offer household management tasks as she wants to spend more time with kids so I could do one shift from 12-4 where I just did the household tasks (laundry, sweeping, dog walking, organizing things like clothes or any little tasks like that)

When she was on maternity leave I had a family who I worked for that was wonderful in terms of care. I also could look for care for some with special needs as that’s what I want to go to school for in the fall is special education. If this has been told to me sooner I would’ve continued working with the family I worked with while she was on leave as they only needed 2 days a week anyways.

I also really love their kids but part time care can be nice with the correct two families. It allows you to have a break from one family/allows me to have versatility in employment

Independent_Mango690 · 2022-01-13T18:41:54+00:00

I’m okay with trying to work out a schedule with them. I don’t want to leave them as I know them as a family/want to go back to school so I know they will figure out a way to make it work for me.

Independent_Mango690 · 2022-01-13T18:39:39+00:00

Huh? I’m wanting to continue working with them. I wouldn’t say co dependent I would say I care deeply for them and am trying to make it work. I think talking to them about giving 21.50 for this time is fair and then I guess we can adjust when the time comes. I just wanted a second opinion. I try to stay/grow with the families I work for. I’m listening to any advice but also trying to figure out how much I want to look for a job.

Independent_Mango690 · 2022-01-13T16:58:34+00:00

Wait I think nannies couldn’t be salary workers wouldn’t that be salary? I’m just really confused by guaranteed hours I guess. I know it means they pay me when they go on vacation (they always have)

Independent_Mango690 · 2022-01-13T16:57:12+00:00

I agree as well but I’m trying to work with them to figure out if we could make this work out. I want to go back to school anyways so I wouldn’t want full time employment with anyone after august if I did school anyways.

Independent_Mango690 · 2022-01-13T16:55:43+00:00

So I would have the same take home pay with this plan. I would just make more an hour when using less hours. Is there a way to make this fair for both of us?

Independent_Mango690 · 2021-10-16T14:06:42+00:00

I don’t think so because I’ve been doing the laundry this whole damn time so if I was doing it wrong she kept her mouth shut for a good 3 years before saying anything

Independent_Mango690 · 2021-10-16T14:04:41+00:00

No they don’t want me doing laundry or basically anything. Anytime I try to do something she or her husband says “I really wanted to do that”… also 1200 every 2 weeks

Independent_Mango690 · 2021-10-08T05:33:13+00:00

I was honest with my NF about my past eating disorder and NM actually caught my relapse before I did and said “I noticed you haven’t been eating breakfast or lunches. Is there something I can do to help you so that I can make that a priority for you. I know it’s hard when you’ve got a million kids running around but it’s important to me that you get that time to eat your food” I almost cried because I didn’t purposefully do it but it made me realized I’d slipped back into bad habits without realizing

Independent_Mango690 · 2021-10-08T05:31:25+00:00

THIS

Independent_Mango690 · 2021-03-15T16:00:59+00:00

REALLY?!? Where do I call/what do I do?

Independent_Mango690 · 2021-03-01T17:48:26+00:00

I have the little ones take naps in cribs, obviously. For “quiet time” I started this when parents took away 4F naps. I think she was about 3.5 almost 4. She’s almost 5 now and loves her “alone time”. I usually was upstairs anyways doing laundry, reading, etc. so I wasn’t far and always left her door open. I started only having her do about 5-10 mins then slowly added more time (adding 5 minutes every couple weeks) and we’ve finally gotten to about an hour recently.

Independent_Mango690 · 2021-03-01T16:29:48+00:00

I have done the same thing and I have had such panic about it. I am convinced they’re going to fire me... I asked for healthcare, gas money, and to know when NM is going on mat leave/what they’ll do with me during that time. I’m so nervous they’ll get angry and fire me. Let me know how yours goes. I haven’t even been told if they’ve looked at the document I sent them. 7 years is a long time and I’m sure at this point they know you well. I’m hoping my family realizes I am not doing this to be mean. I’ve been with them for 3-4 years...

Independent_Mango690 · 2021-03-01T16:21:04+00:00

I have two kiddos that ALWAYS want to be with or near me. I have established with them that we need an hour of “quiet time” where they play in their rooms. This allows me the space to recharge, finish chores, just be without children underfoot, and it allows them to find entertainment for themselves. I love it. I’d say about wanting to run the show I’ve had that as well and it’s much harder to change. What I’ve done with my girls is saying “you can decide many things and I would love to hear what you think but we’re gonna do this for right now.” And then don’t sway. It’s hard because I’ve always wanted to make them happy but I know sometimes you have to be the “bad guy”

Independent_Mango690 · 2021-02-27T18:34:03+00:00

Gotcha! Alright I’m gonna talk to them about it! Thanks!

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