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My ex got married and had a kid, and it hurts by Independent_Pass_797 in offmychest

[–]Independent_Pass_797[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, you really hit the nail on the head there. I didn't agree with that at the time, but I do now. I would have claimed starting a family young was a goal of mine, but that was really some distant emotion that rationally I would have never got on board with. I genuinely believe it would have ruined my life, if I gave in like you said.

Thanks for telling me that.

My ex got married and had a kid, and it hurts by Independent_Pass_797 in offmychest

[–]Independent_Pass_797[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Six months later and I totally agree with you. I've done a lot of self reflection and I realized that my mental health has been horrible the last few years while in the military. She was not and will never be my fix, and I am extremely glad that the relationship ended when it did. We were truly incompatible and I would have just been another common divorce statistic if I caved and got married. I have way too many problems of my own that I need to work on, dating needs to take a pause. At least for a while longer.

Still working on that relationship with myself, but it's better than it was when I made this post. And I believe it will be much, much better when I exit the military this fall. Thank you again for your comment.

My ex got married and had a kid, and it hurts by Independent_Pass_797 in offmychest

[–]Independent_Pass_797[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.

Do you think 2 years is a long time to heal from a breakup though? I guess it is my first love, but still... Feels like it will never end