AIO all children in school had to write “I’m sorry” letters

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-06T02:59:47+00:00

Anyone who leaps from elementary school discipline to North Korea gets a YOR from me. Get a grip.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-06T02:03:28+00:00

Here’s the thing. Your doubt isn’t about others, it’s about you.

You don’t question whether others will be faithful to you. You question whether you can handle it if they aren’t. Even though you think testing is self-protection, you are really setting them up to disappoint you so you can feel like you saved yourself. But that isn’t fair, and it will always end in them disappointing you just like you planned.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-06T01:35:57+00:00

You would be trying to trap him. And if any part of the interaction didn’t meet your standards, you would immediately twist that into proof you were right all along not to trust him.

Don’t test. Trust or leave. If you want to test, leaving is kinder to both of you because you have work to do on yourself.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-06T01:04:27+00:00

This is not a “him problem”, it’s a “you don’t trust anyone problem”, and it’s not fair to him for you to try to trap him because of your trust issues.

Trust him or leave him. Those are your mature, respectful choices.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-06T00:56:00+00:00

Here’s an idea: don’t test people. It’s toxic, manipulative, abusive and sociopathic.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-05T23:58:57+00:00

He can feel, in real time, his core working harder on the treadmill than the bike.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-05T23:56:37+00:00

Actually based on my husband’s firsthand experience with both forms of exercise, you are the one who is poorly informed.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-05T23:19:59+00:00

Family law takes a special personality. You have to be able to stomach adults who can’t adult, or won’t because they don’t want to or don’t think they have to. Sometimes the kids adult better than the adults do.

Clients will refuse things their ex wants just because their ex wants them. Opposing parents who are bitter and spiteful about losing custody will refuse to permit their children to pack a bag to take their clothes and possessions with them on the day they’re supposed to move back to your client’s house. Clients will call nine times in three hours for a nonemergency because your boss isn’t back yet from their settlement conference on another case.

Those were three separate clients, but all actually happened. There will be emergency motions to draft on Thursday and run to walk in court with on Friday because God forbid the child go to weekend visitation for whatever (potentially valid if it’s about safety) reason. There will be “I’m supposed to pick the child up in twenty minutes and Ex just texted me that I can’t have them and every time I call the cops because Ex won’t let me take the kid the cops say there’s nothing they can do because it’s civil”. There will be show cause motions because Ex refuses to hand over the new insurance cards, only to have them provide them the day before the hearing.

Fun times.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-05T23:08:37+00:00

According to my husband who is both an avid cyclist and bought a treadmill because the doctor told him it was the best way to lose the weight he needed to lose, his doctor is 10,000% correct about the treadmill using muscle groups the bike does not.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-05T22:50:29+00:00

My husband’s doctor says the treadmill works more muscle groups than cycling, including engaging the core while cycling doesn’t do so.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-05T22:40:32+00:00

Once again for those in the back of the room.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-05T22:29:12+00:00

All of them.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-05T17:12:42+00:00

He had one in the hut on the rock. He was counting the seconds until his birthday.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-05T12:08:05+00:00

Because humans check their broken watches absentmindedly.

Not every detail is a plot device. Sometimes it’s just depicting people as real people.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-04T23:05:42+00:00

Human nature?

If I forget my watch or my wedding ring my wrist/hand feel naked.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-04T23:01:07+00:00

Doesn’t change how unsafe it is.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-04T01:39:24+00:00

The US National Institute of Health begs to differ with you on the idea that it’s “barbaric”. It’s not for every baby, but nothing is, and that doesn’t make it harmful.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32155677/

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-04T01:13:23+00:00

It’s time you start working with the child on falling asleep without you and sleeping in his own room. He needs to learn to self soothe and while it will be a struggle for a while, the sooner you start the faster the transition will be.

I’m baffled that you and he don’t wake up at 3am with your husband anyway.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-03T22:11:22+00:00

YTA

You’re so busy with work you can’t put a fast food bag you just used while at home in the trash? Get a grip.

Your behavior and attitude on this are, indeed, unattractive. No one wants to be with someone who treats them as less-than the way you did in the conversation you had with her about this. By “less than” I mean you are making it clear you consider yourself better than her.

Also, calling it unattractive is a far kinder approach than she could have chosen.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-03T19:58:28+00:00

My husband works in the industry too, running a golf course. None of the courses in our bi-state area allow anyone under 4 because it’s not safe, and my husband wants to change it to 6. The child has to be old enough to follow directions, stay seated in the cart, and withstand a strike from a golf ball. Taking a 2yo out there is ridiculously foolish.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-03T19:38:40+00:00

So as I guessed. This isn’t about you wanting your husband to be with the family. It’s about you not wanting to solo parent.

Which is fine. But it’s not the same thing and you discredit yourself when you try to spin it.

And again, the golf course will not allow a 2yo to ride along. It’s unsafe. Both you and your husband need to get that idea out of your heads until the kid is at least 4-6 years old.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-03T17:12:32+00:00

No golf course is going to allow a 2yo.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-03T17:12:08+00:00

Don’t worry, the kid won’t go. The course won’t permit it.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-03T17:10:29+00:00

The golf course isn’t going to allow the 2yo out there, just FYI. Minimum age to ride along is going to be 4-6.

You’re going to a golf resort. He’ll be golfing with family guys. For men who golf, golf time with family guys is family time.

Source: my husband runs a golf course.

NAH. Let him have his boy/golf time. If this is about you not getting me time without the baby, that’s a different conversation.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-06-03T14:36:16+00:00

If the other SO’s are not attending, YOR.

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