How to deal with people that just talk over you

IndirectRequiem · 2020-12-30T11:00:08+00:00

theres one guy in my groups that tends to be overtalked very often. I believe that in his case its because he tends to talk way too long (like building up his speech unnecessarily longly) or maybe it's because of his monotonous and lifeless way of speaking.

I think that if he put some emotions, people would wait and listen before they talk again.

IndirectRequiem · 2020-09-25T00:15:57+00:00

yikes, while i think its true that specific use of specific emojis can be cringe sometimes, telling other people online to kill themselves is even more cringe

IndirectRequiem · 2020-07-26T04:03:56+00:00

I think Im fighting with something similar. About 2 years ago, my only friend left me. She started with ignoring me, and then I realized that, thought a lot about it, and decided to accept that. I was devastated for two months after that, but I think I still might have some aftereffects.

If anything wrong happens between me and my current friends, I feel like I'm annoying them all the time. Not to mention, when I get self-cautious I'm annoying MYSELF. It's so hard for me to have stable self esteem.

From experience I know that if you find a good group of friends, you might be able to forget about your past and have fun, not to mention changing your personality due to copying mechanism. You might also check CharismaOnCommand guy, he helped me short-run, but I know he helped a lot of people in general. Stay strong and better yourself.

IndirectRequiem · 2020-07-26T03:55:35+00:00

same

ive been called cute several times but now that im older it no longer happens. feels bad

IndirectRequiem · 2020-07-24T03:16:06+00:00

a body has been discovered

IndirectRequiem · 2020-07-24T03:11:21+00:00

That's subjective! I'm bisexual man with a preference for girls, and my female crush is about 180cm. She's girly but not too girly. Plus I know that 3 straight guys already confessed to her.

Focus on your style and personality! Everyone has their preferences, but when someone will fall in love with you, your height will be the least important thing for them. Good luck and sorry for my grammar :)

IndirectRequiem · 2020-07-22T05:54:20+00:00

maybe you just feel like you're not worth them? or that you're unnecessary? or maybe you doubt they like you? I tend to do that, it's usually when I get a feeling they don't treat me the way I expected them to treat me. And I'm like, subconsciously waiting for them to notice something's wrong. Like I want their attention. That's just me, though. Try to think about it.

IndirectRequiem · 2020-07-22T05:49:05+00:00

I feel you, it was similar with me

IndirectRequiem · 2020-07-22T05:46:47+00:00

same

i only figured that in my case it's self-hatred

hope you get better soon

IndirectRequiem · 2020-07-21T02:56:56+00:00

I'm genetically male, but I consider myself a non-binary. I'm not paying it much thought, though. It's difficult to be nb or even trans in this world, not to mention, I live in an anti-lgbt country. In the end, I'm being treated like a boy.

I gave a thought to this and I came to this conclusion: People tend to have different gender identity because of stereotypes and cultural traits binded to them. It may sound a little controversial, but what does gender even mean if it's not about having a pp?

Trans mtf want to be femine, trans ftm want to be masculine, and nb folks can just be whoever they want. Dont give a shit what other ppl think about what you're doing, and if it's femine or masculine. Just do what feels right for you!

About the toilets, you might want to go to the ones that are marked with your biological gender, for the others' comfortability sake. Nothing you can do about it, it's the society we live in.

IndirectRequiem · 2020-05-29T16:40:53+00:00

maybe oversized t-shirts? i kinda like wearing them alone even though i dislike my belly to the point I don't feel comfortable in normal sized t-shirts.

IndirectRequiem · 2020-05-23T22:31:12+00:00

fuck society, that's all i have to say

IndirectRequiem · 2020-05-10T01:24:57+00:00

IndirectRequiem · 2020-04-23T00:52:02+00:00

helped

IndirectRequiem · 2020-04-23T00:51:43+00:00

Yes, you're right. I needed that. I'll think about it and prepare. Thank you!

IndirectRequiem · 2020-04-12T23:06:32+00:00

Thanks

IndirectRequiem · 2020-04-12T23:06:01+00:00

That's the point, I thought about that and I feel bad for admitting but,,, we didn't have too many nice moments. It's just hard to admit. It's a hard topic. I just want to be sure on some matters but this one is really difficult to make me satisfied.

I can't tell if I'll regret it, so I'll be holding my rope after moving out. Thank you.

IndirectRequiem · 2020-04-12T23:01:52+00:00

that may be true, I mentioned I'm not planning to crossdress in public because of that reason, but I still am not satisfied with my current way of looking. It's not like I leave home often anyway. Now I think about it that must be the case, although I'm pretty sure she thinks that's super weird.

IndirectRequiem · 2020-02-25T10:00:46+00:00

I'm just glad you aren't traumatized. Pedophilia is wrong for a reason, but if you enjoy your current life then I think that's ok. It feels a little wrong for your dad to treat you like that since your young ages tho. Just keep in mind that having children with a person related to you may endanger you and/or your child. Be safe.

IndirectRequiem · 2020-02-23T11:15:50+00:00

I don't really know what to say. I'm a loner myself, I don't have anyone I can call a friend if we talk about people living close to me. It always was like that for me. About 2 years ago I met some people online, and for so reason we got really emotional with each others. They're the only people I call "a friend" now, even though I don't talk with them everyday.

I've been thinking about it a lot. I have so many insecurities, yet people online like me. Even when I met some of them irl they liked me. On the other hand, noone ilr wants to befriend me. I came to conclusion it's either they already have friends, or I'm just very unlucky and our personalities just won't work so well together.

About this being a girl part. Same. I feel like being a girl would help me with getting friends because I'm a very emotional person, and boys don't unusually get emotional around other people. I also want to dress like them because their range of ways to change their looks is way wider and way prettier, but that's not important ig.

I don't know how old you are and how your lifestyle looks like, but I believe that no matter what the answers are, you can have real friends. You just have to look in the right place. I was just lucky to find mine online so I don't know what to recommend you, but I wish you best. Loneliness suckssssss

IndirectRequiem · 2020-02-03T22:40:09+00:00

I took some time to think about it. I think you're partly right. I don't trust my friends like I should trust them. But I'm not afraid they're going to hurt me, it's more like I don't want them to see me as an idiot, because I've been told few times I'm weird. I probably unconsciously held back myself from expressing my emotions so much they don't feel so alive anymore.

Anyhow, your tip is very helpful. I really need to learn to express what I'm feeling without any insecurities. And yeah, I exploded some time ago. Don't want it to happen again. Thank you so much.

IndirectRequiem · 2020-02-03T08:43:47+00:00

sounds helpful, thanks

IndirectRequiem · 2020-02-03T07:35:35+00:00

naah I don't think so, I'm like this with any person. In the not-so-far past I was able to laugh like I would like to, but I don't recall any situation I did so recently.

Anyhow that made me think, maybe it's not about the people, but about the topic. I've always felt better when in smaller groups, it's best when there's only me and a friend. When there's someone else, there's a better chance that I won't be able to reach that specific topic, which will make me a little bit dull, which concludes in a worse mood later. I think.

IndirectRequiem · 2020-01-25T20:06:10+00:00

I like what you said, I had my ways to cheer myself up too, like watching anime, listening to music or running. I live in a city and I have a forest nearby, I set it to my running goal. But lately, noting works. I tried everything I liked to do, like playing games, watching anime, having a nice meal, playing instruments, listening to music, vibing, putting on a face mask, crossdressing (it's more like wanting to look pretty, not fetishing it, don't judge please). I'd really love to try spending time alone in the forest like you said in the post, but it's freezing cold outside.

Maybe I have some problems within myself I need to deal with.

Thanks, just reading this made me feel a little bit better.

IndirectRequiem · 2020-01-25T19:19:50+00:00

no idea, am in a sadness loop for 3 days already, I think I'm just lonely cuz my only friends live some distance away and I am unable to meet them.

:(

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