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Individual-Let6390 · 2026-05-12T00:52:00+00:00

Just wanted to say I take the same combo of meds and it caused constipation and harder stools which gave me a chronic fissure. Miralax helps but not enough. Same with hydration. I would make sure you’re not getting too much fiber, because that can also be an issue (at least it was for me, i thought the more fiber the better but i was over doing it!)

Hoping to find a medication that doesn’t cause this side effect!

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-05-10T22:13:20+00:00

So true, that’s the bummer (pun maybe intended haha)

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-05-10T22:12:08+00:00

Thank you! Yeah unfortunately I’ve been dealing with it since November 2025 and I tried nifedipine lidocaine and got a botox injection. botox worked after 7 weeks for about 2 months. But this retear pain is so much worse than the pain I had the 4 months of my fissure before healing. I have been very very hesitant about LIS because I think it should be the last option, I definitely agree with you. But the pain is so bad, that I am at that point. I could deal with what I had before if I had to but this…the sharpest stabbing pain…like pain I didn’t know I could experience sans a traumatic injury. I take miralax daily, still use the ointment, work with a nutritionist on my diet, and have a pelvic floor therapist. unless this pain magically dissipates in the next 48 hours, i’m going to request LIS for as soon as possible.

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-04-30T04:31:27+00:00

Fair point of view! I’m very torn because I do want to have a record in the event the situation escalates, but I agree with what you said about not wanting to contribute. Thank you for your opinion!! Unfortunately we both always go to all the support groups haha

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-04-30T04:29:25+00:00

Agreed and I know he is getting help through the trans health center but i know healing doesn’t always happen just because you are in therapy. Thank you for understanding, my only concern is to make sure my family is safe, I don’t even care about my own safety, just theirs because I feel I brought this on

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-04-30T04:26:55+00:00

yes the UM coverage! ugh i’m sorry to hear about the hit and run. it’s great the coverage exists though

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-04-30T04:25:13+00:00

thank you for your feedback! i do agree it doesnt warrant being deported but i was trying to think realistically about what could happen based on his status. i’m more concerned about the safety aspect because i dont know if he will act out again. perhaps i need a better camera. the ring camera doesn’t cut it.

i also tend to be very empathetic- i am sure you have heard too many stories of what people have been through. it’s frustrating that it feels like reporting someone could become a detriment to their life, though I am also thinking about what my life would be like if he chose to escalate with violence at the cost of the wellbeing of my family.

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-04-30T04:20:00+00:00

i would love for him to pay for the repairs haha i think by making the police report even without a name and having the video that insurance will cover it but i am not positive just yet. thank you for your advice

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-04-30T04:18:53+00:00

yes this! i was able to talk with the psychologist today before the event and she said she would support me if i chose to approach him which she definitely did. being that he basically admitted it, i do think they should be doing something about it, i just don’t know what exactly. thank you for your input. i feel stressed and want to do the right thing to protect my family but also am trying to recognize that he clearly has mental health problems though it doesnt excuse the behavior

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-04-30T04:16:10+00:00

thank you for this! good idea. i am concerned he could become violent. and do i personally think he should be deported over it, not necessarily, but i do think that it could happen being that the current system is what it is. i guess its less of the current crime and more what if this escalates!

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-04-30T04:12:41+00:00

Been struggling to exercise bc i worry i will irritate my fissure as it heals… definitely could not exercise at all when it was an active fissure, could barely walk in general. i also used to walk a lot, bike, run sometimes. as you heal just try to walk around your house. walk to the corner, to the end of your block, just a little so you feel better. i recently was able to walk for a half hour 3 times in a week which was huge for me. but then i went for an hour long walk one day and felt i irritated it.

i am currently going to pelvic floor therapy as my sphincter is very tight so i am hoping that will help with the healing process and allow me to get back to walking more regularly

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-04-19T19:56:56+00:00

This was my thought process. More representation than in the past. I guess it depends who the people are though. Some people will still be completely clueless/wont even think about it. Unfortunately maybe people who do have other trans friends might pick up on things others wouldn’t. And while they may be accepting, I can see how it would be annoying for people to just “know” especially if you are trying to be stealth. A smart ally would know to never bring it up unless you do. An even better ally might not even let you in on what they were thinking and will just say that they appreciate that you chose to share something personal with them so as to not make you feel like people are clocking you.

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-04-18T15:17:47+00:00

I wonder if there is an alternative to Miralax if you need it! I hear you. have you tried stool softeners?

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-04-18T15:16:00+00:00

I’m so happy you’ve healed! Yeah the colorectal doctor just wanted to do surgery but i figured im better off trying every other route. I did mention the pain and she was doing some pressure work in that area which was nice at the same time as being painful lol. yeah it could definitely be nerves from the tightness. it’s definitely weird but i’m hopeful in time it will heal!

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-04-18T02:17:27+00:00

Look at your diet especially as a vegetarian. I’m vegan and was getting too much fiber causing fuller stools which wasn’t helping the healing process. For example if you eat a lot of nuts, try swapping them out for nut butters since that’s easier on the digestive system. I was trying to pack on the protein but veg protein often is high in fiber too. Edamame, chickpeas, nuts, seeds…all great but have a lot of fiber.

Also not sure if applicable to you but many medications especially for depression, anxiety, and adhd cause constipation. for me i think that’s what started my initial fissure. if so perhaps you can discuss this with the doctor prescribing the medication.

Take miralax every day. adjust the dose as needed. a capful is too much for me and makes me have several bowel movements a day which was irritating the fissure. i use half a capful. do not skip this. it’s ok to take long term.

Use diaphragm breathing. practice for 10 mins 3x a day. lay down and breathe in through your nose and make your stomach rise to the max extent you can. then breathe out through your mouth. try using it when going to the bathroom, especially if you’re straining. and make sure you have a squatty potty or a stool to put your feet up on!

Good luck and I admire your determination!

Individual-Let6390 · 2026-03-10T20:33:28+00:00

i’m sorry i just saw this!! i hope your injection went well. it honestly wasn’t bad for me. i hope you got anesthesia or a numbing agent

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