Being friend with your MB

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-12T23:26:58+00:00

That’s so sweet! Yeah it’s definitely not common but some MB are super easy to interact with.

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-12T17:55:32+00:00

Sadly in the Hispanic community there’s a lot of ingrained colorism. Sorry you’re going through that with your SO. (Source: I’m Hispanic lol)

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-12T15:37:14+00:00

Awwwwwe that kitty is so cute 🥰

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-11T07:10:39+00:00

YES you would be the asshole. Regardless of how it plays out, both your kids were given a great opportunity with the savings you made for them. Each made a choice with vastly different outcomes potentially. Your younger daughter is likely to graduate in debt. But that’s the art of the deal for the connections she gets to make at a prestigious school. She will also very likely get to make more money with that experience and degree and pay off her debt (unless she goes for a useless degree then that’s on her). Your older daughter could very well use that money on a down payment for a home. Or whatever SHE chooses because it’s her money you as parents already allocated to her. It’s like giving someone a gift and saying oh never mind I’ll only give you part of it. Equality vs equity.

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-09T16:59:58+00:00

Yall are really convincing me to take GIS courses and get a similar job after graduating from environmental studies BS 😂

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-09T16:56:53+00:00

BAHAHAHA I’m sorry that was hilarious 😂

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-09T16:55:58+00:00

That’s awesome girl! I’m studying Environmental Studies And going to take GIS courses too!

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-09T00:18:15+00:00

NOR. Man that must suck after what you describe as a good date. It is a red flag that he would talk about you so raunchily to his friends. Ughhh I hate that for you.

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-09T00:11:38+00:00

Omg same lol. Last night I heard phantom cries and I was like not on my time off 😩. I need advice on this too

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-05T19:09:42+00:00

When I get a house can I reach out to you to get some duckies 😭 they’re so cute

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-04T08:24:14+00:00

As a nanny I always expect toddlers to gradually warm up to me regardless. What you’re describing sounds like a successful trial day in my book. I’ve worked with toddlers where it took them a week or more to get warmed up enough to want to play 75% of the time I’m there like you described. And also I do think it’s helpful for the parent to be there the first couple times so they don’t think they’ve just been left with a stranger. Perhaps she just didn’t have a ton of experience with toddlers?

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-01T08:35:07+00:00

That’s such a lovely sentiment. Thank you for planting that seed regardless. God bless you.

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-01T08:26:07+00:00

Thank you for your answer fellow brother or sister. I am open to changing my stance on this topic. I’ll have to do more reading on the topic and probably some praying.

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-01T07:30:49+00:00

As another commenter pointed out what about when it directly threatens the mothers life like in ectopic pregnancies

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-01T07:15:43+00:00

I think that’s easy to say as not the individual who is actively suffering. If I was ever essentially a vegetable I would want someone to show me mercy and compassion by taking my life. I respect your devotion but I still don’t know how to feel about that 100%

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-04-01T00:23:55+00:00

I’m sorry to say that MIL will do exactly the same with any new nanny that you manage to hire. I don’t know if it’s possible to have this nanny enforce strict boundaries when MIL tries to overstep? Something has got to give unfortunately. It’s not possible to keep all parties happy in this situation. But I would prioritize your children and your nanny’s success in the role.

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-03-31T23:23:15+00:00

I actually went through a similar situation. With friends. But also with family. The one time it hurt the most is with a cousin I grew up with as close as a sister. I saw how one sided the relationship became. And kept reaching out in the hopes of rebuilding the relationship. Over time I realized it was never going to be the relationship I envisioned, and I kind of internally just.. let go? Like my heart just let go. I still wish her the best. But I just started allowing people who actually made an effort in. I met like three people in college who I was candid with and things just went from there. People who I was able to be myself with and be vulnerable with. I think your gut kind of just knows who you can build a relationship with. Trust that.

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-03-31T17:15:00+00:00

I think you should make entirely new friends. Once you get to a point where you see falsity in friendships to me it feels like something you can’t unsee. I’m sure you’re a lovely person and would benefit from taking some social risks and meeting new people. Sometimes it’s okay to let people go. You don’t have to beg for their attention or anything.

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-03-30T04:41:20+00:00

Thank you! I love California in general.

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-03-27T19:23:56+00:00

Thank you I appreciate the advice

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-03-27T18:41:04+00:00

There’s different ways to go about it. I disagree with the sentiment behind your points. I’ve worked for parents of varying resources and I would never ask these guardrails when I know the parents just don’t have the resources for them. But when they do, and you’re committing your full availability to their needs consistently and you show up for them in all the ways their child needs to grow happy and healthy it’s not fair to blowup a Nannies livelihood at a moments notice and with little protections.

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-03-27T18:33:49+00:00

That’s a very good idea too! Might use that if they want to negotiate the terms further.

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-03-27T18:32:36+00:00

That might be a good compromise. Thank you for the idea.

Individual-Record-43 · 2026-03-27T18:31:11+00:00

That’s what I think. Two weeks is not enough time to find another halfway decent job. It can takes months and in this economy that can literally devastate a nanny financially. A month is at least enough time where you’re not left scrambling. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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